Who has issues with their Pops?

[Paradise]

My daddy wasn't a bad man at all he just made bad choices.

I use to be mad because my parents didn't want me to be bothered with my biological father.

But my daddy was rollin stone and that is why he has 9 kids.

 

[IllustratorMike]

I wasn't a bad man at all he just made bad choices.

I use to be mad because my parents didn't want me to be bothered with my biological father.

But my daddy was rollin stone and that is why he has 9 kids.

I hear you. Again, that wasn't their call once you got grown.
It won't make up for the past but it could've been special for the brief time that was available had you two hooked up. Sorry it didn't happen for you.

 

[Westcoastnative]

I have absolutely no issues with my Dad.

We're very close. I'm close to my mom too but I'm especially close with my dad. We talk just about everyday.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

You have no idea the pain or struggle they went through so with that generic bullshyt.



Me and my Dad are very close. I am the man I am today because of him. I always grew up almost marveling at the fact i lived with my father when every other black kid in the neighborhood didn't.


I second-hand saw how not having a father effects black boys because my dad was divorced and had a son before he married my mom, he was married to one of the singers in The Emotions and when he was fighting for custody he had TWO lawyers but she had more money and connections so she got full custody.


He use to always talk about that entire situation with regret, the only time he'd get


So my older brother and I were always close...but distant too, he grew up and lived in California while my dad married my mom and lived in Michigan. He came to visit on holidays but me and him are two different people and I can literally SEE the difference is due to me being fortunate enough to grow up with our father...

nope...and i really dont care about what pain they went through either.

are they dead? they woke up this morning didnt they? yeah? then lets get on with living.

you cant change what happened to you. its done. its over. hanging on and holding grudges against somebody that doesnt know and probably doesnt even care is a gigantic waste of time and energy.

people can only teach you one of 2 things in life:
1. how to be
2. how not to be


take whatever lesson they taught and do better. thats all you can do.

 

[Alfred0Santana]

I hear you. Again, that wasn't their call once you got grown.
It won't make up for the past but it could've been special for the brief time that was available had you two hooked up. Sorry it didn't happen for you.

That's how I feel. They shouldn't feel some way about you wanting to build with him.

 

[Blackout]

He was a cheap ass mothafukka.

Thats about it

 

[Dameon Farrow]

We're too alike to get along easily. I've learned this over the years. But he was a real one and always provided so no hate. And don't get it twisted we all grew up under the same roof.

 

[Givethanks]

Question for the brehs that have or had issues with their pops. Did you ever manage to ask him why he didn't want to raise you and be in your life (more)?

Since a yout i wanted to ask my pops that, but i always thought he would deny it and make up some lie.

 

[Givethanks]

Double post

 

[BrehWyatt]

Question for the brehs that have or had issues with their pops. Did you ever manage to ask him why he didn't want to raise you and be in your life (more)?

Since a yout i wanted to ask my pops that, but i always thought he would deny it and make up some lie.

The last time I saw him (which was about a decade or so ago), I had the chance to ask him, but I probably wasn't old/emotionally stable enough to really want/understand the answer I could have gotten, so it never came up. If I ever see him again, it'll come up. Because right now, it's the last conversation I ever really want to have with him. It's no disrespect/shade meant, but I'm 27 years old now, and he wasn't really around during the years I truly could have used whatever guidance or wisdom he had for me so it's at the point now where . To his credit, I now know how important a good father, and not just a father in general, but a GOOD one is (there's some people that get that twisted. It is not the same).

So I just plan on closing that book one day. Just one last conversation.

I know it sounds a little bitter/jaded, but that's how I feel. He wasn't there when it really mattered so no real point of trying to foster that relationship now.