Who Pays on a First Date?

[wickedsm]

Do you tell them not to date guys they aren't attracted to? Not to waste guys time if they know it's not going anywhere?

Absolutely.
I tell them not to lead anyone on, that they wouldn't like that shyt to be done to them, so don't do it to other people.

They shouldn't waste their own time nor the young man's time if they are not really interested.

I tell them to be honest and upfront, if someone asks or expresses interest.
Don't dangle that "friend" bullshyt.


I'm a firm believer in the idea that doing trife shyt to other people will guarantee you some trife shyt to come back to you in return.

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

I mean I always thought whoever asked to go on a date would be the one to pay, and 99% of the time that is the man....

Even if a girl asked me out I wouldn't let her pay...we're at the very least going dutch.

 

[Arithmetic]

My girl and I go half. And most of the times she wants to cover the whole bill. I'm in college. She already graduated.

 

[Arithmetic]

And let's not forget that black women generally earn and save more than black men. If that applies to your situation, go ahead and pay for everything. If that relationship ends you will be left in debt while your ex is financially secure and probably in a better financial position than she was in before getting with ya.

 

[Serious]

I would feel weird if a women payed for me

I always feel weird having a woman pay for me....
Like less of a man....

 

[L@CaT]

I don't mind paying for the 1st date as long as the woman offers to pay for some

 

[#SOG_soldier]

I just take bytches to the trap and smoke them out

 

[#SOG_soldier]

Absolutely.
I tell them not to lead anyone on, that they wouldn't like that shyt to be done to them, so don't do it to other people.

They shouldn't waste their own time nor the young man's time if they are not really interested.

I tell them to be honest and upfront, if someone asks or expresses interest.
Don't dangle that "friend" bullshyt.


I'm a firm believer in the idea that doing trife shyt to other people will guarantee you some trife shyt to come back to you in return.

Yup all that bs I did as a shorty came back tenfold for me.

 

[#SOG_soldier]

@wickedsm how you feel about ass eating on the first date?

 

[Geek Nasty]

I think I could honestly convince a group of women that water is dry as long as I didn't have no real competition.

Its almost like women want to agree with everything you say.

They're all looking at him like he's saying "if you want me to fukk you, this is what you need to do for me."

 

[Da King]

Depends on how she attractive she is

 

[philmonroe]

I mean I always thought whoever asked to go on a date would be the one to pay, and 99% of the time that is the man....

Even if a girl asked me out I wouldn't let her pay...we're at the very least going dutch.

This is a stupid sounds good saying from people. The answer is men for you fam not that bullshyt about who asks first. If you ready to pay no matter what because you feel like less of a man or whatever other shenanigans you might as well just say you always pay.

Personally I pay just so the shyt won't be awkward but I also don't go all out for chicks I don't rock with like that. Sometimes though girls have actually paid for me and I appreciated that too. Shows they are invest IMO and them have been the better relationships I've had.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Why do you think you were being finessed? What L's?

Going out on a date and spending and never hearing back. Or one time I went out with this girl, I brought lunch, smoothies, water etc. Then she starts suggesting we go to dinner later that same day. When I lived in a southern country city the women weren't like that. Things were cheap so it wasn't a problem. If ended up with us hooking up fine, if not it's whatever. A lot of women in my current city ATL like to play that game. So I had to change my ways, it's now coffee or ice cream unless of course I know I'm getting a guarantee lol.

 

[philmonroe]

The answer has been posted three times already!

It's tacky to ask someone out and then ask them to pay half. If you keep getting finessed out of first dates then you need to reevaluate your character judgement skills.

This would be the answer if it was 50/50 or some thing close but since we know that's not the answer stop it. Folks always trying to get over on some bullshyt.

 

[Larry Lambo]

Going out on a date and spending and never hearing back. Or one time I went out with this girl, I brought lunch, smoothies, water etc. Then she starts suggesting we go to dinner later that same day. When I lived in a southern country city the women weren't like that. Things were cheap so it wasn't a problem. If ended up with us hooking up fine, if not it's whatever. A lot of women in my current city ATL like to play that game. So I had to change my ways, it's now coffee or ice cream unless of course I know I'm getting a guarantee lol.

ATL is the worst when it comes to that. Since there is so much flossing and tricking there, dropping loot for women is embedded in the culture. You gotta really be smart about who you take out down there.