extremely perplexed that there are women who would prefer their men make less money
Why do chicks try to hold dudes back?
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extremely perplexed that there are women who would prefer their men make less money
That's a generalizationhow do we do that? we're not strong enough
i aint sayin all that buuuut...It's true for many women that keeping a dude is more of a priority than actually growing with a dude. And it works both ways, I'm just talking abouy women because that's who I date atm.
It's beyond that. I quit drinking, exercise more, been making more moves in general. Seems like chicks get jealous and insecure if they aren't doing the same.
When you up your game it puts pressure on ppl close to you to do the same. ...if they not in that mood to improve
then yea it can cause some tension. ...
DonFrancisco
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Because guys settle for the wrong woman.
Just messing with the wrong girls fam. Might be jealousy, might be insecurity, might be both 
I remember when my job flew me out to San Diego, the chick I was with was getting mad because she "didn't trust California hoes" and was mad that I was "putting my job over the relationship"
It was a 1 week business trip
Really? No 'This could be a great opportunity for your career!' or 'I'm proud of you!' ?
Anyone (man or woman) who wants to hold you back is a red flag. Get those people out of your circle asap.
I remember when my job flew me out to San Diego, the chick I was with was getting mad because she "didn't trust California hoes" and was mad that I was "putting my job over the relationship"
It was a 1 week business trip
Really? No 'This could be a great opportunity for your career!' or 'I'm proud of you!' ?
Anyone (man or woman) who wants to hold you back is a red flag. Get those people out of your circle asap.
How do you motivate them? Leading by example and inviting them along hasn't helped. How am i supposed to deal with haters that say they love me?When you up your game it puts pressure on ppl close to you to do the same. ...if they not in that mood to improve
You
them.I"m not trying to be harsh, but i've been there. They will only hold you back, I promise you.
There is nothing more selfish than someone who doesn't like it when you succeed
Just messing with the wrong girls fam. Might be jealousy, might be insecurity, might be both
I remember when my job flew me out to San Diego, the chick I was with was getting mad because she "didn't trust California hoes" and was mad that I was "putting my job over the relationship"
It was a 1 week business trip
Really? No 'This could be a great opportunity for your career!' or 'I'm proud of you!' ?
Anyone (man or woman) who wants to hold you back is a red flag. Get those people out of your circle asap.
are there any secure people in this world?
I agree with @The Wave
As you continue to work on yourself you will have nooooooo problem putting yourself first and showing others the door. You matter, everyone else has to get with it or get lost. Don't stop upping your game for anyone
You'll find out who really has your best intentions in mind when you start to do well.
When you tell em you getting recruited for football and they hit you with the
.When you tell people you graduated or get a new job and they are like
fukk them... keep doing you, keep making more money, keep succeeding.
Damn, this thread got me in my feelings
Doobie Doo
Veteran
Wouldn't it be easier to just keep up, tho?
What do you mean keep up?
Dudes stay telling on themselves with these types of threads. Surround yourselves with a higher quality female.
It's not like it was always like this otherwise I wouldn't have fukk with em. And I'd like to know where all of these "high quality" females are. Actually...not even where...just what do you consider high quality? errybody got flaws or demons from what i've seen.For me, I was referring to being healthier. Like, my girl will see me working out and toning up but be mad that I didn't invite her. So, I invite her but there's always xyz event and excuse to skip the workout. Or another example. I have a roommate that is sloppy af and we used to complain about it a lot together. Eventually, I got tired of the negativity so I decided to be over it and work on getting a new crib. Now it's "we don't even talk no mo'
". Seems like anything I do to be a better person in general i get hit with the "well, is this gonna change our relationship 
". Of course it is! I think a lot of people are just scared of change because I've had this happen with friends and in professional relationships, too.
Jesus Shuttlesworth
I Got Game
A woman shouldn't view you as an equal. If she does, you already lost.
You s'posed to be daddy to these broads. No way she gon hold daddy back. And even if she does pop shyt, just let her speak her piece, and continue to do whatever it is you set your mind to do regardless like a real nikka should. By arguing you reduce yourself to her level and she loses respect for you.
These chicks ain't hard, brehs. Complaining is for the passengers. Your job is to drive.
You s'posed to be daddy to these broads. No way she gon hold daddy back. And even if she does pop shyt, just let her speak her piece, and continue to do whatever it is you set your mind to do regardless like a real nikka should. By arguing you reduce yourself to her level and she loses respect for you.
These chicks ain't hard, brehs. Complaining is for the passengers. Your job is to drive.