when you cut a homie off do you ghost them or confront them?

[Eye $L33P All Day]

grew up with 2 that did h03 ish when we were teenagers but gave them passes. One of the homies moved out of town and I'd touch bases w him from time to time. Last year I told him hey I'mm be in your town next week I'mma pull up, and he was like OK. When I pull up this fool didn't answer my calls, didn't respond to my text etc. I didn't confront him, I just said F em.......both of them fools were not on solid anyways in hindsight so

 

[Menna]

hash it out doesn't mean violence breh its just American slang for confronting a situation


but to add another key point if u rdy 2 confront u gotta b ready for what comes with it.

I thought hash it out means to try to solve or come to an understanding, agreement.

My point is if the other isn’t capable of change, you feel they can’t change or the did something that really violated Theres nothing to understand or solve or hash … you know already that the relationship will never be the same….

Edit: I just googled the saying “hash it out” for my own understanding not to be petty… but it does me to confront but it also says in order to reach an agreement or decide something… that last part was what I was commmenting on … listen I give nikkas enough rope if they hang themselves in my eyes then they did it to themselves bruh… if you confront too early they change BECAUSE you said something and you don’t see their true nature…. If you let them hang then they reveal themselves that they not solid sometimes confronting is you trying to make them solid… I think it starts in high school or college if nikkas ain’t solid by 21 8 out of 10 times that just who they are… the homie I cut off I know since high school he was kinda a lame parents over strict n shytif I think about it I should of let that shyt go 10 years ago…it’s partly my fault for hangin on to a lane for that long that’s why I confronted asking if I did anything wrong to cause the situation I went over the facts they said no…

To quote the greate Ma$e “There ya go with thousands in ya palm why can’t you let bygones be bygones…”

Yo gotta learn to let go im just happy I was calm cool and collected when I spoke with these two nikkas and then the next week they calling and inviting me places yea I know nikkas it’s you guilty you know I know

 

[Menna]

grew up with 2 that did h03 ish when we were teenagers but gave them passes. One of the homies moved out of town and I'd touch bases w him from time to time. Last year I told him hey I'mm be in your town next week I'mma pull up, and he was like OK. When I pull up this fool didn't answer my calls, didn't respond to my text etc. I didn't confront him, I just said F em.......both of them fools were not on solid anyways in hindsight so

Yea that’s a whatever let it go situation…if you live close or family is involved or there’s a lot of years I think you tell them what’s what

 

[Menna]

If I get to the point to consciously cut you off we’ve been had confrontations

Or you been shady multiple times before and you just did the worst thing so the trend of shadyness/violation is trending up not down…

 

[maxamusa]

I thought hash it out means to try to solve or come to an understanding, agreement.

My point is if the other isn’t capable of change, you feel they can’t change or the did something that really violated Theres nothing to understand or solve or hash … you know already that the relationship will never be the same….

shiit idk I thought hash it out means we gonna deal with this....whatever whatever.....

cause I'm ready to talk it out; go back n forth; or get physical

 

[Menna]

shiit idk I thought hash it out means we gonna deal with this....whatever whatever.....

cause I'm ready to talk it out; go back n forth; or get physical

Nah means talk it out, yell, confront, scream, do what it takes (could mean physical) but the goal is to come to a agreement or resolve something… if I’m confronting a male friend in my mid thirties it’s just me being nice and letting them know what’s up before I go to say my peace it’s for me and for them.

The only time I confront to solve something is with blood family or with a chick I’m with that I like but even then I got eyes in the back of my head but I’ll talk and give her a chance

 

[Buddy]

I did both. My best friend from high school was staying with me shortly after I graduated from college. This b*stard was steady talking bout he ain't got the money for the rent like he wasn't constantly buying $13 juices from Whole Foods AND he was making damn near twice as me. shyt reached a boiling point and I told him to pack his shyt and get the fukk out We haven't spoke in over a decade

 

[Ohene]

Have never had to cut a homie off
What kinda friends yall have

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

I had to cut a friend off last year.

I had lost a half million dollars......really rough time for me.

Anyways, he was laughing to another friend about it through text messages. This same person would tell me he was happy for me. Turns out, he was jealous.

I never spoke to him again. I blocked him on everything and quietly moved on with my life. He called me from a blocked number, I picked up and immediately hung up.

I don't need negative energy around me and I don't feel the need to explain myself either. If you're fukked up, I'll just remove you from my life and move on quietly without drama or beef.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

My homie i known 35+ years. We were close like twins.He gets married in 2013 doesnt tell me,im not best man or nothing.He calls me up like days after ,shyt shocked me cant front. We beefed last 10 years over it off and on. His reasons change. "Figured you didnt wanna come"etc. Her and I eloped etc.So I forgive dude ,his son is born in 2016 gave him $ he almost homeless never paid me back,I drove 8 hours to his son b day party ,dude acts funny.So ol boy comes to town makes up an excuse to not come by,not even speak to my family who he knows . We fell out over it hard. He still thinks we cool i ignore and only speak via email not text or phone but glad he doesnt come around i think we literally would scrap,too much to type! Its so much more stuff. Imo The root of it is a white chick was playing him in college,my father and I warned him about her he still mentioned it 20+ years to day.Ah well

 

[LezJepzin]

I've done both but ghosting them came into play after multiple attempts were already made to try to hash things out.

 

[Menna]

My homie i known 35+ years. We were close like twins.He gets married in 2013 doesnt tell me,im not best man or nothing.He calls me up like days after ,shyt shocked me cant front. We beefed last 10 years over it off and on. His reasons change. "Figured you didnt wanna come"etc. Her and I eloped etc.So I forgive dude ,his son is born in 2016 gave him $ he almost homeless never paid me back,I drove 8 hours to his son b day party ,dude acts funny.So ol boy comes to town makes up an excuse to not come by,not even speak to my family who he knows . We fell out over it hard. He still thinks we cool i ignore and only speak via email not text or phone but glad he doesnt come around i think we literally would scrap,too much to type! It’s so much more stuff. Imo The root of it is a white chick was playing him in college,my father and I warned him about her he still mentioned it 20+ years to day.Ah well

The root of it is that he is jealous of you and has hater vibes towards you. Bro…You still respond to him…I just cut off a nikka I invited to my 5 year old B day parties. I know his mom/dad/sis/wife I’m godfather to his kid…nikka 6 months ago told me my life didn’t turn out right and to find community/family away from him. This was within 2 months after I moved to a new town 30 min from him a year ago I helped him through cancer, helping with kids and around the house him and his wife asked for alot if help over the past few years I provided it then they yell, abuse and shun me they didn’t even invite me over for 7 months but wanted me to vacation at their place every year and stay at my place instead of their parents when they visited … when I went over there I confronted asking wtf did I do anything wrong? They said no then the week after they invite me over calling/texting they felt guilty so fukk him… I’ll never see the nikka again… he still texts I either curve or don’t respond and I will never pick up his calls if his wife ever reaches out like she use to I’ll tell her I’ll get back to her but I won’t…

Once you enter into your late 20’s/30’s you can’t have these ppls influence in your life as you need clear head and good ppl so you can make proper decisions

 

[Jasonmask]

My homie i known 35+ years. We were close like twins.He gets married in 2013 doesnt tell me,im not best man or nothing.He calls me up like days after ,shyt shocked me cant front. We beefed last 10 years over it off and on. His reasons change. "Figured you didnt wanna come"etc. Her and I eloped etc.So I forgive dude ,his son is born in 2016 gave him $ he almost homeless never paid me back,I drove 8 hours to his son b day party ,dude acts funny.So ol boy comes to town makes up an excuse to not come by,not even speak to my family who he knows . We fell out over it hard. He still thinks we cool i ignore and only speak via email not text or phone but glad he doesnt come around i think we literally would scrap,too much to type! Its so much more stuff. Imo The root of it is a white chick was playing him in college,my father and I warned him about her he still mentioned it 20+ years to day.Ah well

This kinda happened to me as well. One of my homies got married he told me but he didn’t invite me I was kinda tight but I brushed it off. He stop fukking w me because I don’t care to talk to nikkas from the hood that tried to fukk me over and one of them nikkas got killed last year and I wasn’t like celebrating it or saying rest in piss, but I also wasn’t giving out condolences because it’s fukk them nikkas 4L. He knows this but we talked a few months back and I told him I saw them boys and I didn’t say shyt to them he didn’t like that and I could expose the fukk out of him and tell his wife he cheats on her but I’m just not a bytch ass snitch ass nikka like that

 

[The Pledge]

I need to confront or I'll never get over it. I'm too old to be confronting mfkz but sometimes shyt needs to be done.

Facts.

It’s really about me being able to close that chapter.

 

[F*ckthemkids]

I've only had to cut off one person in my life and it was my childhood best friend. We did EVERYTHING together. After our sophomore year of college he went through a ton of shyt. His mother went to prison. His father decided to move back to Houston on a whim, and he was kinda assed out. My old man gave him a job, he got a place, he just couldn't go back to school...So this dumb ass decided he was gonna try to start selling drugs to get his money up.

I've said several times that I'm a suburban nikka, and that's not to say suburban dudes can't sell shyt, but this clearly wasn't his lane, and I told him that. Dude got caught up quick...Getting robbed...Getting caught up in raid's and shyt. It was just ridiculous...I bailed his ass out of county, and told him it was the last time. This idiot...while fighting this case is out in the street AGAIN..."I need money to pay for the lawyer(s)..." etc.

I see this dumb ass out one night...Drunk as hell...Smoking blunts in the parking lot...Mind you this is the early 2000's...Weed is SUPER illegal...He was just a different dude. I didn't even recognize him. I told him straight up..."If this is who you're becoming, I want no part of it...I wish you the best of luck, but this is it man...".

Dude said "Fuk you"...got in his car, and sped off...The next day I get a collect call from OCJ...Dude was pulled over for driving drunk WITH weed in the car. So on top of his pending drug case, he caught a DUI with another possession charge added on... He asked me to help him out...I told him "no", and that was the last I heard from him. All I know is he sat down for a bit...