"When are black men going to start building black families?"-K Michelle pleads

[SNG]

im sorry, I had to turn it off once the tears came out bytch you have nudes on the internet and are known as a thot with a stank p*ssy….stepping up for black women and starting a black family is a crazy grift

This. She must think nikkaz are stupid and forgot about her history. It be the wrong bird ass chick trying to relay the message. Honestly shyt like this got black folks looking crazy. I can’t wait until this grift is over. Kevin Samuels told a lot of chicks what it was and they wanted to dance on a nikkaz grave.

 

[SNG]

And what does who women are passing over have to do with men? This isnt India where the men outnumber women.is there some reason yall dont think black men can be serious about marriage and building black families, independent from black womens choices?

Wouldnt the strong proffessional black men that you say black women are passing on, Be the same as the frumpy,educated,righteous,but not as attractive women who would make wonderful home makers,that black men are passing on?


Black womens actions and choices dont control how serious we as black men are about building black families. Because the thing is,even these delusional,unbearable hellhounds are still serious about marriage and asking why black men arent marrying them. I dont see spaces where black men are hurt and crying about the inability to find a good black women they can marry. I see spaces where we complain about us not having the access we would like to all black womens VAGINAS. Big difference

What are you talking about a lot successful black men talk about how hard it is to find a black women. The only reason why some don’t cry is because we will move accordingly. The problem is you got alot of black women that are all different sizes and shapes single mothers all trying to find the same type of man it seems and they mad that they got to compete for it. Black men don’t have too much crazy standards when it comes to women.

 

[InkosiYe]

That's the biggest problem in the Black dating community. You can't tell the difference between stripper/ig thot/street walker from a woman who got her head on her shoulders. They both love Sexy Redd and drill music. Twerking in public. Friends are just baby mommas. Fake lashes and drawn on eye brows,BBLs, never wear their real hair. Both publicly dress like whores. Both open to anything sexually. These once 2 separate groups have blended together.

Yeah unlike many other cultures, black american culture basically completely ignores social class. Which is why the street walker and the "woman who got her head on her shoulders" dress, walk, talk, act, date in a lot of the same ways. And so because of that, the "woman who got her head on her shoulders" doesn't actually have her head on her shoulders. Doesn't matter what degree she has, what car she drives, what vacations she takes, what brunches and restaurants she goes to, what company she works for, as long as she buys into the same bullshyt that the stripper/ig thot/streetwalker does then it's just a different variation of the same ratchet chick regardless.

The problem really went crazy when black culture became synonymous with hip hop culture, which was always basically hood culture even going all the way back to Melle Mel and The Message. But at least that music in the 80s and early 90s had more diversity in messages and viewpoints. But over time it devolved into what it is today, which is some bullshyt that's way more hyperfocused on hood/stripper/trashy/ratchet culture than anything else. They say one bad apple spoils a bunch, well there's a hell of a lot more than one bad apple at the forefront of "the culture". What's happening now is to be expected.

There's a guy named Brooklyn Saint Mickell on YouTube that goes really deep on these topics of race, class and culture in regards to black America, and I agree with a lot of his interpretations of the situation. One of his major points is that the only solution now is for black folks who think differently to intentionally separate themselves from "the culture" and do their own thing with like minded folks, and I can't say I disagree.

A couple vids if anyone is interested:

 

[Taadow]

Because I am fair & balanced, I watched the first 1:45 until the Crocodile Tears came out.

1. No - White boys in Nashville or nowhere else (with families or not) don’t go home at 5-6,
especially the ones that work in the recording industry. Just because they might leave work around
that time doesn’t mean home is where they go.

2. She can GATWTFO talmbat what they don’t talk about in country music, because I listen to country at times myself.
Most of the country songs I’ve ever heard talk about how their lives and families they “build” are lacking.

”Who’s Bed Have Your Boots Been Under?”
”Before He Cheats”
”Ruby, Don’t Take Your Love To Town”
”I’m Gonna Hire A Wino To Decorate Our Home”
”Take This Job And Shove It” (why? Because my woman dun left, and that’s the only reason I was working…)

^that’s the kinda families she wants??

3. And again, her point of origin seems to be a desire for what White folks are doing…but in Black Covering.
Now I seem to recall before that our sisters (and possibly K Michelle herself) were saying we don’t have families
like that because our heritage is not “patriarchal” but rather Village-based, which is why it’s okay (and perhaps better)
that single-mother families are more prevalent in our (for lack of a better term) communities.
So which is it?
Do you want Black Men to family builders today, or not?

4. …or, do you want anything to change at all?
Because what I heard her say after that was she wants “the narrative” to change.
She “sits in front of a successful Black man (debatable) who has the power to change the narrative about Black men starting families”.
I don’t want to pick on Cam Newton, he could be considered successful. But he is NOT in a position to change the whole narrative
about Black men in the mainstream for ANYTHING by himself.

Furthermore, I think K Michelle thinks Black men are like women in the sense that we do things because famous people in our
demographic might. All she would need to do to see that isn’t true is notice nobody else is jeffing those gaudy hats Cam busts out.
No man I know is out here trying to live like Cam Newton on purpose.

5. Even outside of the messenger, this question was answered by Too $hort 28 years ago:

”Niccas got mansions/but we ain’t trying to give ‘em to no tramp bytches…”

 

[lib123]

You seem to think a man with a stable career is all it takes to be a good husband. You need mutual attraction, and both parties have to put the effort in. I’m married. But I still have to buy flowers, and have date nights. Women care about those things.

And if the woman is working full time, and contributing to half the bills, does she still have to do all the housework on her own, in addition to taking care of the kids? How would she have time for hobbies?

In regards to mutual attraction, you primarily focus on what women are attracted to while seemingly ignoring what men are attracted to. Do you realize that most men view older women (30+ or 35+) the same way women view shorter men? Just like you tell brehs on here that women have every right to be attracted to who they want, do you tell brehettes the same when they complain about men wanting women younger than them?

 

[King Poetic]

Stop blaming black men because you want to go white

Same type of broads yelling black women are not protected, but out that same mouth u shyt on black men and don’t want to date black men

These modern day broads mentality is all the way fukked up

 

[BaggerofTea]

such un

Good black men can't do shyt for you if you ain't attracted to them

 

[Brolic]

You seem to think a man with a stable career is all it takes to be a good husband. You need mutual attraction, and both parties have to put the effort in. I’m married. But I still have to buy flowers, and have date nights. Women care about those things.

And if the woman is working full time, and contributing to half the bills, does she still have to do all the housework on her own, in addition to taking care of the kids? How would she have time for hobbies?

You’re still speaking on dating dynamics/ modern black women’s mindeset despite being out the game for years. Most of your talking points are irrelevant in modern dating.

 

[Still Benefited]

What are you talking about a lot successful black men talk about how hard it is to find a black women. The only reason why some don’t cry is because we will move accordingly. The problem is you got alot of black women that are all different sizes and shapes single mothers all trying to find the same type of man it seems and they mad that they got to compete for it. Black men don’t have too much crazy standards when it comes to women.

I see black men talking about how hard it was to find black women, once they pop up with a white woman and need a scapegoat.

Stop blaming black men because you want to go white

Same type of broads yelling black women are not protected, but out that same mouth u shyt on black men and don’t want to date black men

These modern day broads mentality is all the way fukked up

Meanwhile yall calling K Michelle disingenuous,and accuse her of creating this narrative out of thin air because she wants to date white men. Then you say black men wont cry about it because they will move accordingly. Care to tell us what you mean by that? I feel you are implying they will go date out?


Well,I guess i rest my case. Does black men divesting sound like men who are serious about building black families?

I already said she isnt a good messenger,doesnt invalidate the truth of the matter. Yall want black women to do what you arent willing to do. You say black men dont have a bunch of high standards. Okay,well it shouldnt be that difficult to find a cute dutiful wife who may need some work. Yall tell black women they need to lower their standards to appreciate these good black men they dont find attractive. If you were serious about building black families you would do the same. Yall want black women to be the hunter and the gatherer?

 

[SNG]

I see black men talking about how hard it was to find black women, once they pop up with a white woman and need a scapegoat.





Meanwhile yall calling K Michelle disingenuous,and accuse her of creating this narrative out of thin air because she wants to date white men. Then you say black men wont cry about it because they will move accordingly. Care to tell us what you mean by that? I feel you are implying they will go date out?


Well,I guess i rest my case. Does black men divesting sound like men who are serious about building black families?

I already said she isnt a good messenger,doesnt invalidate the truth of the matter. Yall want black women to do what you arent willing to do. You say black men dont have a bunch of high standards. Okay,well it shouldnt be that difficult to find a cute dutiful wife who may need some work. Yall tell black women they need to lower their standards to appreciate these good black men they dont find attractive. If you were serious about building black families you would do the same. Yall want black women to be the hunter and the gatherer?

I’m married to a black woman so clearly it wasn’t hard for me. If you tune out all the bullshyt going on you can find someone out here for you. At the end of the day I have no issues with black women or black men dating out. Be with someone who makes you happy and can tolerate the good and bad parts of you. I just don’t like the complaining or arguments and pointing the fingers at each other because our experience is unique. The bashing is unnecessary it’s either you want to work at it or you don’t.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

In regards to mutual attraction, you primarily focus on what women are attracted to while seemingly ignoring what men are attracted to. Do you realize that most men view older women (30+ or 35+) the same way women view shorter men? Just like you tell brehs on here that women have every right to be attracted to who they want, do you tell brehettes the same when they complain about men wanting women younger than them?

Mutual attraction does not always equal ideal partner. You cannot expect someone to be completely repulsed, and go to be next to that person, just because they have a good heart, or good qualities. This isn’t a roommate.

 

[gldnone913]

It sounds like it's the company she keeps, versus an issue with Black men

 

[Still Benefited]

I’m married to a black woman so clearly it wasn’t hard for me. If you tune out all the bullshyt going on you can find someone out here for you. At the end of the day I have no issues with black women or black men dating out. Be with someone who makes you happy and can tolerate the good and bad parts of you. I just don’t like the complaining or arguments and pointing the fingers at each other because our experience is unique. The bashing is unnecessary it’s either you want to work at it or you don’t.

I have an issue with that. I dont see how black men or women can be serious about building black families, While also having a plan B to date out if things dont go their way. The bashing isnt the problem either imo. Its the unwillingness to accept the accountability in the slightest. And its very unbecoming of the supposed "leaders" of the community being unwilling to take zero accountability or blame. How about black men take accountability on what we can agree we are accountable for? Allowing women to believe what they want about things that may or may not be our fault. Work on what we know is our fault,improve. Then come back to the table after having shown your growth as a leader? Maybe your growth would inspire our women to do better and be more receptive to take some accountability.


Yall would rather stay at the table arguing all day with women,finding reasons to not fully agree. All because it gives us a reason to not have to make any changes or grow. We can always come back to the table and argue unproductively tomorrow. This is poor leadership truly. And your actually condoning bunny hopping to the next table

 

[SNG]

I have an issue with that. I dont see how black men or women can be serious about building black families, While also having a plan B to date out if things dont go their way. The bashing isnt the problem either imo. Its the unwillingness to accept the accountability in the slightest. And its very unbecoming of the supposed "leaders" of the community being unwilling to take zero accountability or blame. How about black men take accountability on what we can agree we are accountable for? Allowing women to believe what they want about things that may or may not be our fault. Work on what we know is our fault,improve. Then come back to the table after having shown your growth as a leader? Maybe your growth would inspire our women to do better and be more receptive to take some accountability.


Yall would rather stay at the table arguing all day with women,finding reasons to not fully agree. All because it gives us a reason to not have to make any changes or grow. We can always come back to the table and argue unproductively tomorrow. This is poor leadership truly. And your actually condoning bunny hopping to the next table

It’s at the point of no return now. First of all black people shouldn’t have a cultural leader your leader should have been your parents showing you examples on how to work as a team and and how you work with others. Now look at all these charlatans trying to act like leaders and black people acting desperate for a leader because we lack it in family dynamics. Both black women and black men have to learn alot of things with trial and error and it’s not to say it doesn’t work but you see that it comes with a weak foundation if it’s not nurtured properly and instilled. How you going to tell black men that when they mothers are the ones setting them up for failure some not all. Remember a black mother will make her son be a sonhusband that’s why you here rappers talk about I need to buy mama a house ok but wheres your wife fit in there and where’s the father that should have worked with her to get one. Honestly it takes a bit of patience from both genders to recognize how to work with each other. The only reason why I say I don’t care if black men and black women date out because on the spiritual side it has no colour and I’m a soul in a black body. I could come back as a different race in my next life all I can do is make the best of my experience in my own skin. Cool you want pro black families ok your entitled to that but doesn’t mean everyone else should. You don’t know what life changes a person from any race can bring to you and teach you. There’s women out there who will love you more than your own race could and visa versa.

 

[Biscayne]

Go to hell bytch

This same bedwench hoe was chasing around a cac swimmer that swagger jacked MC Eiht

This so random assortment of words. A Cac swimmer swagger jacked MC eiht?! I need to look this up.