Why do people choose work over a family?

[Vandelay]

Everyone has a motivation. Some people aspire to climb as high up the ladder as possible. Kinda hard to do that with a full-time family. For some people work brings them more joy than a family.

There's too many factors to consider for this. For me, as it's increasingly becoming reality it's timing and choosing incompatible partners. I gotta own that.

 

[xXOGLEGENDXx]

Because at a certain point, what you do becomes who you are.

But knowing that work means you are a replaceable number and family means you are an irreplaceable member, should change that mindset

That's what I'm saying.
Work can be taken from you overnight and you will be scrubbed clean from it as if you never were a part of it. Pouring my life into something like that doesn't make any sense to me.

 

[kaldurahm]

I understand people that don't prioritize family, but I wouldn't prioritize work, unless it was truly fulfilling work that I enjoy doing. The vast majority of people aren't in that position though.

 

[AceAge]

Maybe Condi could have gotten it when she was in college/grad school

But I can only speak for my experience in DC/NYC - but a lot of these ambitious, educated, and career oriented Black women are not facially attractive, bodily attractive, or attractive personality wise. especially the latter. Especially the personalities. There's something about law school, business school, and graduate programs that make a lot of women insufferable. A degree doesn't make someone intelligent or smart or witty or interesting.

A lot of y'all here on The Coli keep thinking there's a lid for every pot - that some bruh would gladly smash Stacey Abrams if she'd just come down off her high horse - but based on dealing with these broads almost exclusively for more than decade, I have to disagree.

A lot Some of these chicks CANNOT GIVE IT AWAY.

And most of these chicks are not trying to give it away.

She ain't getting no kinds of interest or offers, but Breh still gotta go through all types of obstacles and run mad gauntlets. (only for the "goal" at the end to be quite wack)

You said the key word, insufferable. I only deal with the highly educated and I’ve found that a lot of the times you can’t even stand being around them more than a half an hour because they’re just plain awful to be around in terms of personality. Like, work is over, you are not a doctor, dentist, lawyer right now you’re just a civilian talking crazy, so can you leave my presence. :jwalrus: . And they can’t wrap their heads around it. “But I’m a lawyer”. No, it’s 8pm this isn’t a courtroom, and I don’t care to argue, bye. “But I’m a dentist”. Okay I’m not in your chair and I don’t care. Never apologize, can’t stomach when someone else is smarter than them in any area, always trying to overcompensate or compete with somebody or something. So they go hard at work and the crazy thing is that work to that degree, is not fulfilling to ANYBODY. None of those types are getting a wing named after them, or a scholarship, or anything like that. Do all that work for a purse to pose with in a picture or a car and a cold bed and a bunch of people that can’t stomach them. Ive been around world renowned physicists and engineers and even they manage to have families and they say they are the most proud of that, and their families are their true legacy.

 

[010101]

family fails to provide..........*

 

[winb83]

Because some people love money or their job more and there's nothing wrong with that.

Family isn't the be all end all for everyone some of us don't really care about that.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

I don't get how a lot of people don't ever want to consider their og family as their fam. Everything I do is for fam, and making a lot of money goes far in doing that

i don't even have kids Lol. Plus all their kids are my kids so it's not like I never raised a child. Plus like a typical sister, been raising kids since i was a child

Check in with your loved ones

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Plus rice family structure is not even a typical one for you to be projecting on and throwing your auntie under the bus tbh

Maybe you should go hang out with her instead of talking shyt

 

[P90]

US Secretary of State is one of the most powerful positions in the world. Takes a driven individual to get there sometimes. Also maybe she has friends and close contacts. Maybe prefers to be alone.

 

[Pure Water]

I like my current family I was born in, I don't know if I want to ever start my own family. Kids do not bring me joy. I wouldn't mind that DINK life though.

 

[rabbid]

simply put a lot of people don’t think. they fail to prioritize and process value. they think that little money coming in their account means something to the company. and they’ve gotten comfortable with that routine. family can’t just add you to a schedule and get at you for not clocking in on time. by the time they realize they’ve been duped the walls are closing in.

it is what it is. nikka working for 7 years at Ramada Inn bragging about that free breakfast that the employees get while his mom begging him to pick up the phone. you can’t say nothing to him. all you can do is try to lead by example.

 

[Diddly Drogba]

nikkas want that paper cuz

 

[LadyJ2]

They’re gay.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Being broke sucks when you’re young
Being broke sucks when you’re older

Some people are great at what they do and don’t want any perceived distractions. The you have folks who came up poor and never want to get to that point again because they had no control over it.

Look at how much drama people get into with relationships. Then peep how you could get a loving family out of a relationship but lose focus and have no time to really go hard for your dreams.

It’s hard to understand when you are likely a low to mid/mediocre achiever which is like 98% of people.

Let great people be great even if it comes at the expense of family.

 

[Menna]

What do you want people to say about your two examples. Not everyone lives the same life? Are you 11 year old child?

People have a rough upbringing turns them off from family

People can’t have children infertile

People are afraid of intimacy

People were in a relationship got hurt and it was too much for them so they just work

I can think of 5+ more examples it’s a big world out there with many different people

The question is why do you care? If you want a family then have one if you want to just work then do that