Who is the leader? Is it you?

[Duke Wy Lin]

Natural hierarchies will emerge within male groups in times of intense crisis. So most of us probably don't even know, and might never know, where we at in such hierarchies. For now, we just enjoy each other's company and shoot the shyt from time to time. But best believe the moment a crisis occurs, hierarchies will definitely come about.

Say we all lived in the same neighbourhood and we got word that in the next 48 hours, a massive horde of lunatics will descend upon us, kill us and rape our women. Some of us would panick and immediately relegate themselves to bytch nikka status and we would try to keep these nikkas from the frontlines by all means possible lest they ruin our chances of survival.. They can manage meal prep and shyt like that. Maybe even do a bit of cleaning

Some would remain level headed. And from amongst those, some would take it upon themselves to delegate who does what. The last group would be the leaders. Why would they naturally emerge as leaders? Because we trust them and this trust can be based on a number of different things:

1) we trust their character (courage, wisdom, self-lessness etc)
2) they appear to know what they are talking about
3)they have a history of taking on responsibilities (in the past, they've been the go-to guys when anybody had a problem and needed advice etc)

And many other reasons.

One thing is for sure: the psychopathic "I only care about me and mines" type nikkas would get eliminated immediately because nobody would trust that they wouldn't backstab us. In such settings, there's no room for sociopaths.

 

[Ol’Otis]

I’m the financier

 

[Klaus Schwab]

I have been with the leader of the pack and I’ve also been with the funny follower one of the pack .

I prefer the leader

Why is that?

 

[UncleTomFord15]

I'm a follower, not a leader.

 

[Pseudonym]

I’m the level headed one

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

I'm a follower, not a leader.

There's a value in that.

Using logic, the vast majority of us are followers. Even the so called leaders are followers ultimately. Unless they are the supreme leader or some shyt and I am pretty sure there's no such role currently in existence outside of North Korea.

 

[Marti]

Why is that?

I had a boyfriend of two years that was the one getting joked on , made fun of and his friends constantly asking me what I see in him and all trying to talk to me on the low . Even when he checked some of them about it, they still bytched him.


My current boyfriend is the one that has put all his homies on to new jobs / business ventures etc. He throws the events and his friends respect me as his girlfriend and never overstep boundaries

 

[ScottyG]

I'm my own leader. If I wanna hop out the whip and walk home cuz ion like what they doing I will.

If I wanna do something else I'll pitch it and if no1 listened I'll go solo tbh.

Be your own leader

 

[Klaus Schwab]

I had a boyfriend of two years that was the one getting joked on , made fun of and his friends constantly asking me what I see in him and all trying to talk to me on the low . Even when he checked some of them about it, they still bytched him.


My current boyfriend is the one that has put all his homies on to new jobs / business ventures etc. He throws the events and his friends respect me as his girlfriend and never overstep boundaries

Interesting.
To me it sounds more like a lack of respect from his "friends" than a leader/follower issue.

 

[Wubzy]

Nikkas can't even make friends without this weirdo hierarchy shyt How long until there's a Kevin Samuels for friend groups?

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

I had a boyfriend of two years that was the one getting joked on , made fun of and his friends constantly asking me what I see in him and all trying to talk to me on the low . Even when he checked some of them about it, they still bytched him.


My current boyfriend is the one that has put all his homies on to new jobs / business ventures etc. He throws the events and his friends respect me as his girlfriend and never overstep boundaries

That's an extreme situation. That first guy seems to have had extremely low self-confidence.

That second guy is not necessarily a leader for hooking ppl up with jobs and throwing events.

Male relationship are slightly more complex than that.

 

[Marti]

Interesting.
To me it sounds more like a lack of respect from his "friends" than a leader/follower issue.

The way he let his friends flex on him yet follow them around and tried to do everything they did made him a follower to me .

That's an extreme situation. That first guy seems to have had extremely low self-confidence.

That second guy is not necessarily a leader for hooking ppl up with jobs and throwing events.

Male relationship are slightly more complex than that.

He did have a low self esteem which is something I tried to help him with . When his friends use to disrespect him , i would defend him but I’m a woman so they didn’t take me seriously .

My current man is the one that all of his friends come to for advice whether it’s business , relationships or personal issues as well. His friends really do look up to him . Which is why I said he is a leader in his own rite

 

[Marti]

And I’m the shyt starter in my friend group

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

I’m the level headed one

You the one with the money

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

I’m the financier