who's the oldest person here on that "no marriage" tip?

[Easy-E]

I got a friend, who's 35, single, never been married, a self-made millionaire, and no kids to me, dude seems to be living the dream, but he always complaining about dating broads and all the bullshyt he gotta put up with.

Here's my thing; all these dudes talk this "playa fo life" stuff, on here, but; (I don't agree with his lifestyle) Hugh Heffner is the original playa and he's been married, like, 4 times . There's something to marriage that make men, like Michael Jordan, wanna do it--even twice.

None of us even have their pocket change and are so worried about "Losin' it all."

That's not the worst case scenario that's typical. A man buys an engagement ring the couple has a wedding and the woman leaves the workforce to raise the kids. That's standard issue marriage. As a man you typically get the brunt end of all of it. Your buying the ring you're paying for or at least contributing to the wedding you're the breadwinner while she raises the kids. If the marriage falls apart you get penalized.

All you really stand to gain from it is limited access to vagina which dwindles as time goes on and children are produced. Someone to do household chores you can actually do for yourself an if you lived alone the quantity of such would be minimal. Someone to cook for you which again you can learn to do for yourself. Lastly supposed companionship with a person that probably doesn't share many of a guys core interest such as guy type movies, sports, video games, ect.

In exchange for those thing you give up your freedom you are forced to compromise for the sake of the relationship and to make her happy. You incur a great financial burden. You have to dedicate yourself and work hard at maintaining the relationship for the rest of your life if it goes that far and if it doesn't you surfer even more penalties.

I haven't met married person that talked to me about marriage and didn't tell me marriage is hard work. I always respond to them by saying being single is easy. I know what it's like to be knee deep in a relationship you're not gonna leave. To be emotionally invested in a person that you have a stressful difficult at times relationship with. That's the vibe most married people especially men give off when they talk to me. Like now that I married her I'm not gonna leave her but if I had to do it all over again I might think twice at least. It's the same vibe people who have unplanned children give off when they go I love my kids more than anything but if I could do it again I would have waited to have them. To me that's just living with your regrets.

One of the first thing I noticed; this thread has no links to support these wild claims.

I put too much of my business, on here, as is, but, I'll say; my parents had a bad divorce, but, no alimony or child support happened and my father got us all.

There are plenty of people out there happily married. Again, ya'll go for the worst case and call it typical.

you want to be in a relationship? then go to pof or something, odds are you will cheat or be cheated on, get played or manipulated and it will end horribly.

Wait, what?

I was thinkin'; go the clean route. And meet a young lady at the library or something.

 

[PimpHandStrong]

I think whats worse than no marriage is being married but not having kids (and both partners have the ability to create)

That never made sense to me, dont get married in that situation then lol.

My aunt and uncle been married since '93, no kids. I know she hates the fact she never had kids even though I've never heard her say so.

Its mostly due to him being reluctant in doing so. Her sister had two kids and I know it kills her inside. People have to talk about shyt like that beforehand.

 

[villain]

all this talk about getting married because it's essential to having a good family life is retarded

why can you not do that without getting married?
do y'all even realize that marriage in the modern sense is just an idea that consists of laws made by man?
it didn't come from any divine power.

do you think people were helpless in raising families before modern marriage existed?
Native American tribes had ideas of marriage very different from ours but they were still able to have a great family life.
Tribes in Africa that follow polygamy still thrive and they have some of the strongest sense of family on the planet.

This idea of the modern American marriage being absolutely essential to having a good family life is just wrong

 

[MAKAVELI25]

If I had kids, I wouldn't care if they love me. I'd just care if they're getting into Harvard or not

The makings of a great father. Yes, they need to respect you as much as they love you, but I would feel terrible if my kids didn't love me

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Why do people get so powerfully offended by prenuptial agreements? It's always, "You don't have anything to protect anyway! So don't get one!" That's not really something that I see as a good reason to not get one...

 

[VerbalIntercourse]

all this talk about getting married because it's essential to having a good family life is retarded

why can you not do that without getting married?
do y'all even realize that marriage in the modern sense is just an idea that consists of laws made by man?
it didn't come from any divine power.

do you think people were helpless in raising families before modern marriage existed?
Native American tribes had ideas of marriage very different from ours but they were still able to have great a family life.
Tribes in Africa that follow polygamy still thrive and they have some of the strongest sense of family on the planet.

This idea of the modern American marriage being absolutely essential to having a good family life is just wrong

co-sign. I don't think polygamy should be illegal. Why? it's like women wrote that law.

I mean look at someone like Clinton. Dude was a ladies man and at the top his game, and he was married to this dog-ass ugly b1tch. Why can't he have a lot of women? What's point of getting power if you can't get a lot women too?

 

[villain]

co-sign. I don't think polygamy should be illegal. Why? it's like women wrote that law.

The status quo has changed over time. Plenty communities have had great family lives under polygamy and they will continue to for years to come

One day people in charge decided this is what they wanted, and then they made these laws, and now anything else is uncivilized. And if you don't consent to these relatively new, made man-made rules then something is wrong with you

If you want to get married, then do you
if you don't want to get married, then do you

but don't be on here trying to shame somebody who doesn't feel like marriage is for them and use bullshyt reasoning like "well it's only under these specific conditions of marriage that a family can thrive, so you must get married to raise a family" or "you don't want to settle down under these strict conditions so you're too immature"

 

[Cynic]

Agreed. I'm trying to live my life as free of responsibility as possible. Work is enough responsibility already

The way I see it, I could probably retire in my mid 30s if I stay single, have no children, and prudently invest all my discretionary income. If I decide to have kids, I'm going to be forced to work well into my 50s to send Little Jimmy's ass to private school.

I want to earn money for me, not for some crumbsnatching brats.

Why the mods edit this cold hard truth on Feb 2014 ?

 

[↓R↑LYB]

No you can't. It goes beyond just tax benefits. You can't name a non spouse as your beneficiary for life insurance, 401k, etc. You can't make appointments, plans, changes, for a non-spouse. You can't add your non-spouse to your health insurance. If something happens to your significant other, you have absolutely no say in what happens to him/her. If your woman gets pregnant and something happens during birth, you have no say in what happens to your kids or your woman. It's the same reason gay people are fighting for marriage rights. It's not just about being "married". I'm not gonna look for it now, but there was a list of over 100 rights that you don't get if you are not married.

If you plan to raise a family you have to get married, that's if you want to be able to lead and manage your family effectively. As for exit penalties, they have prenups for that, and you should be marrying someone in a similar financial bracket, so alimony would be a moot point anyway.

I know this a old thread but the bolded is false. I have my parents named as my beneficiary

 

[MeachTheMonster]

I know this a old thread but the bolded is false. I have my parents named as my beneficiary

Because they are your parents. You can't name your "girlfriend" as your beneficiary.

 

[concise]

Why the mods edit this cold hard truth on Feb 2014 ?

There were probably nudes included in that message.

 

[Colicat]

Hmm... over a year and a half later, I wonder if these dudes still feel the same way

Excuse me,
@RamDam12
@villain
@blvdbrawler
@sfgiants
@winb83
@DonkeyPuncher718
@hiphopprofessor15

Y'all still on the noringonit wave? How y'alls SO feel about that?

 

[I'm Billy FUCO!!]

None of us even have their pocket change and are so worried about "Losin' it all."

Alright, hold up......because I need to address some shyt......

Could somebody PLEASE explain why whenever someone (usually some chick) talks about men fearing divorce/wanting prenups, there's always that person who says some dumb shyt like "why y'all nikkas so scared of losing shyt in divorce? Ain't like y'all got much to take anyway "

Now let's put on our fukking thinking caps here.......

I mean, seriously......somebody come in here and explain what the fukk is so hard to understand about "the less money you have, the more you would - and SHOULD - be concerned about losing any of it"

Chris Rock even already broke this shyt down .....he said "If you got $20 million and your wife want $10 million, big deal, you ain't starving........but if you got $30,000 and your wife want $15,000, you might have to kill her"

 

[Colicat]

Alright, hold up......because I need to address some shyt......

Could somebody PLEASE explain why whenever someone (usually some chick) talks about men fearing divorce/wanting prenups, there's always that person who says some dumb shyt like "why y'all nikkas so scared of losing shyt in divorce? Ain't like y'all got much to take anyway "

Now let's put on our fukking thinking caps here.......

I mean, seriously......somebody come in here and explain what the fukk is so hard to understand about "the less money you have, the more you would - and SHOULD - be concerned about losing any of it"

Chris Rock even already broke this shyt down .....he said "If you got $20 million and your wife want $10 million, big deal, you ain't starving........but if you got $30,000 and your wife want $15,000, you might have to kill her"

Your logic is unrealistic.... Most people marry within their income bracket.... If you divorce someone who is in your income bracket, no judge is going to give the wife 50% of your damn income... be real....

If you bought a home together, the wife may get the home, but she gets the mortgage too...

 

[MikelArteta]

marriage is a old relic,its not worth it for any maan, don't do it. Live free men live free