Why Are Yall Still Getting Married In 2017

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

LOL. Cmon son. Everyone loves to hear stories about infidelity in a marriage because it sells papers and envokes the greatest invention since the history of humankind. FEAR.

Fear is irrational. What one man does with his private life is and should be of no consequence to you. I never see rich cats occupying their time worrying about broke dudes. Marriage isn't for all people man including those who should choose better.

I love the coli.com but these kinds of daily threads on here are getting ridiculous. For every GMB post/thread, someone needs to counter about the positive aspects of marriage. Brehs/Brehettes probably wont because nobody wants to hear or see anyone doing better than they are.

 

[Tombstone]

So what Im gettin from this thread is:

The benefits of marriage

Expanding ur wealth (even tho u can do that without being married tbh but it works better when ur legally married)
Giving ur kids ur last name (good point)
Want a stable family unit (probably the best reason but u can have a ceremony and act as a family either way)

So two ballers getting married in 2017 is a GOOD look.

None of us are ballers though.

Every other reason to file for a wedding license and get married is some sentimental emotional reason

• "I dont wanna grow old alone" - u dont have to get married to grow old with someone u love. Ur gonna die alone anyways wtf
• "i want a stable family"- u can do that without a marriage license and co parenting is manageable
• "Choose better women"- women arent the problem, the government is. The government just uses them
• "We been together forever"- u can be together forever without being legally married to. Are yall married bc u want to or shes stuck around so long
• "I dont wanna lose her"- Kill urself
• "I always wanted to get married"- why bc thats what u been forcefed or do u actually want to? We get forcefed alot of bs
• "My parents/grandparents still married"- marriage was more privatized plus different set of values back then compared to now.

99% well 100% of actual good women I meet they always believe in marriage. Usually Christian women who want that. Just how they were raised. I dont really believe in marriage but if thats my babygirl and I want her long term with kids and I know thats a big issue for her Ill take it the L.

But it has to be after a couple years and we need to live together before bein married so I get her whole side.

 

[DaPresident]

Cause some of our minds haven't been polluted with foolishness and we are mature enough to understand that everyone doesn't have the same experiences

 

[MaxPain]

LOL. Cmon son. Everyone loves to hear stories about infidelity in a marriage because it sells papers and envokes the greatest invention since the history of humankind. FEAR.

Fear is irrational. What one man does with his private life is and should be of no consequence to you. I never see rich cats occupying their time worrying about broke dudes. Marriage isn't for all people man including those who should choose better.

I love the coli.com but these kinds of daily threads on here are getting ridiculous. For every GMB post/thread, someone needs to counter about the positive aspects of marriage. Brehs/Brehettes probably wont because nobody wants to hear or see anyone doing better than they are.

This isnt about infidelity or fear or any of that

This is literally about the government and its bullshyt meddling with marriage and why are men still filing marriage licenses with state to get married which is most likely going to
fail and then get cleaned out by the state and lawyers......

All the other points u brought up are on some "man yall needa grow up" bullshyt. No, the government needs to step the fukk off this racket.

If I got divorced the last thing id be worried about is infidelity my life could be ruined financially

Its not about me worrying about everything the next man is doing. Its not like I worry about this all day.Its me trying to get behind the thought process behind of a man who sees the odds of this , gets into a marriage that doesnt benefit him and ends up paying the state even though he saw that it was a bad idea.

 

[MaxPain]

99% well 100% of actual good women I meet they always believe in marriage. Usually Christian women who want that. Just how they were raised. I dont really believe in marriage but if thats my babygirl and I want her long term with kids and I know thats a big issue for her Ill take it the L.

But it has to be after a couple years and we need to live together before bein married so I get her whole side.

Religious marriages usually last longer. So I fukk with this point.


The rest of these dudes give emotional reasons or try to pull that "u needa grow out GMB" bs . Im just seeing for what it is (a business racket)

 

[Tombstone]

Religious marriages usually last longer. So I fukk with this point.


The rest of these dudes give emotional reasons or try to pull that "u needa grow out GMB" bs . Im just seeing for what it is (a business racket)

Yeah a lotta folk just wanna get married for the social aspect/family pressures/dont wanna be lonely.

fukk all that Im cool doin my own thing, but if I meet another good woman and I dont fukk it up like I always do then she wifey 100

But it aint somethin I stress.

 

[Weaver31]

because two incomes >>> one
getting old with someone you love >>> being old and alone
stable two parent household >> co parenting >>>>>>> single parenting

All true but supposed if a man marries a woman who has old traditional views and wanna quit her job and still demand a big home designed for 2 incomes.

 

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

This isnt about infidelity or fear or any of that

This is literally about the government and its bullshyt meddling with marriage and why are men still filing marriage licenses with state to get married which is most likely going to
fail and then get cleaned out by the state and lawyers......

All the other points u brought up are on some "man yall needa grow up" bullshyt. No, the government needs to step the fukk off this racket.

If I got divorced the last thing id be worried about is infidelity my life could be ruined financially

Its not about me worrying about everything the next man is doing. Its not like I worry about this all day.Its me trying to get behind the thought process behind of a man who sees the odds of this , gets into a marriage that doesnt benefit him and ends up paying the state even though he saw that it was a bad idea.

You make valid points on the state being involved in the union of marriage, however, it is a big business that funds industries across the spectrum. Thinking the state will cease in being involved in marriage is ambitious. I do think the validity of virtuous men and women being unavailable for marriage is a fact, and we should not condemn the principle or idea of marriage but rather take a look at why these men and women are unfit for holy matrimony/union.

I personally believe that marriage is a wonderful thing if the people are fully prepared for that journey. I think we as a society in America have taken the approach with technology advancements and ease and applied those principles to areas where they don't necessarily fit. For example, using the notion that marriage is a business in America, for every business that runs successfully and develops into a corporation, they weather different business climates by adapting. If that principle was common practice in the business world, every corporation would not go out of business. People are the same way. If you expect your marriage to survive challenges of the world you must adapt or else perish where you stand.

Dudes/Women want to enter into marriage and expect the same thing every day that they seen growing up and that isn't the way the world operates. Yeah its nice to have a woman stay at home and raise children and or work and make a sizeable income and go on vacations but that doesn't necessarily always mean it should be that way.

 

[MaxPain]

You make valid points on the state being involved in the union of marriage, however, it is a big business that funds industries across the spectrum. Thinking the state will cease in being involved in marriage is ambitious. I do think the validity of virtuous men and women being unavailable for marriage is a fact, and we should not condemn the principle or idea of marriage but rather take a look at why these men and women are unfit for holy matrimony/union.

I personally believe that marriage is a wonderful thing if the people are fully prepared for that journey. I think we as a society in america have taken the approach with technology and applied those principles into areas where they dont necessarily fit. For example, using the notion that marriage is a business in america, for every business that runs successfully and develops into a corporation, they weather different business climates by adapting. If that principle is commonpractice in the business world, every corporation would not go out of business. People are the same way. If you expect your marriage to survive challenges of the world you must adapt or else perish where you stand.

Dudes/Women want to enter into marriage and expect the same thing every day that they seen growing up and that isn't the way the world operates. Yeah its nice to have a woman stay at home and raise children and or work and make a sizeable income and go on vacations but that doesn't necessarily always mean it should be that way.

Very good reply...I liked ur points. And i think alot of people are NOT marriage material these days which is half the battle and the economy doesnt help. For the people who are marriage material this country isnt helping them and the government fuels the divide even further.

So with ur last point, what do u personally think needs to change in order for marriage to adapt and last longer? The old school way of the man working and the woman taking care of the home has been working for thousands of years....and this recent change has caused as u can see a buncha failed marriages. I cant think of anyway to fix it myself tbh and I admit that but the government having less to say in marriage is a good starting point.

 

[Palm Tree's & Blunts]

Their choice .

 

[ORDER_66]

#gmb :trollol:

 

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

Very good reply...I liked ur points. And i think alot of people are NOT marriage material these days which is half the battle and the economy doesnt help. For the people who are marriage material this country isnt helping them and the government fuels the divide even further.

So with ur last point, what do u personally think needs to change in order for marriage to adapt and last longer? The old school way of the man working and the woman taking care of the home has been working for thousands of years....and this recent change has caused as u can see a buncha failed marriages. I cant think of anyway to fix it myself tbh and I admit that but the government having less to say in marriage is a good starting point.

I think we have to change the way that we look at marriage. We have to look at adulthood and the decision making processes that come along with being an adult in today's world differently.

For example, I am 36. My folks when they were my age goals were owning a home and being able to afford to save to put their 3 children into college. Today, credit is cheaper and school loans are easily obtained, however, having children and owning a home is not. Could I have held on to my childhood ideals and expectations of what I believed marriage to be today and expect to be successful in doing such? Probably not. Heck, my first three jobs that I had out of High School/College no longer are in existence. So I approach marriage with the idea that it is just like the world of Capital Markets/Finance.

Some years will be good but depending on what you do with your capital when times are good will determine how well you can adapt and weather storms when they get bad. Good businesses hold on to their capital and invest wisely in their human capital so when there is a downturn, they can usually survive because they didn't get a full head and over expand, or take on more unnecessary risk. Same principles within marriage, especially since finances, are usually the leading factor in today's divorces.

Any successful business/marriage needs to start with a solid foundation and that starts from young, our adolescent years. Ideally, I would like for all humans across races to be in committed relationships before deciding to risk having children. People think marriage is the biggest commitment but anyone who has children will tell you that it is the ultimate/sacrifice. I think in seeing parents going through the ups and downs of a marriage and sticking it out is the first step. Experiencing relationships is also another key step in the process of getting yourself prepared for marriage. I see people say be single for a long time and play the field but that is actually quite incorrect. If you do not know how to have/foster a relationship due to lack of experience, how could you expect to jump into one and know what to expect. Not every relationship is the same, but, being in one definitely, prepares you for the experiences of putting someone else's feelings before your own.

That's just for starters. I could go deeper but I don't want to take away from your thread or the points that other posters are making.

 

[Koba St]

So what is the alternative then? Being an old unmarried man with no family? How the fukk is that even a good thing?

 

[Shadow King]

Divorce rates are down from when both of them got married.

I'ma need a link cause I don't believe that at all

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

So with the internet and this wide array of information on the SCAM that is the marriage BUSINESS in America and the divorce statistics being EXPOSED multiple time after TIME

Plus the low overall quality of women in this generation

Why are dudes still getting married? When they clearly see TIME and TIME again men gettin wrecked by alimony and child support. Yes even broke nikkas.

Whats even worse is the fukkheads that get married and whine about it on some "dont ever get married man" or work overtime to stay away from their wives, or the homeboy who spends all his time @ ur crib to stay away from his wife. Like no one forced u to get married dumb ass

Marriage and the divorce court has turned into a scam. It really needs to privatized cuz this shyt is a business to trap simps . Oh and prenups dont work so dont hit me with that

Are yall gettin pressured into marriage by ur girl? Family? In love? Just want steady p*ssy?

There is no advantage to get married as a man these days, u dont get a virtuous woman, half them cant cook and dont know how to treat a man. Wtf are u getting? Even good women can turn low morally and win cuz the option is always there.U are a slave to the STATE i cant even say u serve ur wife tbh. Only benefit i see is when two rich people marry to expand ur wealth. Most of us arent wealthy and woman marry up so we prolly dating a woman with a mediocre Mcdonalds value meal salary

Cuz when that damn near 3 out 4 chance of likey divorce comes u will be cashing out to not only ur wife but the government.

So with ALL this information that gets beaten in repitition and real life examples why are men still dumb enough to get married in America in 2017? Did yall not learn from anyones mistakes? What the fukk is wrong with u nikkas


Im bout to fukk around and be a divorce court lawyer or something. Somewhere with alot of unloyal materialistic women are at...like Cali. I will be filthy rich.

And if they hate then let them hate and watch the money pile up.

breh youve been here 8 mos or so...so i know youve seen this thread done atleast once a week for those 8 mos you been here....

truth be told most people wont ever have shyt worth taking in a divorce....most households today need 2 incomes and still cant get by...so where is all the extra money for alimony going to come from?

ive been married and divorced twice....there aint shyt you can tell about the process...ive seen it all

unless you had a stay at home wife...and im talking she stayed home for years and never worked and youre making a really nice income...alimony is most likely going to be a no-go

child support...thats another matter...there will be that ofcourse...but that has nothing to do with divorce

the problem with marriage and i can speak from personal experience...is that people dont know themselves well enough to know what they want out of life....so how in the world are you going to add another person into the mix when you even know what you want....for you?