Why Are Men Who Claim "Good/Nice" Hated Sohh?

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

It's always easier to point the finger at others than to look at yourself and address your own deficiencies. Women do the same shyt "she think she cute ". It's everybody else fault that you don't have anybody but your own. I think the biggest problem we have in the dating game is people not recognizing their own level and either acting accordingly or looking to upgrade themselves. Too many be men and women chasing behind people that are frankly not on their level and getting frustrated when they get treated accordingly.

I mean, not to walk right into the pointing fingers elsewhere thing, cause I agree, but society kind of pushes the idea that you can be and do anything. Every movie, the guy gets the girl. Doug Heffernan is plugging Leah Rimini etc. Lot of dreams being sold. But real life doesn't work like that. People have to put in work and demonstrate value to win.

 

[Jason B]

Honestly I can't explain why they like it, I think it just some primal type shyt or something. It really pays to go for yours, I've seen how much chicks love it. Hell, when you do the opposite I've seen how much a woman will hate your guts. Weakness ain't the move at all, so that a$$hole shyt is the antithesis to the weak shyt. You don't have to be an a$$hole, but I'll be damned if I ain't seen the shyt work well. I mean, shawty ends up doing all types of things for dude and he pretty much tosses her once he finds a new chicks. The downside is he got a lot of BMs and they be beefin, so like I said it's a double edged sword.

But my thing is that a guy does not necessarily have to be weak period. A guy could be strong yet show decency and still end up catching hell for it. But the dudes who are truly a$$holes never have to worry about this happening to them since they are what women desire. Nothing wrong with that but women need to stop spewing that bullshyt about men having to bring decency and respect to the table when in actually they view that as a bad thing.

 

[Jason B]

@FTBS: Your posts are on point. Niceness is really weakness but women also have contempt for general respectfulness, which is not the same as niceness. Every man should subscribe to the "treat women like shyt and they will stick like mud" mentality because it works unfortunately.

 

[FTBS]

I mean, not to walk right into the pointing fingers elsewhere thing, cause I agree, but society kind of pushes the idea that you can be and do anything. Every movie, the guy gets the girl. Doug Heffernan is plugging Leah Rimini etc. Lot of dreams being sold. But real life doesn't work like that. People have to put in work and demonstrate value to win.

Breh every single teenage movie or TV show features a weak ass insecure dude lusting after some tramp with a heart of gold and jumping through every hoop until they end up together. If you don't have people around you that keep it 100% and put you up on real game (parents, aunt, uncle, big brother/sister, cousin) in this society you are screwed. Sad but true.

 

[Won Won]

@2Quik4UHoes: It is crazy how being that a$$hole who disregards decency is highly desired by females but it is not a surprise since women in general love unsavory, fukked up dudes anyway (look at how women all over the internet and elsewhere are lusting after that Jeremy Meeks dude as he is fits into that mold). So essentially, despite their so-called complaints about those types of men, women encourage such "negative" behavior by being very accepting of them yet they will spew that bullshyt about how they want a generally decent, respectful guy (not nice guy). Hence, any man with sense will look at actions instead of words and become that same a$$hole that women desire greatly because that type of dude is winning. Anybody who says otherwise is totally ignorant or pretending to be so for whatever reason.

Ladies are going gaga over that dude because he looks like a goddamn Calvin Klein model. No different than all these "hot mugshot" roundups. And I seriously doubt that the majority of women are bullshytting when they say they want a respectful guy. Quit hanging around hood nuggets

 

[Jason B]

Ladies are going gaga over that dude because he looks like a goddamn Calvin Klein model. No different than all these "hot mugshot" roundups. And I seriously doubt that the majority of women are bullshytting when they say they want a respectful guy. Quit hanging around hood nuggets

To be honest, the looks argument is baseless because I personally a number of men who may not be considered as attractive as Meeks yet have unsavory characters (they are hella grimy across the board) and they have no issues getting women. No one can tell me that a woman wants a decent, respectful man because I know it is a total lie which is based on looking at the general actions of women.

 

[FTBS]

But my thing is that a guy does not necessarily have to be weak period. A guy could be strong yet show decency and still end up catching hell for it. But the dudes who are truly a$$holes never have to worry about this happening to them since they are what women desire. Nothing wrong with that but women need to stop spewing that bullshyt about men having to bring decency and respect to the table when in actually they view that as a bad thing.

@FTBS: Your posts are on point. Niceness is really weakness but women also have contempt for general respectfulness, which is not the same as niceness. Every man should subscribe to the "treat women like shyt and they will stick like mud" mentality because it works unfortunately.

Women who don't respond to being treated well have issues and really aren't worth the time, effort, or thought. A real woman is going to appreciate a man being respectful. A silly bird isn't. Guys have to learn the difference between the two. More often than not though "nice" guys are just pushovers who are too insecure to just be themselves. Guys should do them and let the chips fall where they may. Women want decency and respect in addition to those other qualities not in lieu of them. Just like dudes want a loyal, ride or die chick in addition to a cute face and a fat ass. There are plenty of fat chicks out here looking for a "nice" guy but most guys even "nice" ones aren't checking for them. You cant' be shallow and then complain about the shallowness in those who don't want your ass.

 

[Jason B]

@FTBS: You're right about "nice guys". My position is that guys who exhibit decency and respect face the same fate as the nice guys. Therefore, the qualities you mentioned in your previous post are the only ones that a man should bring to the table not decency.

 

[FTBS]

@FTBS: You're right about "nice guys". My position is that guys who exhibit decency and respect face the same fate as the nice guys. Therefore, the qualities you mentioned in your previous post are the only ones that a man should bring to the table not decency.

Women who don't respond to being treated well have issues and really aren't worth the time, effort, or thought. A real woman is going to appreciate a man being respectful. A silly bird isn't. Guys have to learn the difference between the two. More often than not though "nice" guys are just pushovers who are too insecure to just be themselves. Guys should do them and let the chips fall where they may. Women want decency and respect in addition to those other qualities not in lieu of them. Just like dudes want a loyal, ride or die chick in addition to a cute face and a fat ass. There are plenty of fat chicks out here looking for a "nice" guy but most guys even "nice" ones aren't checking for them. You cant' be shallow and then complain about the shallowness in those who don't want your ass.

Decency and respect is welcomed by decent and respectable women. The reality is there are far more silly birds than decent respectable women though.

 

[Jason B]

Decency and respect is welcomed by decent and respectable women. The reality is there are far more silly birds than decent respectable women though.

I used to think the decent women valued decent men until I seen numerous women who carried themselves with decency get involve with men who were hella grimy. Therefore I know wholeheartedly that all women like men who are unsavory in general.

 

[FTBS]

I used to think the decent women valued decent men until I seen numerous women who carried themselves with decency get involve with men who were hella grimy. Therefore I know wholeheartedly that all women like men who are unsavory in general.

That's why you can never judge a person by their words or what they project. You gotta look at their actions. If a chick carries herself with decency and she's with some grimey ass dude then guess what...she's grimey too. The person you are with says a lot about you.

 

[Jason B]

That's why you can never judge a person by their words or what they project. You gotta look at their actions. If a chick carries herself with decency and she's with some grimey ass dude then guess what...she's grimey too. The person you are with says a lot about you.

Of course actions carry more weight words. The thing is these particular women were raised to value decency so it's not like they didn't know any better when they chose those fukked up men. I can cite many women in my family as perfect examples of what I am talking about.

 

[FTBS]

Of course actions carry more weight words. The thing is these particular women were raised to value decency so it's not like they didn't know any better when they chose those fukked up men. I can cite many women in my family as perfect examples of what I am talking about.

Me too. Many dudes are raised to be decent and turn out being degenerates.

 

[Blackout]

Lol. Players don't get "rewarded" for "being players". U cant just wake up one day and say 'im a player' and all of a sudden have women at your feet. shyt doesn't work like that. U really have no idea how women/dating work. How old are you fam?

And lol @ the idea that all "players" "play women". What does that mean? U do realize not every chick wants a relationship, and many are cool w/shyt just being casual and open, right? U do realize "players" don't have to manipulate or lie to get the results with women they want, right? U on some good and evil knight in shining armor bullshyt

Where did I say that? Stop putting words in my mouth.

Yea they do get rewarded for being players.

A guy gets a women and more women pay attention to him because he is committed therefore since he chose to be a player he cheats on her. A player is known to be with many women cheating on all of them therefore he gets popular which gets him more women. A player is so used to approaching different women by cheating and chasing almost every chick he sees that he perfects his method to getting women. A player is so used to getting women that his confidence is though the roof therefore women like that and he gets more.

Players win everyday b.

1, Im a dude fam. U never watched the show Martin? 2, a "good and friendly personality" is not something worth bragging about or something that is hard to find. There are "players" with "good and friendly personalities", but also, good senses of humor, charisma, legit confidence, broad perspectives, intelligence, etc etc. And they don't have to wear these things on their sleeve like a "nice guy". U sound like a nikka bragging about having 10 toes and fingers. "I can type mad fast ma"

Well if your a dude then it looks like you must be a player yourself and are mad cuz im making women aware of yall.

I hope you dont ever have a daughter b.

 

[VICVALLIN]

nikkas acting like they was born under a fukkin rock. when a woman says she's not attracted to, "nice" guys, she's not talking about gentlemen who treat others with respect, but are still confident enough to command respect. most of these dudes that consider themselves, "nice" are not like that. they believe they will get respect by constantly giving in and not displaying a backbone. those are the guys women are talking about when they say they don't want nice guys. they're saying they want a man that's confident, that speaks his mind, and is willing to disappoint her to maintain his own self-respect. of course you crybaby ass nikkas already knew that.