Have you ever had that problem?
Have you ever been sexually compatible with a chick but she was busted (face and personality) wise so you dropped her?
Why Do Married Women Eventually Become Repulsed By Their Husbands Touch?
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Have you ever been sexually compatible with a chick but she was busted (face and personality) wise so you dropped her?
This all fuxking day.
It's easy to fall into a dull ass routine when ya married. Folks get comfortable and stop doing the lil shyt that attracted their mate to em in the first place..
StickStickly
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seems like people are never willing to accept that if someone who used to love your touch is now disgusted by you, it may be your actions that has pissed her off and is now affecting her ability to be turned on by you. I know when it comes to sex men are more able to separate their feelings with the physical and when it comes to sex it's about the "here and now". But women just aren't like that.
Think about it. If your wife cheated and nags you all the time plus gained weight and dismisses you, would you still be turned on by her? Probably not? Most of those couples have shyt going on behind the scenes. It's naive to think it's always about sex. If something is bothering a woman she cannot get wet, and if the man refuses to even see her point of view, sex is not even a thought. Like @BlackPearl said, it's mental. There are things that both genders just need to accept about one another and stop trying to put the other in their box. If your partner seems to be turning you down a lot, ask her what's wrong or if there's anything going on in her life.
Older people, married or single, like routine and even dating can feel routine after awhile. You want the same friends, then you start seeing less of them, you become more housebound. Married people are no different. They fall into ruts and get used to the grind. That's life though, you have to make an effort to work around that like you would with anything else.
Also, if you're looking at older women, you need to consider the physical changes women go through with menopause. Your vaginal tissues and hormones literally change as a part of nature. They become thinner, less sensitive to pleasure, and more painful, and it doesn't go away without meds. You have to look at the whole picture and not just blame the woman for being frigid. if your dikk tissue started wearing down and painfully rubbing off with sex, and you weren't able to get an erection, but your wife demanded sex every night, would that make any sense to your body? If she guilted you for your body changes by calling you selfish and frigid, is it your fault? Her sexual desire changes and since it's natural, she may not even think about it until the man brings it up.
Couples will have decide what that means for the relationship, because it's not fair for the man (or woman) to go without sex if they want it for the rest of their lives, but if you're wondering on a factual level why this happens, consider the above.
Think about it. If your wife cheated and nags you all the time plus gained weight and dismisses you, would you still be turned on by her? Probably not? Most of those couples have shyt going on behind the scenes. It's naive to think it's always about sex. If something is bothering a woman she cannot get wet, and if the man refuses to even see her point of view, sex is not even a thought. Like @BlackPearl said, it's mental. There are things that both genders just need to accept about one another and stop trying to put the other in their box. If your partner seems to be turning you down a lot, ask her what's wrong or if there's anything going on in her life.
Older people, married or single, like routine and even dating can feel routine after awhile. You want the same friends, then you start seeing less of them, you become more housebound. Married people are no different. They fall into ruts and get used to the grind. That's life though, you have to make an effort to work around that like you would with anything else.
Also, if you're looking at older women, you need to consider the physical changes women go through with menopause. Your vaginal tissues and hormones literally change as a part of nature. They become thinner, less sensitive to pleasure, and more painful, and it doesn't go away without meds. You have to look at the whole picture and not just blame the woman for being frigid. if your dikk tissue started wearing down and painfully rubbing off with sex, and you weren't able to get an erection, but your wife demanded sex every night, would that make any sense to your body? If she guilted you for your body changes by calling you selfish and frigid, is it your fault? Her sexual desire changes and since it's natural, she may not even think about it until the man brings it up.
Couples will have decide what that means for the relationship, because it's not fair for the man (or woman) to go without sex if they want it for the rest of their lives, but if you're wondering on a factual level why this happens, consider the above.
Peruvian Connect
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The goal is to get married and ghave a family. once that is reached what else is there? marriage and children was the set goal, you reached it. When you win a race you don;'t just linger at the finish line forever.
This is why you dont base a relationship on sex or sexual chemistry. At ANY given point a man or woman can get tired or bored or just libo change up. Now you sitting around looking dumb because one of your favorite things about the person was the sex.
And like with anything and everything nothing stay's new, shiny and exciting forever. It might always be pleasing and sometimes amazing... but alot of times even with your favorite things you just get tired of it for awhile.
This is not just a marriage issue, although alot of times one people get married they get mad lazy and comfortable. Building a relationship with a partner never ends, and for some reason people look at marriage like its the finish line, when its really only the beginning.
And like with anything and everything nothing stay's new, shiny and exciting forever. It might always be pleasing and sometimes amazing... but alot of times even with your favorite things you just get tired of it for awhile.
This is not just a marriage issue, although alot of times one people get married they get mad lazy and comfortable. Building a relationship with a partner never ends, and for some reason people look at marriage like its the finish line, when its really only the beginning.
I think a lot men don't understand/care than women's bodies are completely different than theirs. Sex is not visual for us; it's mental.We need to be mentally stimulated. Flirting, touching, dirty talk, assertiveness etc are all things we really enjoy. There is a reason women love romance novels.
I think some men don't want to change it up b/c of pride. I once asked an ex would be pull my hair and his exact response was "No, I'm not going to have sex with you the way another man had sex with you."If he is doing a great job in the bedroom she won't turn him down.
nikka
Unnecessary Roughness
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Redwood
Superstar
Okay, so what does the woman add to all of this? I've noticed that black women can be very lazy sexually. Throwing it back and riding are the only two weapons in many a black woman's arsenal yet they expect a nikka to be doing backflips into the p*ssy 20 years in.Women think providing the vagina = good at sex. It doesn't. You have to do more than lay around and bend over. A lot of black women are boring in the bedroom. They want the extra shyt they aren't willing to provide. Sex is boring because both parties are bored with each other.
Not just black women, alot of women out here nowadays prefer the man to do the majority of the work.
WhatttttttttttI think a lot men don't understand/care than women's bodies are completely different than theirs. Sex is not visual for us; it's mental.We need to be mentally stimulated. Flirting, touching, dirty talk, assertiveness etc are all things we really enjoy. There is a reason women love romance novels.
I think some men don't want to change it up b/c of pride. I once asked an ex would be pull my hair and his exact response was "No, I'm not going to have sex with you the way another man had sex with you."
I pull hair, choke, spank that ass and talk dirty.......
My girl didn't want have sex the other day.....she said something about being on her period....p
Should I be worried @Elle Driver
These same chemicals (hormones) in women are also all over the place which is why most women are so flighty, indecisive & unpredictable. Thus, a women's general desire for sex constantly fluctuates (moreso than a males) which can greatly decrease sex drive even if the "man is hitting it right".
SCIENCE/TECH
Testosterone Revs up Woman's Desire to Masturbate but Turns off Her Wants to Have Sex
Jun 22, 2012 04:04 PM By Christine Hsu
"Researchers have long assumed that the reason why men typically desire sex more than women was because men had higher levels of testosterone.
However, a new study revealed that while women with higher levels of testosterone had greater desire to masturbate compared to their peers, they were less interested in having sex with a partner.
Scientists from the University of Michigan also found that in men testosterone levels did not appear to be associated with the desire to masturbate or have sex with a partner."
Women with higher levels of testosterone had greater desire to masturbate compared to their peers, they were less interested in having sex with a partner.
Van Anders said that the latest findings fit with results from previous research that found that women in long-term relationships have lower levels of testosterone, which could mean that lower levels of the hormone drives women to find a partner to be close to rather than just to have sex with.
Of all the women in the study, women who reported the most solitary sexual desire had the highest level of testosterone while women who reported no desire to masturbate had the lowest levels of testosterone, suggesting that the desire for a partner is more influenced by social factors and that solitary desire is more innate.
While men were more likely to masturbate, they also report a greater desire to have sex compared to women.
"These findings complicate our understanding of desire, by showing that two aspects of desire that are linked and thought to be relatively overlapping demonstrate opposing physiological correlations in women. They may provide an important foundation for modeling associations between T and desire, and for establishing additional dimensionalities to desire," the authors wrote in the study.
"Results from this study thus add to a growing body of literature highlighting the importance of measuring hormones and psychosocial variables in conjunction to address basic assumptions of human sexuality, gender and sex," they concluded.
Testosterone Revs up Woman's Desire to Masturbate but Turns off Her Wants to Have Sex
These same chemicals (hormones) in women are also all over the place which is why most women are so flighty, indecisive & unpredictable. Thus, a women's general desire for sex constantly fluctuates (moreso than a males) which can greatly decrease sex drive even if the "man is hitting it right".
SCIENCE/TECH
Testosterone Revs up Woman's Desire to Masturbate but Turns off Her Wants to Have Sex
Jun 22, 2012 04:04 PM By Christine Hsu
"Researchers have long assumed that the reason why men typically desire sex more than women was because men had higher levels of testosterone.
However, a new study revealed that while women with higher levels of testosterone had greater desire to masturbate compared to their peers, they were less interested in having sex with a partner.
Scientists from the University of Michigan also found that in men testosterone levels did not appear to be associated with the desire to masturbate or have sex with a partner."
Women with higher levels of testosterone had greater desire to masturbate compared to their peers, they were less interested in having sex with a partner.
Van Anders said that the latest findings fit with results from previous research that found that women in long-term relationships have lower levels of testosterone, which could mean that lower levels of the hormone drives women to find a partner to be close to rather than just to have sex with.
Of all the women in the study, women who reported the most solitary sexual desire had the highest level of testosterone while women who reported no desire to masturbate had the lowest levels of testosterone, suggesting that the desire for a partner is more influenced by social factors and that solitary desire is more innate.
While men were more likely to masturbate, they also report a greater desire to have sex compared to women.
"These findings complicate our understanding of desire, by showing that two aspects of desire that are linked and thought to be relatively overlapping demonstrate opposing physiological correlations in women. They may provide an important foundation for modeling associations between T and desire, and for establishing additional dimensionalities to desire," the authors wrote in the study.
"Results from this study thus add to a growing body of literature highlighting the importance of measuring hormones and psychosocial variables in conjunction to address basic assumptions of human sexuality, gender and sex," they concluded.
Testosterone Revs up Woman's Desire to Masturbate but Turns off Her Wants to Have Sex
Whatever helps you sleep at night.
ShhhhhhProbably bc he's not fukking her like he used to. No energy, no stamina, no proper stroke game = boring!
You gotta find you a young dude like @Serious that can go all night long
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