Why are single moms the devil again?

[SeveroDrgnfli]

I don't go out my way looking for single moms, but attraction is attraction.

Ditto. I want a family. I am adopted. The fukk I look like NOT dating women with kids. If my mom had the attitude a lot of men have towards single parents I probably would have been in out of jail my whole life, in the military, or dead before 24.

Not only do I respect single moms, I find their commitment to trying to fix their lives to be accountable for their children attractive.

Sometimes those post pregnancy bodies are ten flame emojis too. I also like knowing if I do get her pregnant we're going to keep it or we're not. They either want more or no more ever. Most work. I'm distant. They have kids to raise. They don't stalk me. They don't play as much games as single girls without kids too.

The good ones anyway. I've dated one I I planned to marry. It didn't work out, I don't hate all single moms. I don't even hate her to be honest.

 

[roxxthe96er]

Cause a fair amount of the time they bitter an raise their kid to be a simp...

 

[ahdsend]

 

[Urbanmiracle]

I think most men (in particular) vilify single mothers because they often try to over compensate for the "mistakes" that happened with the baby father with whomever they deal with next. But I think most women ( well most people rather) do that. Then a nikka reaction will be: where were all these rules for this last dude? It's just the logical part of the brain that comes to the conclusion that they need to pick better partners. But women are mostly guided by emotional triggers that can pulled with the right words or gestures that will override any common sense.

I have dated a few single mothers and I don't judge. But in my experience it was either:

1) she tried to use me as a provider while still caring for this nikka who ain't doing shyt.

2) A straight prude now that she has a living constant reminder of her implusive behavior

3) the nikka sees she doing better and while he don't want her, he also don't want her happy so he gonna try to disrupt shyt

4) very rare that they are cool "normal" folks who just so happen to have a child.

Whatever the case, I go in with no pre judgements and move accordingly

 

[EndDomination]

So for the guys who won't date single mothers (can't fault you, your choice). Do you have a lot of single mothers approaching you trying to connect?

Actually, yes.
I'm 20, there isn't a chance in Hell I want any kind of responsibility like that, and outside of that, none of them meet any of my (requirements?) or are into the things I'm into. I've gone on a few dates, and regretted it.

 

[Urbanmiracle]

Another quick note, single mothers (well the responsibile ones) usually have the "wife" qualities that most men look for if only because they had no choice. I've dated a few they had their own places, their money right, cars, a driven mindset because they are aware of the bad stigma associated with being a single mother and refuse to let that define who they are. Then I had some that still lived with their parents, depended on the system and just had a shytty outlook on life and had their kids as a burden. Those are the ones to avoid

 

[Slystallion]

Speaking in generalities most men's instincts tell them to beware because someone else didn't think they were good enough to keep even after having a child

It's also not appealing to raise someone else's child and it's a financial and emotional burden

So normally it's perceived that only the most desperate and undesirable would put themselves in that position to be that woman's savior

Every case is different some women legit might have gotten pregnant by a psychopath or their babies father may have died or locked up for decades(probably not a good sign either cuz her choice in men is poor)

 

[The ADD]

Actually, yes.
I'm 20, there isn't a chance in Hell I want any kind of responsibility like that, and outside of that, none of them meet any of my (requirements?) or are into the things I'm into. I've gone on a few dates, and regretted it.

Like I said, I don't can't fault people one way or the other if you do it don't.

I was just trying to get an idea of where the connection to interact with them was happening. It sounds like (for the people who responded) that they are being actively sought out and approached by them consistently which is interesting.

I'm still puzzle by the guys who had bad experiences. Seems strange that you would even attempt since most of the objection raised are inherent to the situation.

 

[Jack Skellington]

fukk single moms and anybody that love em

or better yet, fukk single moms who's baby father/s are not in the childrens life and anybody that love em

 

[SadimirPutin]

I dont have a problem with single mothers

I have a problem with "bad mothers".................the two are not the same

 

[Urbanmiracle]

Speaking in generalities most men's instincts tell them to beware because someone else didn't think they were good enough to keep even after having a child

It's also not appealing to raise someone else's child and it's a financial and emotional burden

So normally it's perceived that only the most desperate and undesirable would put themselves in that position to be that woman's savior

Every case is different some women legit might have gotten pregnant by a psychopath or their babies father may have died or locked up for decades(probably not a good sign either cuz her choice in men is poor)

To put this perspective: I think us and monkeys ( even though I can't be sure) are the only animals on earth that believe in and practice stepchildren. Even in the animal kingdom single motherhood is frown upon. If a lion kills another lion and takes his mate, he kills her children and makes his own. Barbaric yes but nature usually gets it right...

 

[wickedsm]

Someone above said single motherhood will rapidly decrease when we men get it together. I disagree. The onus is on the woman to stop spreading their legs for aint shyt nikkas. Women, obviously, have the pussc, but more importantly, the black community is matriarchal. If tomorrow, all black women said that they wanted a stephen curry, nikkas would be at H&M and quoting bible scriptures overnight. Women literally have that power.

It takes two to make a child, yes, but ultimately having a child is on the woman in this age of zillions of contraceptives and options like abortion. Blaming aint shyt nikkas primarily aint always the move.

However, I'll never say fukk single moms as a whole, I evaluate them on an individual case basis, because granted their situation is not always their fault -- failed relationship, infidelity, nigs go to jail, nigs die etc. Single mothers only become "the devil" in my eyes when they have multiple children with ain't shyt nikkas and absolutely refuse to be accountable for their actions, or consciously keep brothas out of their children's lives on some revenge shyt. They then top that off with using shaming tactics on other well to do brothas who call them out on their bullshyt. Nah, no sympathy.

A lot of brothas give em a pass (russell will), but understandably nigs with standards absolutely refuse to deal with them(regardless of why you're a single mom) because it's straight up baggage.

Calling single moms "devils" is a little harsh, but they should know early that they wont be putting forth a desirable proposition to a good brother who doesn't wants to continue another nikkas saved game. Making that man feel demonized is my issue, but that's mostly because i'm 30 with no kids and get that all the time.

And of course, we can't leave out white supremacy.

this is interesting. i hope you or one of the other brehs can expand on this
how is this shaming or demonizing different specifically to single moms and not say overweight women or unattractive women or unemployed women?
if thats not what you want why would it make you feel any type of way?

im not trying to be funny, i would really like to know. and ive seen this comment pop up numerous time here
as a woman i dont feel any way that broke men or unattractive men say things about women not wanting to be with them
i certainly dont feel shamed or demonized. and why would i?

* for you specifically kenyan it sounds like you just get those typical "oh my gosh! what do you mean you dont have kids yet?" type comments from people that everyone tends to get around your age,
thats not a baby mamma thing, married people do it, older people do it, its just super common. now whether they think they are being helpful or want you to be miserable like them really depends on the person though

 

[Draje]

You got a group of nikkas who constantly say shyt like "I'm just trying to fukk", nikkas who sell dreams for a chance at p*ssy, and will have no problem putting on a nice guy persona until they get the draws yet we're blaming woman for not immediately being able to decipher if he's actually being honest?

nikkas don't go at deadbeat dads, absent fathers, dudes who fukk and run, etc with nearly the same amount of anger / hatred they go at single moms.

 

[The ADD]

fukk single moms and anybody that love em

or better yet, fukk single moms who's baby father/s are not in the childrens life and anybody that love em

If the fathers aren't in the kids life the. Why not the same sentiment for them?

 

[Urbanmiracle]

You got a group of nikkas who constantly say shyt like "I'm just trying to fukk", nikkas who sell dreams for a chance at p*ssy, and will have no problem putting on a nice guy persona until they get the draws yet we're blaming woman for not immediately being able to decipher if he's actually being honest?

nikkas don't go at deadbeat dads, absent fathers, dudes who fukk and run, etc with nearly the same amount of anger / hatred they go at single moms.

Its usually ( and unfairly) assumed that the single mothers either played or rejected or looked over the "nice guys" to mess with the "ain't shyt nikkas" in her "prime" i.e. before she had offspring. While this may be true in some SOME cases, cats who come in after the fact feel a way because they have to deal with the aftermath while the baby daddy gets to do whatever he wants while ignoring the consequences. And as someone said, women have to allow us to enter between their legs. And as I've said, women don't think logically. If the deadbeat dad knows how to pull on her emotions strings and make her feel "that thing" she thinks is love and affection, the panties slide right off without second thought. I do believe men should be held accountable but then the single mothers don't even bother. She just says "he ain't shyt" and keeps it moving