Why Do Black Men Struggle So Much With The Dissolution Of Friendships?

[Savvir]

I’ve never struggled with friendships that faded away,…. Usually if the friendship ended there was good reason for it.

I guess I’m lucky enough to have strong bonds in multiple social circles and haven’t really had to deal with friendship problems that much.

 

[GreenGhxst]

Everybody has their own life to live and thus, their own agendas to maintain.

It’s also a known thing that nobody really cares about anything black men go thru, including friendship dynamics. I’ve told my story a few times on her but when I open up to ppl IRL they usually hit me with the and kinda go about their day…not much you can do besides deal with it like the rest of life.

people in general don't care imo

unless you're a white woman

 

[Commish]

Some friendships are meant to end. That comes with the territory.

But, after reading the OP's thread title, I came to the conclusion that some men, Blk or not, are afraid of growing up..

Some get into their 30s, 40s & beyond still wanting to do stuff with their homies like they did in their teens & 20s.

Reach a certain age and life changes. Ppl get married, become parents, move away, etc..

Some ppl may grow apart from friends and go their own way..

Those who struggle losing friendships may be afraid to find their own way on their own. Sometimes, it may be the only way for some men.

 

[Coco Loco]

i'm glad yall recognize it's a regular problem cuz any other thread i see posters incelled out on some "females hate each other and can't keep friends " bs.

Thank you! As if their bro code is Gorilla glue strong

 

[Seven1986]

People generally have difficulty seeing the difference between colleagues, associates, and friends.

 

[Fill Collins]

People just move on

I want nothing to do with a lot of the ppl I used to fw myself, it happens

 

[African Peasant]

How this is a black men thing?

Also, is this even true?

You cats just write whatever

 

[Mazino]

Why is this specific to us?

Same shyt applies to every human on earth

 

[King Poetic]

because mfs still be owing us money

Bingo

Comes straight down to that

Had a homie who was going through it with his wife and ask me for $40 , gave to him and the nikka never paid me back but then wanted to get $50 from me and I was naw I don’t have it

Ended up Slowly avoiding that nikka

 

[Redwood]

because mfs still be owing us money

I still have an old high school friend that owes me 10 bucks for Taco Bell

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

How this is a black men thing?

Also, is this even true?

You cats just write whatever

Maybe Africa is different

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

it's not but the OP probably just meant to discuss from a black man perspective. you know this is the locker room so everything must have a racial aspect to it lol

It is

nikkax will call you all types of bytch ass nikkax and make it up in their head that you are their enemy simply for not speaking to them and let’s not get into extreme cases

If white boys do that then excuse moi

 

[Uachet]

Celebrities aside I’m sure you’ve all gone through or seen weird dynamics between friends that stop being friends and bitterness grows

Why do you imply this is a Black men only problem? This is a human problem, and is not unique to any race, ethnicity, and sex.

 

[Treblemaka]

How many of us are raised with
- good communication skills,
- strong emotional intelligence
- self accountability/awareness
- strong boundaries?

If you don't have those any relationship (platonic of romantic) is going to go left when it get tested because
- you didn't set boundaries
- you didn't communicate when they were violated
- you dont own when you fuk up
- you arent aware of your impact on the other person

Look at how many people in this thread are deflecting or blaming someone else.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

A lot of ya'll have anti-social personalities if we keep it a buck.

The threshold for an offense is way too low. Ya'll have zero grace for each other... and let's not pretend like there aren't some who specifically go looking to fight and cause drama.

But how you guys treat each other is on you all.