What type of father did you have?
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My dad is stubborn, loud, volitale, impatient, arrogant, and ruthless.
I inherited the stubborn, impatient, arrogant part, but i'm too chill and kind to be loud and ruthleess like him.
Everyone who knew me back them told me I was full of myself and I needed someone like him to tell me I wasn't shyt and keep my ego down.
Drop 25 in a AAU basketball game, he would be like "
"
Score a hat trick in my travel squad, ""
Get recruited for football ""
Get a network engineering job making more money then he's ever made in his life "
........ I'm proud of you son 
..... now give me some money 
"
I inherited the stubborn, impatient, arrogant part, but i'm too chill and kind to be loud and ruthleess like him.
Everyone who knew me back them told me I was full of myself and I needed someone like him to tell me I wasn't shyt and keep my ego down.
Drop 25 in a AAU basketball game, he would be like "
"Score a hat trick in my travel squad, "
"Get recruited for football "
"Get a network engineering job making more money then he's ever made in his life "
........ I'm proud of you son ..... now give me some money "He never went to high school but My father was a hardworking dude. Busted his ass to keep a roof over my head. He was a wisecracking mellow guy. Guess that rubbed off onto me. Relationship was great early on but I never had him to really help me make the jump from a boy to a man. But there was love but he was too clouded by his demons.
DJ Mart-Kos
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for me this is def true.
Around the time i got 20 my dad kinda became my best friend along with my twin brother.
triplehate
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I wouldn't trade my dad for anybody in the world. I love that nikka.
He also was a father figure for all my homies and cousins growing up, he still keeps in touch and checks on them even the ones I don't fukk with. Worked hard all his life, and him and my mom been together since junior high.
He always had a hustle sometimes legit (renting out his tents for kickbacks, reunions)
Other times....selling the directv cards with all the channels
He also was a father figure for all my homies and cousins growing up, he still keeps in touch and checks on them even the ones I don't fukk with. Worked hard all his life, and him and my mom been together since junior high.
He always had a hustle sometimes legit (renting out his tents for kickbacks, reunions)
Other times....selling the directv cards with all the channels
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My dad was a good provider, but he was very hands off when it came to parenting. Throughout much of my life we would go months without speaking. He tried to justify his absence by saying that my mom didn't want to be with him (they divorced when I was a baby).
I was too young to remember his cocaine addiction, of which he cleansed himself in rehab, but I vividly recall him smoking weed and drinking liquor. He never completely managed to give those up.
He was generous, good at cooking, and could be violently, stupidly protective of people he loved. I just wish he had spent more time with us. He never knew his father, but I know he often thought about meeting him, or possibly just meeting his father's family. I suspect that not knowing his father had something to do with his lax attitude towards parenting.
He was a good guy and I miss him a lot. However, I will be a better father to my kids, should I have any. I'll strive to be present and emotionally available.
I was too young to remember his cocaine addiction, of which he cleansed himself in rehab, but I vividly recall him smoking weed and drinking liquor. He never completely managed to give those up.
He was generous, good at cooking, and could be violently, stupidly protective of people he loved. I just wish he had spent more time with us. He never knew his father, but I know he often thought about meeting him, or possibly just meeting his father's family. I suspect that not knowing his father had something to do with his lax attitude towards parenting.
He was a good guy and I miss him a lot
. However, I will be a better father to my kids, should I have any. I'll strive to be present and emotionally available.
NobodyReally
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Attentive
Great provider
Proud
High standards
Funny
Thrifty
Great provider
Proud
High standards
Funny
Thrifty
My dad is a complicated man. Took me a long time to make peace with him.
He is 100% self made damn near from birth. His parents were around but they were illiterate. He grew up in real poverty. His dad had multiple wives so he wasn't really in the picture. Never really gave him that structure. So my dad never really had any boundaries or learned how to manage his impulses or treat people. Thankfully though he was smart as shyt, so he grinded his way into medical school and got his ticket out of Ghana.
He had 2 daughters out of wedlock and then married my mom. Objectively, I would say overall he was not a good dad. He provided, and the one thing he put above all else was our education, which I am 110% thankful for. But aside from that, he was a real dikk to my mother, an alcoholic, and just not a very proactive or engaged parent. Seems like the only times he got involved was when it came to our education, or when it was time to meter out beatings. When I was 12 I think I broke a speaker or something, and while my mom was in Ghana he beat me until I had a bloody nose. That was the last time.
Again though now I don't blame him. He still doesn't know how a family is supposed to operate and he has no understanding or control over his emotions. We've had multiple blow outs since I moved out on my own, and we haven't talked in like 2 years. But I am going to see if he wants to fly out to our house and reconcile. We are going to start having kids and I don't want this silly shyt hanging over my kids.
He is a huge part of why I find all this #GMB/#HOH shyt so silly. Say what you want about women but ultimately a man's destiny is in his own hands. You don't want kids out of wedlock, don't. You don't want to get married, don't. But if you have a kid, that kid is your life. Do right by them 200%. Treat people right. Accept responsibility for your decisions. Not doing all of these things has set my pops back so many times I've lost count.
He is 100% self made damn near from birth. His parents were around but they were illiterate. He grew up in real poverty. His dad had multiple wives so he wasn't really in the picture. Never really gave him that structure. So my dad never really had any boundaries or learned how to manage his impulses or treat people. Thankfully though he was smart as shyt, so he grinded his way into medical school and got his ticket out of Ghana.
He had 2 daughters out of wedlock and then married my mom. Objectively, I would say overall he was not a good dad. He provided, and the one thing he put above all else was our education, which I am 110% thankful for. But aside from that, he was a real dikk to my mother, an alcoholic, and just not a very proactive or engaged parent. Seems like the only times he got involved was when it came to our education, or when it was time to meter out beatings. When I was 12 I think I broke a speaker or something, and while my mom was in Ghana he beat me until I had a bloody nose. That was the last time.
Again though now I don't blame him. He still doesn't know how a family is supposed to operate and he has no understanding or control over his emotions. We've had multiple blow outs since I moved out on my own, and we haven't talked in like 2 years. But I am going to see if he wants to fly out to our house and reconcile. We are going to start having kids and I don't want this silly shyt hanging over my kids.
He is a huge part of why I find all this #GMB/#HOH shyt so silly. Say what you want about women but ultimately a man's destiny is in his own hands. You don't want kids out of wedlock, don't. You don't want to get married, don't. But if you have a kid, that kid is your life. Do right by them 200%. Treat people right. Accept responsibility for your decisions. Not doing all of these things has set my pops back so many times I've lost count.
my dad was a mixed between good and bad. He did a good job in terms teaching me how to be a good man and took care of us, but when it comes to discipline 
he was too much. But as he got older, he fell back a lil. My mom was worst though, but that's like most black parents.
MajorVitaman
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I love my Pops he has held me down since Day 1. Always gives me good advice I swear he's on some Negrodamus shyt cause he's right 99.9% of the time.
Blackout
just your usual nerdy brotha
That explains a lot
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Still FloW
Gawd Of Shinobi
maan.. mine was the most typical Nigerian dad you can imagine..
but man was he the best dad ever.. if you know about africa you know its not a safe place for rich folks, pops owned his own stock broking firm (its folded now tho )
but our house got raided and nikka was willing to lay his life down for us cause the panic room he built wasnt closing, thank heavens it closed at the last minute..
but all in all he's education oriented, i could be dying and he'll ask me if all my homework is done..
growing up all i did was read, sleep, eat and read again, maybe thats why i hate studying now.. haven't seen him in almost 7 years, he's in the motherland im in london..
but every great thing i was taught came from him, even though we've never talked properly, cant remember any proper convos we had, he was very african to the core, never told you he loved you but his actions showed it...
but man was he the best dad ever.. if you know about africa you know its not a safe place for rich folks, pops owned his own stock broking firm (its folded now tho
)but our house got raided and nikka was willing to lay his life down for us cause the panic room he built wasnt closing, thank heavens it closed at the last minute..
but all in all he's education oriented, i could be dying and he'll ask me if all my homework is done..
growing up all i did was read, sleep, eat and read again, maybe thats why i hate studying now.. haven't seen him in almost 7 years, he's in the motherland im in london..
but every great thing i was taught came from him, even though we've never talked properly, cant remember any proper convos we had, he was very african to the core, never told you he loved you but his actions showed it...
Indiglow Meta (R$G)
Ultra.
My pops is the type of nikka to run a rehab center and sell dope on the side. Run a bail bond business and do dirt or be up in dirt as to keep customers going. He's a good man and I love him...but that nikka is a fukking criminal.
