Why?
Small stuff like what?
My husband pays all the bills but I make as much as he does. It’s a pride thing. So when everything is paid out of his first check, I just pay off our debts with my money or put funds in his account randomly and he had a portion of his second check to play with. Or contribute to our retirement plans. I’m writing a grant for a program so he can retire soon. I’m a bit traumatized by losing family members soon after they retire so I refuse to spend my entire life working only to die or watch my husband do that. We making good right now but after we buy our home and sell it, I’m hoping we can settle down some place cheap and relatively remote and we can be homesteaders.
I don’t see the perks of him being a breadwinner. All I see is my Battlefield 2042 member not being there to squad up with me at home.
I want both of us to be able to work from home.
That’s all I got.
My girl isn’t pregnant yet but from the foundation of our relationship we treated a lot of things pretty equally. We understood that we’re a team and we support each other bc we don’t want to see the other struggle with things. That doesn’t mean I ask her to fix things around the house but we have unspoken understandings. In fact we don’t even need to talk about roles or who needs to do what because we move together. What should benefit one, should benefit all. I like that way of doing things because I feel like women should have skin in the game. I feel like if you are teaching them and they are teaching you, you’ll move more as one. It’s not perfect but to us it’s common sense. I’ve always taught my girl to be financially independent of me because that makes sense. We pay the majority of things together but that’s because I literally taught her how to budget and about investing and things of that nature. In this modern age, it’s asinine to me to pull this breadwinner thing when the majority of people in this country aren’t even making 100k on their own. You factor in rent or a mortgage, having a decent savings account, prepping for or managing expenses for kids, and not to mention all the money you should be investing on a personal level I’m not talking 401k, it’s a lot. In the times we are living in, the concept of a breadwinner is outdated, because you should be helping your girl get her money up or vice versa so y’all could both get enough money to retire early and do whatever you want.
