Whats the biggest reason why your single?

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The ones I date that are worth settling down with I don’t wanna settle down with cuz I know I’d get bored.

The ones that are fun and great sexually aren’t ones I should settle down with, they all have issues, party too much, don’t have careers just jobs

Lot of chicks don’t bring much to the table these days except for vagina, and they give that up like it’s nothing. Who am I to invest in someone like that who doesn’t invest in themselves.

As such I use my time being on my purpose...ie working on business, working out or doing other positive things with my time. Been killing it business wise the last couple years, I’m not taking any distractions. Gonna pay off my place completely and keep getting my money up. These broads are a major negative cash flow item.

If y’all focus on your own success and don’t let these bird brains throw chaos into your life, you’ll prosper and a lady will fall into place. And if she doesn’t, who cares, you’re living great regardless.
 

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Dudes is way too worried about being called some sort of "lesser man". If you're a alpha is you're trying to put forward, why would it matter? And I'm not trying to be disrespectful, I'm just trying to understand this line of thought.


I never run with a crowd and honestly I’ve never ever cared what anyone besides close family thought of me. Two types of wolf. Those that run in packs and the lone wolf who be like man fukk yo pack! :pacspit:
 

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The ones I date that are worth settling down with I don’t wanna settle down with cuz I know I’d get bored.

The ones that are fun and great sexually aren’t ones I should settle down with, they all have issues, party too much, don’t have careers just jobs

Lot of chicks don’t bring much to the table these days except for vagina, and they give that up like it’s nothing. Who am I to invest in someone like that who doesn’t invest in themselves.

As such I use my time being on my purpose...ie working on business, working out or doing other positive things with my time. Been killing it business wise the last couple years, I’m not taking any distractions. Gonna pay off my place completely and keep getting my money up. These broads are a major negative cash flow item.

If y’all focus on your own success and don’t let these bird brains throw chaos into your life, you’ll prosper and a lady will fall into place. And if she doesn’t, who cares, you’re living great regardless.

Gospel, preach!
 

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Right now there's a couple of reasons:


- I live at home and most women ain't dealing with a dude that doesn't have his own spot

- I refuse to date fat women

- I don't put myself out there enough to even be around women. Very shy and not very sociable.

- I'm just not a highly sought after male in this dating market

:yeshrug:
 
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I have issues that i need to resolve within myself before I ever seriously think about a relationship.

I have some women who are interested in me but I don't give them the time or energy they deserve. I have a tendency to chase after the ones who ignore me :francis:

Also, I think my perceptions of relationships are very jaded. I didn't have any examples of positive relationships so even growing up it was never anything i really cared for. At 24, soon to be 25, I'm now in this weird age bracket where I'm young but not truly young anymore. The expectations women have in the social media era are outlandish. I enjoy my own peace and quiet. It's going to be hard to find a woman who i consistently want to be around and want to be a serious part of my life.

Damn breh I feel like I wrote this :wow: This is me exactly
 

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You do not choose ugly gang.Ugly gang chooses you.


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I had to come back, and laugh at this. :russ::russ:
 

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yes, ask my homie who smashes women at his mom's house and just turns the tv up so they don't hear it :dead:

You gotta tell me how they don’t care lol

He just be upfront with them and they cool with it?

He a real young nikka?
 
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I no longer have faith in women as whole. I’m a introvert and don’t like to talk near as much and I think a lot. The way I carry myself I try to move in peace and positivity. I don’t like the current state of women out here and how they move. My dads mother and I was talking about this some Months back and I told her that I never want to get married. She wasn’t happy but she understands she don’t like what women and men have become out here today.

I wanna spend my days getting better as a man and enjoying my hobbies and doing some traveling. I also wanna address anything else internal that I have going on as well. I may deal with women here and there but it want be no Monogamous relationship. I just want my days filled with peace and quiet and address what I need to address as a man spiritually.


That and I can be honest and say many women don’t know nor care what a man goes threw as far as his mental health. I’m seeing this amongst all races of men in society. Sometimes I think is the problem me...or the society a lil too sick for me to Participate in.
 
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Women in the city can definitely live their Sex and the City dreams if they’re attractive :russ:

I don’t think women ever have a shortage of dikk but the problem, particularly in NYC, is trying to foster a meaningful, monogamous relationship in a city with multiple options and distractions combined with the fact that everyone is career-focused / me-focused.

From a ratio perspective, NYC is disadvantageous to women so you have a city with a lot of women (many who are attractive and successful in their own right) competing for smaller group of “high status” men who know they hold the cards

I’ll put it like this (case study style) I share a personal trainer with the Wilhelmina / Elite models (real runway, campaign models, not IG girls) and they complain about the dating dynamics / competition. Sure they operate in social circles with successful men but it’s another thing to be more than a fukk buddy
Girls who grow up here are bred for the competition. Imports are not. :francis:
 

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And now games are getting played on me.
 
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