how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot tho? you'd rather be ghosted then confronted? or is that irrelevant?
when you cut a homie off do you ghost them or confront them?
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how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot tho? you'd rather be ghosted then confronted? or is that irrelevant?
bourgeoisie tall freak
Superstar
If it’s a real friend then y’all probably had discussed the issue a few times before you eventually call it quits
You can’t call someone a friend who you don’t try to tell them right from wrong when they doing bad
You can’t call someone a friend who you don’t try to tell them right from wrong when they doing bad
Silkk
Can't Change My Damn Avi :beli:
Yeah, Just depends. I had a homie cut himself off because he owed me some money, which is wild cause I could give a fukk about the money. But to just get low means our characters aren't the same.
Then I had some homies who started just wilding a lil too much and I had to back up from
Then I had some homies who started just wilding a lil too much and I had to back up from
Irrelevant. I can’t control how someone reacts a certain way I won’t
I am currently in the process of cutting two ppl off one I’ve known for 25 years the other for 15…. They asked for a lot of help and things for years…6 months ago they were abusive and pushed me away…They didn’t initiate contact to hang out for past 6 months…I confronted them went over the situation how they treated me how they completely changed the relationship dynamic and asked if I did anything wrong?This past year I've had 2 cut 2 people out the circle who I've known for almost 2 decades. Neither 1 responded well 2 it. I thought I did the right thing tho
They said no I didn’t I went over the details and said can you see how I would think I did cause you are acting this way… the women started to cry and make excuses. I told her/them I just want to make sure I didn’t cause the abuse and change in relationship…
Now I’ll never see them again I haven’t picked up any of their calls just send them a text I was busy…I’ll prob have to curve them for 6 months or so…
These people aren’t family and I’m not engaged or married or going out with them… I’m not sure how non romantic relationship and non family can feel like they can act certain ways ??? I DONT HAVE TO EVER SEE A “FRIEND” AGAIN
If you think about it how many of your parents have friend from high school or sooner still??? Prob small percentage looks like this is part of life.
At a certain age and after a person has been through certain things ya just don’t accept certain shyt anymore…
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Yea I don’t like people that a care about to guess what happened or just leave them so I bring the shyt up… but I had one friend since elementary school and at 30 he moved with his girl and didn’t talk to me for two years (after I asked to hang 3-4 times after he first moved) he then sent me a “what’s up” text out of the blue two years later I just didn’t respond… he was always complaining and talking shyt kinda a dikk anyway…He ghosted himself out of our relationship
If you have to confront, that means you most likely ignored the signs...
You gotta know when to take your losses and move on...
You gotta know when to take your losses and move on...
The Pledge
If it’s a lie, then we fight on that lie.
If I ever cared about them, I confront them before it goes up there
Once it’s up there, I cut them off completely. MFers don’t exist anymore.
Once it’s up there, I cut them off completely. MFers don’t exist anymore.
Yes, and after you pull up and talk it out and they admit you didn’t do anything to cause the shyt I think we all at the age (30+) where life gets serious and time is valuable why would you spend it with these ppl anymore???
how did I ignore the signs when I confronted on sight; meaning in real time the issue I wasn't feeling
I even have a system I explained in earlier posts....
yea I just had a birthday and in my 30s....even at the job I'm really just talking how I feel straight up at this point.
purpletentacle
Rookie
It depends on both the individual and the situation honestly.
Most times I'll confront the homie, but sometimes the only way to get through to someone is by ignoring / ghosting them, that's the only way some people will get the message that you don't fukk with them any more.
Had to do it recently with a homie from high school after discovering that he abused multiple girls (physically and emotionally)
Most times I'll confront the homie, but sometimes the only way to get through to someone is by ignoring / ghosting them, that's the only way some people will get the message that you don't fukk with them any more.
Had to do it recently with a homie from high school after discovering that he abused multiple girls (physically and emotionally)
how did I ignore the signs when I confronted on sight; meaning in real time the issue I wasn't feeling
I even have a system I explained in earlier posts....
"Tallying" up is ignoring the signs...
So what happens when you keep the takers in your life and then life gets hard for a period of time. You are now older with less resources and you just got you cause the takers aren’t doing shyt… then on top of that people make decisions based on people and information they have in their life…Information comes from life and people in your life………you trust these nikkas
confront em. within the circle.. n be done with em..
u can lie to ya bytch.. but the crew knows
u can lie to ya bytch.. but the crew knows