When Your Cousin/Nieces Enter Their bytch Phase

[beanz]

all girls go through that little c*nt stage. some boys too. just act like little a$$holes cause they think its cool. one of my little cousins always looks like she is angry and bored and too cool to talk to other kids n she only like 11 or 12.

i really hope i only have boys because i dont wanna deal with the c*nty pms bullshyt when they hit their preteens and early teens.

 

[Kid McNamara]

Enough of my trolling, on the for realla op.

Most of the time they just want that attention, so if you're a person in their life who they respect/listen to, you're in a best position to somewhat influence their acts and behavior (whether they ever admit it or not, and they rarely admit it). This is true for boys and girls through the age of 16 or so, even later if you command respect like that.

Now, if her parents are letting her do whatever and you come along on some "yo chill," it can get complicated...but STILL, if they respect you, them kids will listen dogg. Even when they put on that, "why you can't just say hi," "what are you still doing here," "who are you," nonsense, they just want attention and can't really express it properly.

Not sure how many times I've been on my, "alright, that kid gon learn the hard way" steez, only to hear some, "yea, [he/she] really looks up to you and respects you a whole lot" or "I can't get [him/her] to do [this/that], but [he/she] does it when you're around."
I be driving home like

 

[Kid McNamara]

what the hell, dudes in here really saying they couldn't be emotionally invested in their lil cousins and nieces like that?

Y'all didn't have Older family members that y'all once looked up to when you was kids or something?

Breh, you cats don't understand the concept of.... even if you could give a fukk about your family, you're supposed to do what you can to make sure the youngsters don't go through the shyt that YOU did, even if its something as small as telling them "good job" and encouraging them when they do good.... and at least tell them when they're wrong if they don't know better.

Honestly, I was clowning because it's almost too easy to be in a teens life if they like and respect you. It's almost scary how easily influenced they are by an adult who is looking out for them (scary as in, a lot of pressure to guide them in the right direction).


But, I've learned not too worry on them too much, there is a part of growing up that is simply experience. As long as that foundation is there, they usually get it after awhile.

What doesn't work long term is being that old nikka complaining too much about their behavior, especially when you aren't directly responsible for them. It's like being their parent, but having no parental power. What works is being someone to lean on (mentally) and then offering influential advice during choice times. Soon they will sort of come to you when they want to talk about anything (classes to take, school shyt, drama, etc.). You'll just be the "cool ass uncle" who doesn't judge them the way their parents do. That's really all teens want, some cool older people who "understand them."

 

[Mowgli]

all girls go through that little c*nt stage. some boys too. just act like little a$$holes cause they think its cool. one of my little cousins always looks like she is angry and bored and too cool to talk to other kids n she only like 11 or 12.

i really hope i only have boys because i dont wanna deal with the c*nty pms bullshyt when they hit their preteens and early teens.

That's that shyt I'm talkin about right there. O I'm so bored. O these conversations are so beneath me.

Then you see the conversations they're engaged in online and it's all thot trash.

 

[Mowgli]

I think the pressure associated with each level of schooling is what does it.

In elementary there is really no pressure.

In middle school the pressure begins and the top of the middle schoolers infect the younger kids with certain standards of excellence which are mainly ratchet

By high school it gets worse because now the pressure is to find a boyfriend, and or have sex and be involved in unproductive social activities like drugs, gossip and fashion elitism.

The foundation is laid in middle school though and sadly begins a youths expedition into that culture of learning how to be a bytch.

 

[Kid McNamara]

That's that shyt I'm talkin about right there. O I'm so bored. O these conversations are so beneath me.

Then you see the conversations they're engaged in online and it's all thot trash.

See though dude, maybe it is, maybe it isn't, but that is their culture right now. Better to try and understand it than to pass judgement and dismiss it as "trash." If you do the former, you can at least weigh-in on some of their actions and guide them into setting legitimate boundaries on some, "oh, I get it, just don't get too carried away" shyt. If you do the latter, you sound like some "old nikka" out of touch with who they are.

Think in terms of, how did you feel when grown folks used to ish on whatever you were involved in during the younger days?

Generally, if that guidance is good and they can talk to someone, they won't stray too far.

 

[Mowgli]

See though dude, maybe it is, maybe it isn't, but that is their culture right now. Better to try and understand it than to pass judgement and dismiss it as "trash." If you do the former, you can at least weigh-in on some of their actions and guide them into setting legitimate boundaries on some, "oh, I get it, just don't get too carried away" shyt. If you do the latter, you sound like some "old nikka" out of touch with who they are.

Think in terms of, how did you feel when grown folks used to ish on whatever you were involved in during the younger days?

Generally, if that guidance is good and they can talk to someone, they won't stray too far.

No bruh. Being the cool uncle as you put it is a joke because when you hit a certain age you cannot play both sides of the fence. Sooner or later the youth will confide something in you that if you are a real adult you have to tell their parents about which will destroy that cool uncle shyt.

You have to snitch on kids because they don't know shyt, will do stupid shyt and make stupid decisions thinking they're shyt doesn't stink. Then they wanna be kids again after the consequences are collapsing around them. Ten year olds should not have an instagram if they're befriending other kids with names like

A ratchet hoe.

That's culture that should be destroyed and crushed.

When they get older they will appreciate that effort more then someone trying to get browny points by understanding their stupidity.

To me that sounds like a man trying to seduce a girl now or down the road. You cant be friends with these kids bruh

 

[Kid McNamara]

No bruh. Being the cool uncle as you put it is a joke because when you hit a certain age you cannot play both sides of the fence. Sooner or later the youth will confide something in you that if you are a real adult you have to tell their parents about which will destroy that cool uncle shyt.

You have to snitch on kids because they don't know shyt, will do stupid shyt and make stupid decisions thinking they're shyt doesn't stink. Then they wanna be kids again after the consequences are collapsing around them. Ten year olds should not have an instagram if they're befriending other kids with names like

A ratchet hoe.

That's culture that should be destroyed and crushed.

When they get older they will appreciate that effort more then someone trying to get browny points by understanding their stupidity.

To me that sounds like a man trying to seduce a girl now or down the road. You cant be friends with these kids bruh

You: "You need to stop this whack ass instagram stuff" *Tells parents*

Her: "Whatever nikka" to both you and the parents, was just doing it for attention, now she really does go looking for attention from her peers...people who don't have her best interests at heart.

You/Parents: "These kids these days"

I agree, she will appreciate the effort when she gets older, but there is a fine line (is my point).

You can go ahead somewhere with that shyt though.

 

[Mowgli]

You: "You need to stop this whack ass instagram stuff" *Tells parents*

Her: "Whatever nikka" to both you and the parents, was just doing it for attention, now she really does go looking for attention from her peers...people who don't have her best interests at heart.

You/Parents: "These kids these days"

I agree, she will appreciate the effort when she gets older, but there is a fine line (is my point).

You can go ahead somewhere with that shyt though.

There is no line. When kids are using social media for ratchet behavior they have to lose it