I know, but the thing is as men yall are supposed to be better, and set examples, not stoop down their level
Not sure if I follow you. If a chick believes the grass is greener on the other side based on her limited experiences or preference, that's her prerogative. As a man, if she already has a preconceived notion about you and your kind, then why even waste your time? A woman has to have a desire to be led by a man before she'll follow. The disdain shown by both genders online isn't a good indication about black relations offline, though.
Like I said, I may hear a guy or girl say they prefer another race, but the hate that's thrown around online is almost unicorn status when I hit shut down. I'm also sketchy on the whole "she only dates thugs" mantra. I grew up far from a thug, (in college on academic scholarship, never been arrested, don't smoke, ext) but never had an issue finding black women in my life.
I just think it boils down to both sides pursing the wrong type of individuals and coming online to vent about it. If all she dates is thugs, are you really missing out on anything?