Who here has ever transformed/upgraded their lives in a major way???

[Marco Zen]

Got sober.

Literally a game changer in life.

 

[The BasedFather]

Nice, getting your body in shape is always a great first move.. helps set you up for an improved mind and also gets your confidence up too

What do you do for a living now? And what were you studying for when you were in college?

I still want to move to another state as well. What areas were you interested in?

I’m a firefighter atm. I like what I do but I can’t do it all my life as I get older. And it’s hard being gone from home 3 days in a week from my son. Not like we make crazy money either unless racking OT.

I was studying art history in college back in 2012 when I was attending. I love drawing and wanted to do animation. But being from Michigan the industry isn’t big here.

I want to move to SoCal where my other side of the family is at. Thinking of going there soon and attending college out there. Maybe go for STEM or animation. Thinking of going to paramedic school as well. Try to go LAFD if possible.

Got a lot to think about future wise

 

[ThrobbingHood]

When I was fresh out of college, I moved to NYC (Flatbush, Brooklyn) for two reasons:

1. I didn’t want to move back home after living independently for the past couple of years.

2. I thought I would find better job opportunities in NYC due to my financial degree.

Boy did I learn the hard way. I was so used to smashing in college since it was a level playing field… I struggled hard in my first year out of college. I was broke, in a new state, lived in a rough hood. I was only attracting fat women who I refused to entertain. I may have been broke but my spirit and spine wasn’t, and I wasn’t about to let a whale ruin either of them.

The bad bishes were not messing with a broke 21 year old. Man did NYC humble me. I was in decent shape but nothing amazing. I started hitting the gym hard. I eventually found a better job (not necessarily what I wanted but better pay) and ended my nearly year long drought with my (in shape) ex-Dominican gf.

Tbh.. she upgraded my life in every way. She helped me network with higher ups. Made me more familiar with NYC. Improved my style. I’m grateful that she came into my life even though it didn’t work out.

 

[FlimFlam]

great thread

 

[Henny and_ HotWings]

Education + financial

I went back to college 2x, I learned the value of a proper education (program choice matters)

My friend's that didn't go to college/uni, make more money (10-20k) than me but they work like mad men; 50-65h/week.

I'm not too far behind, only working 35h/week (probably only 20 tbh) making around 65k.

If I play my cards right, ill be making what they make or more in a few years, working way less hours.

Education is one of the most important things in life.

I think this day in age, people are slowly starting to learn that working smarter trumps working harder any day of the week… although making a come up MAY involve working extra hours early on… it’s DEFINITELY not sustainable for most in the long run… that is, if you value your physical and mental health

I have a buddy who got his CDL… he went from working bullshyt warehouse jobs making 38-40k a year to making 150k practically overnight… sounds good right? Only he was on the road 6 days a week away from his wife and kids and he ended up getting fired because his bosses found out he was using his cell phone while driving.

Even though he eventually ended up getting another CDL job, he hasn’t made that 150k a year since! Smh

He’s back down to like 80k -90k which isn’t bad… but considering he got 4 kids and just one firing did ALL THAT to him, it’s pretty sad

Life is a marathon, not a rice

Good for you G … keep pushing

 

[T.H.E. Goat]

Went completely legal and haven't looked back since

 

[Henny and_ HotWings]

When I was fresh out of college, I moved to NYC (Flatbush, Brooklyn) for two reasons:

1. I didn’t want to move back home after living independently for the past couple of years.

2. I thought I would find better job opportunities in NYC due to my financial degree.

Boy did I learn the hard way. I was so used to smashing in college since it was a level playing field… I struggled hard in my first year out of college. I was broke, in a new state, lived in a rough hood. I was only attracting fat women who I refused to entertain.

The bad bishes were not messing with a broke 21 year old. Man did NYC humble me. I was in decent shape but nothing amazing. I started hitting the gym hard. I eventually found a better job (not necessarily what I wanted but better pay) and ended my nearly year long drought with my (in shape) ex-Dominican gf.

Tbh.. she upgraded my life in every way. She helped me network with higher ups. Made me more familiar with NYC. Improved my style. I’m grateful that she came into my life even though it didn’t work out.

And that’s what it’s all about… sometimes as men we NEED to have that stubborn pride!

Sometimes it’s the only thing that keeps you from quitting

You touched it it for a bit, downgraded your lifestyle and learned that it’s more important to be good EVERYWHERE and not just the place you USED to live.

You don’t want things like income to prevent you from living where you REALLY wanna live.

DC did that to me a few years back… thought I was making alright money living in Bmore… once I started working and living in DC I realized I wasn’t making shyt lmaooo forced me to hustle and open my mind up to new ideas… I ended that lesson

Your lil Dominican chick defintely sounds like a blessing… showed you you’re capable of getting bad bytches but also that you had room for improvement without being judgmental…. Everyone isn’t meant to be in your life forever. Some people are just meant to come teach you a few things and then fade to black.

You ever keep in contact with her?

 

[Henny and_ HotWings]

great thread

Thank you… I think it could probably help ALL of us in some way

 

[Henny and_ HotWings]

Went completely legal and haven't looked back since

Nice bro! I’m sure early on you missed the money but once you leveled up it was all good… also, it’s nice when you can wake up in the morning and not have to worry about being killed or going to prison

 

[MoshpitMazi]

Went from juvie alternate school crashout to first college grad in family

Had to cut out alot of slimes and family from the way, if I didnt I would've ended up dead or doing a random lifetime tax funded timeout over silly stuff.

If I can do it I know anyone on this planet with capacity can.

 

[Cloutius Maximus]

Half my town burned down so a breh gotta start over in a lot of ways. Got the basics, now I gotta decide if I wanna stay in LA area, go back to school here, just focus on stacking, etc.

 

[Redwood]

I'm indulging in some creative new hobbies (writing, music, etc.) and I feel more productive than I did this time last year.

 

[Henny and_ HotWings]

Went from juvie alternate school crashout to first college grad in family

Had to cut out alot of slimes and family from the way, if I didnt I would've ended up dead or doing a random lifetime tax funded timeout over silly stuff.

If I can do it I know anyone on this planet with capacity can.

I’m glad you touched on cutting certain people out of your life… I remember when I first took a step in the right direction, I literally cut out some of my closest friends only because they weren’t good for my mental health, some of them were kinda fake/two faced also…

I cut out another 2 friends and a toxic girlfriend because they were all drunk alcoholics who wanted me to go out and get ridiculously drunk every night… had me becoming a lush, had me skipping the gym, had me over sleeping getting to work late, affecting my health both physically and mentally….

Had I not cut them off, I don’t even know where I’d be

 

[ThrobbingHood]

And that’s what it’s all about… sometimes as men we NEED to have that stubborn pride!

Sometimes it’s the only thing that keeps you from quitting

Breh, I was having this exact conversation recently. It’s stubbornness that allowed me to prevail. Yes it has also worked against me at times, as well as getting me into a few a scuffles, but my refusal to take no for an answer has helped me overcome so many obstacles.

When I tell you my initial time in Brooklyn was tough, I had never felt so out of my place in my life. No friends, no network, no women. I was completely isolated.

But me overcoming that showed myself how resilient I was and that year of hardship was a blessing in disguise. It hardened me and made me stronger.

Your lil Dominican chick defintely sounds like a blessing… showed you you’re capable of getting bad bytches but also that you had room for improvement without being judgmental…. Everyone isn’t meant to be in your life forever. Some people are just meant to come teach you a few things and then fade to black.

You ever keep in contact with her?

Unfortunately no. I’m not someone who wants to look back. I didn’t do anything egregious to her but I definitely fumbled the bag. The fact she saw potential in me even when I was broke spoke volumes about her character.

I won’t even lie to you, I still regret messing that one up. She wanted us to marry, have children, all of that before we reached 25. She gave me an ultimatum and I said “I’m good”.

It was for the best because I’m sure I would’ve stepped out had we married so young. I didn’t have the emotional maturity I have now that I’m engaged.

 

[Henny and_ HotWings]

Half my town burned down so a breh gotta start over in a lot of ways. Got the basics, now I gotta decide if I wanna stay in LA area, go back to school here, just focus on stacking, etc.

The wild fires? Damn bro I’m sorry to hear that. Hopefully none of your people were harmed….

LA is so damn expensive … what’s your plan for stacking? Do you really love living in LA or are you just comfortable/used to being there at this point?