which one do women in general desire more:poll

[Thurgood Thurston III]

No, what implied I did?

Look at the poll.

One of the options is "strong attractive genes" aside from security. These are two separate options.

You went and said "Nothing in this world beats security" Therefore, you desire security more than attraction.

Too me that implies that, if you had to choose, you would take a man who has security but is unattractive.

So I just wanted you to clarify and I was curious to know.

 

[old pig]

hard to really gauge but as far as the internet goes, it’s definitely clout/attention…in reality tho, I’d say security

 

[Coco Loco]

Look at the poll.

One of the options is "strong attractive genes" aside from security. These are two separate options.

You went and said "Nothing in this world beats security" Therefore, you desire security more than attraction.

Too me that implies that, if you had to choose, you would take a man who has security but is unattractive.

So I just wanted you to clarify and I was curious to know.

Your implication is incorrect. Yes, I'm choosing security over attraction every single time but I'd never choose an unattractive man in any scenario, unless if I didn't I'd starve/die. Before I got married my philosophy was as long as the man doesn’t look like a gremlin and is in shape, I can work with him

My husband provides security and is attractive. If he was attractive but provided zero security he wouldn't be my husband. I'll never sacrifice substance for attractiveness. Any woman who does is playing a fools game

 

[010101]

no money no honey*

 

[High Art]

For the purpose of this thread, black women

I'll abstain then.

 

[KBtheKey]

Attention is the official currency for women. If you know you know, they can have all the security, money in the world but if they ain't getting no attention/validation then their life feels incomplete.

Yea out of those 3, lack of attention is the main factor that leads them to cheat. That's when the others come into play. You have to be able to supply all of that before she can really say she's yours and then there's still the outliers who none of that shyt matters to.

There's also the ones whose personalities keep them faithful or pursuant of one partner but from my experience they're usually already with someone. You're lucky if you happened upon one of them.

 

[Will Ross]

finances.

the attention thing only applies if it comes from certain men & that changes with age. when she's younger, him being cute matters more. when she's older, him being financially stable matters more.

him being cute can take him far, especially when young. however, pretty boys don't age well imo & looks do not go as far as money

I don’t agree passport Bros proves that women care about getting attention from men they don’t even like or want

 

[Braman]

The answer is: Yes, No, all 3, none of the above.. at the same exact time.

This ngga knows women

 

[NoirDynosaur]

A lot of these women aren't really women, they little girls so a little girl might prioritize looks or money over everything. And we see the results of that choosing all the time, it usually leads to disaster.

A real woman just desires a real man OP. And a real man is the truth. A lot of cats can't live up to that because they portray themselves to be something they aren't from Day 1 just to bag the woman.

Once they can no longer live up to that character and the woman sees the man for who he really is, she no longer respects or believes anything that man says. At that point, it's a dead end relationship. She not listening to anything you got to say because you lied about who you were.

Solid answer

Men should NEVER modify their personality to get a girl to like them.

In my teens and early 20’s, it was common for dudes to portray a certain character to impress females. Doing extra shyt just for her validation

Meanwhile, the girl is confused why dudes is treating her like a prized possession

For women, attention is like CRACK to them. The less attention you give a woman, the more she’ll chase you.

 

[RageKage]

In the end of the day, everyone should aspire to having a healthy, stable partner

 

[Reptile]

Women PREFER (want) a good looking man.

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

3, 2 is the cheat code, and they can get 1 whenever it just depends on the man.

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

Your implication is incorrect. Yes, I'm choosing security over attraction every single time but I'd never choose an unattractive man in any scenario, unless if I didn't I'd starve/die. Before I got married my philosophy was as long as the man doesn’t look like a gremlin and is in shape, I can work with him

My husband provides security and is attractive. If he was attractive but provided zero security he wouldn't be my husband. I'll never sacrifice substance for attractiveness. Any woman who does is playing a fools game

But what if the unattractive man uses mouthpiece?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Your implication is incorrect. Yes, I'm choosing security over attraction every single time but I'd never choose an unattractive man in any scenario, unless if I didn't I'd starve/die. Before I got married my philosophy was as long as the man doesn’t look like a gremlin and is in shape, I can work with him

My husband provides security and is attractive. If he was attractive but provided zero security he wouldn't be my husband. I'll never sacrifice substance for attractiveness. Any woman who does is playing a fools game

Wayment!!! I ain’t know u was married sis! Let me
find out another unruly modern chick done jumped the broom! Congrats!

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

And yeah. Good sis @Coco Loco is correct.

Security first.
The desire for attention is HIGHLY conditional. We only want it from the individuals we find attractive. Attractiveness is important too, but security is tantamount. That’s why women are so career focused and all about a bag these days. It’s so they can afford to do what they want, when they want without having to rely on somebody they may not be attracted to.
Security allows you to avoid dating from a deficit mindset as a woman.
So when you date, you can look at other factors like real legit attraction, actual compatibility, if you actually like him or not, vs worrying about dating for survival or to pay the rent.