When did you Realize that Contrary to Popular Belief most Males ain't getting Females like that?

[Neuromancer]

What did u do differently that some other posters? I can already tell u some obvious differences.
You and a lot of the posters who are legit telling people it's not hard have a different energy than those complaining.

But I'm just gon read the responses.

Honestly I worked out began more diligently writing comics and reminding myself what I had to offer. I also started dressing nicer. What really helped me was to stop pedastalizing women and not be resentful to them. When I did that I started seeing them all as fragile and nervous, less intimidating. I got to a point where I didn't give a fukk and wasn't expecting sex or anything. It got me what I wanted just after I stopped wanting it.

 

[Neuromancer]

What did u do differently that some other posters? I can already tell u some obvious differences.
You and a lot of the posters who are legit telling people it's not hard have a different energy than those complaining.

But I'm just gon read the responses.

I also never said it was easy. Self improvement for men is hard work it takes discipline for many. Understanding as a man that self improvement is important was key for me. I also had to realize shyt was easier for some than others.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

How many articles have come out in the last few year saying that, despite the notion of "hookup culture," most millenials aren't hooking up in large numbers?

I'm willing to bet a lot (not all, maybe not even most, but a lot) of these chicks getting tons of Tinder matches and thirsty IG comments and DM's only check them for the confidence boost. They have no intention of meeting/dating/fukking these dudes because they think their ideal dream guy might be in the next DM.

 

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@thegrendal

That's all it is. And ur right it is hard. But think about how unhappy u would have been if u hadn't focused on u but kept blaming others.

The reality is that about 99.9% of the people who complain the most about relationships have serious issues themselves interacting with the opposite sex that they need to figure out. Until they do they'll be stuck.

 

[Neuromancer]

@thegrendal

That's all it is. And ur right it is hard. But think about how unhappy u would have been if u hadn't focused on u but kept blaming others.

The reality is that about 99.9% of the people who complain the most about relationships have serious issues themselves interacting with the opposite sex that they need to figure out. Until they do they'll be stuck.

I have serious issues interacting with the opposite sex. I don't like talking to people I don't know and don't share some common interest with unless there's money in it. ( real estate has helped me.) And I am still a work in progress. But i'm with someone who realizes she needs work too. So it works out for me. What most of the dudes here are suffering from is fear and anxiety. Most people don't know if another person likes them and because no one is transparent enough to just say "hey I fukking dig you, so how about it?" Both men and women are stuck majorly playing some sort of game. If I showed you the girl I was in my longest relationship with, you would ask me how in the hell I pulled her. (She was gorgeous) (also everyone asked how I pulled her.) And I was just honest. I told her I wanted to kiss her and she let me. I then told her we should date and we agreed. I was just straight up and had no fear. Fear is the mind killer you know.

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

This shyt isn't rocket science. nikkas can't even keep a steady job agonizing over the getting p*ssy.

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

Alot of the guys I know that really get alot of different p*ssy like that (quantity) will fukk any broad breathing

Most guys can get it, but everyone isn't always on the chase like that to rack up numbers. It's either relationship p*ssy one woman or booty calls from regular fukk friends

 

[audemarzz]

But what if that's just a defense mechanism. Why are we assuming that guys on her level want her? Women aren't the only ones with nutso preferences. I know A LOT of dudes with unrealistic expectations too.

My queen I am sorry

Yeah, I usually mean for both sexes, it's just as a guy I speak only with regards to women, I already know men do the same shyt . . .it would just be off for me to say "girll these nikkas do the same shyt" i do on occasion but only if it's unbalanced

I guess I expect the women to criticize the men like the men criticize the women? it's a balance thing you responding kind of balances it out, pls dont hurt me queen

we need each other to take out dikkdroid6000

 

[Youseenmywork]

i actually realize this pretty late in the game. No homo but i always assumed that dudes i knew were getting mad p*ssy left and right. always assumed my "OGs" or wtv (people i looked up to) were getting it in. then i grew older and realized things aren't always what they seem.

and then i realized, even women aren't getting approached like we think. or if they get approached, it's usually the guy they deem undesirable. so when a dude they actually like approaches them, they don't know how to act cause they have very little experience in that (in getting approached by guys they like). you grow up and realize a lot of these girls we thought were out of our league or too good for us have very low self-esteem (just like a lot of us), a lot of them suffer from self-doubt, think they're ugly, think they're undesirable, wish they were more XYZ like such and such. just like a lot of guys.

the reason most guys aren't getting laid is because they see the girl with designer clothes, shades on, make up on, cold expression on the girl's face, they see dudes who they perceive as being better than them talk about how fine the girl is and blablabla. so they figure the girl already has it all figured out and what value could they provide to the girl? or they think they gotta trick a girl into fukking them cause how could she ever see the real him and still be attracted? little do they know, a lot of these girls are hurting and lost and might see you like you see a dime.

you grow up and you realize that the TV trope of the guy trying to get p*ssy and the girl trying not to give it up is just that, a trope. a lot of women are trying to get laid but in a respectful way and don't know how. but people watch so much TV that they're dead-set on re-enacting the TV tropes and end up not getting laid just like the TV character.

Very underrated post breh

 

[Youseenmywork]

Most men arent getting laid. The reasons vary and are diffrent for most guys. I think also for women they have a lot more options with internet and other apps. Men have to realize that you are playing with house money. You have to take what your strengths are and make them better and pick apart your weakness and make them better to be a more complete man. I believe in being a renaissance man and looking at every level of your life. Spirituality to goals etc . Men cant let women are this "game" mess with them psychologically. This is the biggest weakness I see with men as a whole.

Men are working with house money. In your 20s you have to build yourself up the best you can apart from women . If all goes well mens 30s and 40s are our best years...as far as wisdom goes. That work you put into yourself in your 20s should be paying off. You HAVE to put the work in on YOURSELF.

Guys have to learn HOW to spin plates. Talking to multiple women is about abundance and scarcity. Some plates fall off and break, others you may wish to stop spinning altogether and some may not spin as fast as youd like. To be realistic some of your plates you may not sleep with....this is when you use them to learn and improve your game . Depending on what type man you are you can finesse these women into friends to keep learning from the game . The essence of "plate theory" is that a man is as confident and valuable as his options. This is the essence of the abundance mindset- confidence is derived from options. There are mannerisms and attitudes that a man with options will subconsciously convey to prospective women that they interpret, and give this man a value as a commodity to be competed for with other females.

Guys just have to put in work. Rejection on the front end is all you have to worry about. Dont just sleep with anything you can get your hands on it says a lot about you as a man. Swing for the fence and keep approaching women that seem like a challenge and your game with better with time. Dont take the path of least resistance in any area of your life especially with women...and yes that means you will go home empty handed sometimes and women may flak or just not text back.

 

[ndthentherewasx]

I would think most dimes and finer women are weary about who they let fukk.


Too many options, offers and dudes trying em

It can't be easy to find a good and reliable fit for them. No pun intended.

 

[010101]

it's easiest to notice in a intimate environment like hs
the same nikkas run through all the joints we just switch out with the seasons
they be standing in line to get with it while other nikkas starve

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[Lo-Co]

But what if that's just a defense mechanism. Why are we assuming that guys on her level want her? Women aren't the only ones with nutso preferences. I know A LOT of dudes with unrealistic expectations too.

what are some you heard?

 

[Rozay Oro]

That thread on who was getting buns this year.

nikkas would rather go desert dikk then smash a cute chubby girl. It ain't even that serious it's just p*ssy.

Virgins talking about 8 the lowest they go lmao

 

[Blackrogue]

Double digits in a month? Please elaborate...

This shyt sound like duck tales

@Straw Hat Luffy elaborated. If you have a place of your own, car and cash it isnt that difficult. Especially if you go out alot and not socially awkward.

I dont want to get into it too much but attraction happens all the time. If you pursue those attractions and they are mutual its no longer as impossible as it sounds.

Theres people on the coli who know the reality im talking about. I know people who do on far higher levels than me cause i only do it once in a while when not dating and theres a good pool of women. Your 12 in three months may sound like just as large a ducktale to someone else like my 8 in august that was gotten despite limitations that made me not pursue a few more that would have had me over the mark.

its been hit on in this thread that at some point the value people place on relationships, and how hurtful itd be for your Significant other *who you choose over all those others* to find out you messing around is what causes a complete halt in hooking up with other people.
Personally i know theres people hooking up less than realized..but its not surprising since this group is very vocal. Then theres those hooking up more than you know and they are very silent and its very easy for them.