Who’s wrong in this situation?

[Ashley Banks]

The single mother seems totally fraudulent.

They both knew what was in the spirit of his action, and she went ahead and did something different to their agreed agenda. She's limiting the legitimate, rightful potential of the kid who's got a financially supportive dad so that her other kids don't have to suffer as much for her failure at picking life partners or practicing contraception.

Right! What I’m saying is if one dad gave you $600 why can’t you provide $600 for your other kids? If he wants to spend $600 on his child for school, why can’t he? Because you can’t do the same for your children?

 

[hostsamurai]

This scenario came up before.

I would feel some type of way, but at the same time I think it would be more damaging for my kid in the long run to see his other siblings with less.

I would expect her to pay me back. Wouldn't push it but I would think less of her if she didn't.

The mom is at fault, but now the guy has to charge it to the game. Still, she can only try this once. Now the guy is going to buy the kid the supplies from now on and she'll never get cash unless it's a really dire situation. At least that's what a rational person would do.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

He should've bought the school supplies himself.

Simple solution.
Take your child out school shopping yourself

He gets to spend time with his child and make sure he knows exactly what the money is being spent on.

 

[Ashley Banks]

So how is her splitting the money bum behavior but begging family for the money any better?

So you would then only spend $100 on the child with no father while the other 2 are getting $1100 each.

That answer makes no sense. The wishes of a man wouldn't come before the wellbeing of all my children.

Imma just agree to disagree with you on this one.

Um okay

Idk how not just using the money without asking makes no sense but alright. lol

 

[Ashley Banks]

This scenario came up before.

I would feel some type of way, but at the same time I think it would be more damaging for my kid in the long run to see his other siblings with less.

I would expect her to pay me back. Wouldn't push it but I would think less of her if she didn't.

I keep asking the same question but everyone just skated over it and says I’m wrong for assuming but why can’t the mom provide for the others if one is taken care of? Why is it at the point that the siblings get less if it isn’t from the baby daddy #3? Or she could ask to borrow the money but just taking is a sure way to make sure he never trusts you with cash again.

 

[Umoja]

The mom is at fault, but now the guy has to charge it to the game. Still, she can only try this once. Now the guy is going to buy the kid the supplies from now on and she'll never get cash unless it's a really dire situation. At least that's what a rational person would do.

I see it from both sides.

As a man, I would not be comfortable buying my son/daughter nice things, or things that they need, knowing that their siblings are struggling. I suppose I am the sort of person who would see my ex's children (before or after) as my children in the event that I have a child with them.

If my kid wanted something like a Playstation, I would see that as something I should get my youth. I would expect my kid to want their siblings to be looked after so, in effect, it is something I would have to provide for them. The alternative would be raising my kid to not care about his family which, as I said before, is more damaging in the long run.

Why I see it from both sides is I believe people should operate with pride and integrity. I would expect the mother to realise it isn't my responsibility and take the steps required to ensure all things are equal.

I keep asking the same question but everyone just skated over it and says I’m wrong for assuming but why can’t the mom provide for the others if one is taken care of? Why is it at the point that the siblings get less if it isn’t from the baby daddy #3? Or she could ask to borrow the money but just taking is a sure way to make sure he never trusts you with cash again.

I think I covered that with the expectation that she pays me back. My feeling would be that she should take care of it, or find an alternative. I would feel some type of way about it. But ultimately my child would come first.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Um okay

Idk how not just using the money without asking makes no sense but alright. lol

Because the wellbeing of children should come before the happiness of a man who is no longer in the household. My priority would be my children. His happiness isn far far down the list.

And the part that doesn't make sense is you willingly give 1 child $100 when at the very least you could give them $300. I don't understand that.

 

[NoMorePie]

The father should have taken his kid shopping himself to ensure he knew exactly where the money was gonna go.

Either that or he shouldn't have given her shyt

 

[Ashley Banks]

Because the wellbeing of children should come before the happiness of a man who is no longer in the household. My priority would be my children. His happiness isn far far down the list.

And the part that doesn't make sense is you willingly give 1 child $100 when at the very least you could give them $300. I don't understand that.

Maybe I read your post wrong but I thought you said I had $300 of my own money and was given $2000 for the other kids so I said I would spend $300 on each kid(my $300 and $600 from the 2k) and I would explain the situation to the dad and give him the rest of the cash back. Yes the well-being comes first but your kids will be just fine with $300 worth of clothes if that’s all you have.

You also need to maintain the relationship with the child’s father and taking the money he gives you for one purpose and spending it on another behind his back and telling him too bad so sad is a good way to make him not trust you. Maybe you don’t care about that but if I think it’s important.

If he wants to take his kids shopping on their own then he can with the cash I gave back. And I’ll save up and buy the other child more stuff later in the year.

 

[J.E.T.S]

I'm buying exactly what my kid needs. fukk that.

 

[FcKuPaYmE]

There is a thread on this.

 

[Barnett114]

Negged for stupidity and sounding like a male identified woman

 

[Mandarin Duck]

I keep asking the same question but everyone just skated over it and says I’m wrong for assuming but why can’t the mom provide for the others if one is taken care of?

The obvious answer is she's a piece of shyt mother.

He should've known this and took his child out shopping on his own.

 

[Eternally Jaded]

The father should have taken his kid shopping himself to ensure he knew exactly where the money was gonna go.

Either that or he shouldn't have given her shyt

He takes his kid shopping for school supplies, you know what's gonna happen as soon as the kid is back with Mommy?

"Can't you just give your little brother/sister some of these pens and notebooks baby, you're probably not gonna even need all that. I didn't raise you to be selfish, now did i?"

Like I said, dude gotta be realistic about the situation he's in.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Negged for stupidity and sounding like a male identified woman

Un-neg me right now