Why are men expected to provide and protect?

MischievousMonkey

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Of course not. If I married you and I have built equity into you, then I won't leave because I'm not gonna be young forever either.
I agree with that as well, and that's because she'll be more than her looks or house responsibilities. Her spirit, her ambition, all that won't fade away like beauty.
 

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I have a father and he was married to my mom lmao

Doesn't mean the marriage wasn't fukked up :manny:

Y'all weird as fukk with the shaming tactics

In one of my posts, I literally said that you were “either fatherless or didn’t witness a healthy relationship.”

Per your own text, I was right. I even said this AFTER you stated that you never saw a functional relationship. I’m regurgitating your own words & you are juelzing.
 

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In one of my posts, I literally said that you were “either fatherless or didn’t witness a healthy relationship.”

Per your own text, I was right. I even said this AFTER you stated that you never saw a functional relationship. I’m regurgitating your own words & you are juelzing.
I'm not juelzing

You said it in a way to shade my character lol

Also most black people I would think didn't see many healthy relationships lol
 

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I've never gotten my answer & I have more questions to ask :sas1:.
:yeshrug: I ran to go do some work. My job is 24/ 7 and, really, we're nearing the end of my available time.

What do I do? Well, first off, he transitioned to working from home a few yrs ago, so I cook all three meals. (And as of yesterday, he'd like me to start making dog food as well which will save money and help maintain the health of our aging Yorkie.) Since he's home, I operate as an assistant, brining coffee, water, meals, and snacks (bc he really can't get off the desk). In addition to helping whatever way I can with his work, I have my own. 1. Normal housekeeping plus seasonal extras. It's a lot bc literally all he has to do is take out the trash and I do three meals a day worth of dishes everyday. Plus, extra bathroom maintenance bc he's not at the office. 2. Meal prep which can get extensive depending on what he wants. 3. 'Special projects' which can include anything from, as stated earlier, the entire 5000 yr history of Iran, to figuring out how to make healthy dog food with all the nutrients he needs, to him wanting me to learn Middle Eastern cuisine bc he likes lamb. That's just today. A Sunday, if you'll recall. :usure: 4. I give 1.5 days/ wk to outside errands and about half a day to budgeting, creating shopping lists, etc.

I don't normally cook on the weekends, he gives me a break, but last night, I asked him which sides he wanted with the steak I had thawed out. Lo mein? Dominican rice and beans? Americana? This was a Saturday night, mind you. (He chose Italian, btw, which meant I made a sauce from scratch at 2 am.) Every year, I learn two or three whole new skills. Can be anything. Last year, it was our relocation to the country (that covers several sub categories), Chinese cuisine, furniture making, and other girly stuff that saves money. I do all this while staying slim, cute, and dtf. 24/7.
 

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Sex is like the tires on a car for me. Yes you need tires to drive but it ain't the entire car. Sex is important for a relationship but it's not the end all or be all for being with a woman.

I would rather a woman who I can trust fully and that I can use to help reach my goals(vice versa for her).
I look at a relationship as a partnership and I wouldn't deal with any woman who would skip out on me if I fell off as a man.

Those things you listed are apart of feeling good about a woman for me. Knowing that she is a solid individual.

You're also listening things you want in a man that I want in a woman. I want a woman who will help me out too and who will defend my name.

My problem is with a woman falling in love with me because I did well for myself and her only seeing me as a provider.
She gotta fukk with the man I am.

So basically your standards are okay but women are horrible and wrong because you feel like you know what's better for a woman to want. Your issue is feel like you should able to dictate what women should look for in a man. Cool.

We should have to adhere to your standards but not have any of our own outside of "feeling good."

:comeon:
 
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:yeshrug: I ran to go do some work. My job is 24/ 7 and, really, we're nearing the end of my available time.

What do I do? Well, first off, he transitioned to working from home a few yrs ago, so I cook all three meals. (And as of yesterday, he'd like me to start making dog food as well which will save money and help maintain the health of our aging Yorkie.) Since he's home, I operate as an assistant, brining coffee, water, meals, and snacks (bc he really can't get off the desk). In addition to helping whatever way I can with his work, I have my own. 1. Normal housekeeping plus seasonal extras. It's a lot bc literally all he has to do is take out the trash and I do three meals a day worth of dishes everyday. Plus, extra bathroom maintenance bc he's not at the office. 2. Meal prep which can get extensive depending on what he wants. 3. 'Special projects' which can include anything from, as stated earlier, the entire 5000 yr history of Iran, to figuring out how to make healthy dog food with all the nutrients he needs, to him wanting me to learn Middle Eastern cuisine bc he likes lamb. That's just today. A Sunday, if you'll recall. :usure: 4. I give 1.5 days/ wk to outside errands and about half a day to budgeting, creating shopping lists, etc.

I don't normally cook on the weekends, he gives me a break, but last night, I asked him which sides he wanted with the steak I had thawed out. Lo mein? Dominican rice and beans? Americana? This was a Saturday night, mind you. (He chose Italian, btw, which meant I made a sauce from scratch at 2 am.) Every year, I learn two or three whole new skills. Can be anything. Last year, it was our relocation to the country (that covers several sub categories), Chinese cuisine, furniture making, and other girly stuff that saves money. I do all this while staying slim, cute, and dtf. 24/7.
This is cool but see you're not lazy tho to certain extents you are working, whereas other women in our community who want to be stay at home wives wouldn't even do what you're doing for him, yourself & the household...some women would scoff at everything you're doing.
 
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