When shawty is late for a date?

[Remote]

I have no respect for people who waste other people's time.

If you have a job, you show up on time, right?
If you can show up on time for that, you can show up on time for a date/party/bbq/whatever.

 

[Maquina]

You "left her on read"?

So instead of calling her out and mentioning that she has a pattern for showing up late or pushing timing back which you find annoying, you decided to be passive aggressive like a woman and "leave her on read"


This is why women do this type of thing to y'all on a regular. Because y'all are so scared to check a chick who is playing around with you.

already talked about her being late previously, which is why I added an hour to the reservation. At the end of the day, I did NOT want to communicate or have a conversation about it. The last message was a bit to nonchalant, and so I kept the energy for other activities but I definitely appreciate your answer and typically that is how I would want to handle the conversation.

I had a conversation with her about just being open and honest similarly - I find it strange that women will tell a man to communicate but reciprocity is sometimes an issue.

 

[The ADD]

You goofed trying to to do something nice for a young chick you are just casual with.

 

[Maquina]

You goofed trying to to do something nice for a young chick you are just casual with.

Great point, if she doesn't know how to be treated or doesn't want to be treated why am introducing her that type of lifestyle?

 

[The ADD]

Great point, if she doesn't know how to be treated or doesn't want to be treated why am introducing her that type of lifestyle?

Now you see the vision

 

[Jazzy B.]

already talked about her being late previously, which is why I added an hour to the reservation. At the end of the day, I did NOT want to communicate or have a conversation about it. The last message was a bit to nonchalant, and so I kept the energy for other activities but I definitely appreciate your answer and typically that is how I would want to handle the conversation.

I had a conversation with her about just being open and honest similarly - I find it strange that women will tell a man to communicate but reciprocity is sometimes an issue.

Then stop moaning about it happening then


@ you having to add an hour each time. Do you think this chick would turn up late to a job interview, flight or something she actually found important?


Either check and tell you will no longer tolerate it happening or keep having her do this to you. It's up to you.


With women. You get what you allow.

 

[Maquina]

Then stop moaning about it happening then


@ you having to add an hour each time. Do you think this chick would turn up late to a job interview, flight or something she actually found important?


Either check and tell you will no longer tolerate it happening or keep having her do this to you. It's up to you.


With women. You get what you allow.

the hard teachings of thecoli - i'm all for it!

 

[Piff Perkins]

she did hit me like 2 hours later, like "don't be mad" with all these heart emojis

and I knew I could salvage the night but I didn't want to at that point - disdain and doubt crept into my heart. If I see her, I'm going to have to disrespect her and be a goon with her from now on. I tried to change my ways but they don't want that.

Nah man don't doubt yourself, you played it perfect. Even ensured she had an hour of leeway time, knowing she'd be late. And she still fukked it up. That's on her, not you.

I agree on the younger chick thing. Before my current relationship I was almost exclusively fukking with younger chicks, 18-26 or so. I found once you establish that you're consistent, have money, and can do shyt younger dudes can't do for her you're good. I don't even mean buying shyt for her. I'm talking about what you did...reserve a table at a nice restaurant, vs what she's probably used to: chicken tenders at Applebees. I'm not old (early 30s) but yea, you can easily set quite a difference in her mind and ensure she wants to be around you.

 

[shopthatwrecks]

@shopthatwrecks I do agree that older chics are more prompt . But these younger chics when it’s time to lay it down are just more fun

the youngers chicks grow up to be the older chicks

 

[Heafcliffe]

Been kicking it with this younger chic. She’s cool and so I decided to take her somewhere nice. We set a date and time - now I know she is usually on Caribbean time , so I set the reservation and hour later than the time we decided .

She then does that “oh can we push it back” thing a couple of time . I ended up just canceling the reservation and just leaving her on read the rest Of the night .

Maybe I’m tripping - as I get older I just get less patience for b.s. and my time is precious .

I would say what I did instead but don’t want to be seen in a negative light

This. You ain't trippin, b.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

she did hit me like 2 hours later, like "don't be mad" with all these heart emojis

and I knew I could salvage the night but I didn't want to at that point - disdain and doubt crept into my heart. If I see her, I'm going to have to disrespect her and be a goon with her from now on. I tried to change my ways but they don't want that.

You don't have to do all that just tell her that you were looking forward to seeing her and you're disappointed.

Explain to her the importance of being on time. Tell her that she can make it up to you.

 

[King Poetic]

This wouldn’t happen if you were talking to a woman your own age.

I would agree.. but believe me u even have older broads being late ..

If I have a reservation set for 8pm, I tell all chicks it’s for 7pm.. make sure these chicks don’t be late

 

[Amo Husserl]

She does this because no one else was firm with her.
None of the others sternly reprimanded her behavior.
She can cancel and add insult to injury with heart emojis.
She's setting the tempo, and has taken the lead here.
She pulled a power move trying to assert dominance.
No one checked it and she got over.
You could bush her without word and let her go on.
You inherited the slack of her previous flings.

 

[Jazzy B.]

the hard teachings of thecoli - i'm all for it!

Breh please be direct with women when they start playing around.

The whole being passive/nonchalant stuff never works and is why you'll keep getting messed around.

Women who are fully into you don't turn up late frequently, they show up on time.

You need to have a conversation with her and tell that from now you'll no longer tolerate it or the excuses. You don't have to go all crazy and shout at her like a lunatic when doing so. Just tell her calmly "If I can show up on time so can you if you wanted to" and if it happens again you're done with her.

She'll either adjust and start showing up on time or she'll do it again which will tell you if doesn't already that she has no respect for you.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

yeah that's what I was thinking - the tolerance level for the stupid young chic stuff has lowered. But super fun when we are out.

The same age chics though have 2 or 3 kids and most of time are boring or just reek with this desperation that off putting.

So you rather chase the exciting young chick for whom you’re just one of several options? What’s the age gap?