What y'all think about open Relationships??? Can they work??

[PikaDaDon]

I don't know about open relationship but the main three things you need for polygamy to work are:

1: You need to be wealthy.
2: You can't have a favorite wife.
3: Your wives all need to be friends with each other.

Once I get my money right I'll seriously pursue polygamy. Probably with some Caribbean/South American wives (don't see it working with American women).

 

[DaChampIsHere]

What you are describing does not seem like an open relationship.

I think that open relationships, swinging, etc. are all very much so things that can be maintained in a relationship so long as everyone follows the "rules" and people remain confident in their decision. I several friends who are in polyamorous relationships, open relationships, swingers, etc. and they all make it work for them.

Both parties have to be really opened minded, while also learning to shut the general public's opinion out because people will talk and try to fukk with your personal opinion of what's right, what's good, etc.

RED FLAG from your OP: I don't think the goal of an open relationship should ever start out as "We are just knockin' boots" or "We will eventually be together" though. What does that even mean? When will it happen? Who will lead that charge? What if the other person isn't ready? See, that's a bunch of stupidity off jump.

Open relationships, swinging, threesome, etc. only for people who are together, know that they love and are confident in each other, know that they want each other in the long run AND NOW but just view sex and sexual desire as something completely separate from that and trust each other enough to share that sexual space. An open relationship is not a "dating" or "pre-relationship"/test the waters phase or somethin'.

 

[Chris.B]

I could do it if I'm the only one screwing around.

Can't go to sleep at night knowing someone is piping my bytch..fukk no

 

[NotaPAWG]

Since were on the topic..

I came across this article a few years ago when I was really into anarchy and leftist politics

I don't think I could ever be in an open relationship but it sounds good in theory

Thought I'd share

www.filmsforaction.org/lawrence/news/infinite_relationships_relationships_without_bounds_or_boundaries_love_without_limits/

 

[Chris.B]

Since were on the topic..

I came across this article a few years ago when I was really into anarchy and leftist politics

I don't think I could ever be in an open relationship but it sounds good in theory

Thought I'd share

www.filmsforaction.org/lawrence/news/infinite_relationships_relationships_without_bounds_or_boundaries_love_without_limits/

It's every man's dream.
I don't see why any woman would want an open relationship.

 

[NotaPAWG]

It's every man's dream.
I don't see why any woman would want an open relationship.

For the same reason a man doesn't id assume?

 

[Chris.B]

For the same reason a man doesn't id assume?

A man can fukk as many women and not give a fukk, women get emotionally attached way too easily.

After the first stroke she wants to cook you dinner. Not all women but most women can't have casual sex but most men can.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Since were on the topic..
I came across this article a few years ago when I was really into anarchy and leftist politics
I don't think I could ever be in an open relationship but it sounds good in theory
Thought I'd share
www.filmsforaction.org/lawrence/news/infinite_relationships_relationships_without_bounds_or_boundaries_love_without_limits/

Damn, that is a good article

But slowly, not trusting the rest of the world, or the future in which we might not feel such wonderful things, we would build our relationship into a castle, to keep out the cold and dangerous outside world, and protect our passion by turning it into an institution. Sex, which at the beginning had been something that came more naturally and freely than anything else, became jealously guarded as the seal sanctifying our love relationship, as proof that it was different than all our other relationships.

I’m not trying to say that monogamous relationships are bad, exactly, but there are a thousand kinds of relationships, and we generally only permit ourselves to try one format, which seems ridiculous. Let’s explore a bit. Every time I hear about another wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend cheating and sneaking around, every time I hear someone speaking proudly about how (in the name of monogamy) he has managed to resist doing something he really wants to, every time I must listen to someone pathetically lamenting the feeling of being “trapped” in a relationship or unable to pursue her desires out of some kind of fear, every f*cking time I have to witness someone leering voyeuristically (“it’s ok to look if you don’t touch”), it makes me so furious about how we’ve trapped ourselves in this one-option relationship system, accepting these symptoms of suffocation as inevitable instead of experimenting with the other possibilities.

The world is infinite, and so are we—no amount of living, no number or depth of interactions with others should be “enough” for any of us, just as no amount of interactions with a person you love will ever be “enough.”

 

[NotaPAWG]

Damn, that is a good article

Yeah, it's great. Lots of things I found to be truthful.

Like I said I was friends with a guy who was in an open relationship. We were friends and liked each other and hooked up a few times before him and his girl started dating. We hooked up a few times after they starting dating and I'm pretty sure she knew about it but she was really cool and I considered her a friend..Anyways they have what seems like a really happy honest healthy relationship.