Why do people say, "if a woman isn't married, she can do whatever she wants"?

[Grams]

LOL I forget this site is mostly black people. And yall wonder why your AIDS, kids out of wedlock and Herpes rates are so high.

ZERO standards.

 

[-G$-]

If you are dating someone for a year, then what's the point of not marrying them?

breh, i happen to have gotten engaged after less than a year of dating my wife and i don't agree w this at all. there is no set cutoff or golden rule for a timeline, every relationship is different and progresses at its own pace.

 

[Tres Chic]

Not every man thinks cheating on his woman is ok. Jesus Christ. I hate stupid people.

If you don't see how male promiscuity and infidelity has been normalized since the beginning of time, then I'm not the one you should be calling stupid. There is a reason why "mistress" only refers to women.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

me & my girl only think of marriage as a ceremony & legal tool.... we value the loyalty... marriage dont mean sh!t cause married people cheat constantly.... if you value that commitment you dont need no ring....

Agreed, but in today's society you and your girl can't really be as one until you get married. Say god forbid something happens to her tomorrow. You would have no say in what happens to her. She can't be on your health/life insurance.

When my wife had our first kid. We were not married yet. I was at the hospital for 36 hours. I held the baby first, I signed the birth certificate, and I drove both of them home. A week later I needed a birth letter to add the baby to my insurance, and the hospital would not give it to me. Not only would they not give me the letter, they wouldn't even aknowledge my daughters existence to me because me and the mom were not married.

If you are serious about your relationship then marry her. You don't have to spend money on a ceremony/ring, but if you are serious about building a life with her you need to be married.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

breh, i happen to have gotten engaged after less than a year of dating my wife and i don't agree w this at all. there is no set cutoff or golden rule for a timeline, every relationship is different and progresses at its own pace.

That's not what I'm saying. It's not about a timeframe, but if you are not willing/ready to make that commitment you are not really serious about the relationship. You might like the person and be considering being serious with them, but until you make that commitment the relationship isn't real.

 

[Sierra Mist]

Well they just go around fukking anything RAW like animals and then justify the shyt. Then after they get slammed for their high rates they say "nah it's a conspiracy. The white man just made that up to divide black people." Nah nikkas just are fukking disgusting. Since when was is acceptable for ANYONE to cheat on their spouse? Married or not. nikkas wanna sit in here and justify this shyt and then after they catch aids they blame some imaginary white man or some imaginary downlow nikka. Nah. You animals are just disgusting! And that's by admission.

Sorry. If you guys disagree then neg me to Bolivia.

 

[Sierra Mist]

If you don't see how male promiscuity and infidelity has been normalized since the beginning of time, then I'm not the one you should be calling stupid. There is a reason why "mistress" only refers to women.

False. If anything, that's because women think men who are promiscuous are more attractive. Women are the ones who can be 100% uninterested in a man UNTIL she sees that other women want him or that he's in a relationship. Magically her interest level goes from 0 to +9000. That's 100% women's fault. Never has it been acceptable for men to cheat on women. People say the dumbest shyt on here.

 

[Steve Piffler]

Of course it would annoy me. However, I am not his mother. I cannot tell him what to do and who to hang with. I can express my dislike or concern. He can take that into account or not. Based on whether I feel respected I stay or leave. If it ever gets to the point that I need to control what he is doing because I don’t like it, then he is not the one for me. I am not about to mold someone. People are who they are. You take it or leave it.

i gotta agree with this. can't control another grown ass person. i can only control how i react to their bullshyt. so i agree....

 

[Tres Chic]

False. If anything, that's because women think men who are promiscuous are more attractive. Women are the ones who can be 100% uninterested in a man UNTIL she sees that other women want him or that he's in a relationship. Magically her interest level goes from 0 to +9000. That's 100% women's fault. Never has it been acceptable for men to cheat on women. People say the dumbest shyt on here.

You are entitled to your opinion.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

nikka, it's only 1 fukking year, 12 months, 365 days, 52 weeks, that is NOTHING. If you're going to make a commitment to someone for the rest of your life you damn sure better take more than a year getting to know them.

You telling me I should have married my ex after 1 year, when after 2 years it was clear we really weren't for each other as we grew as people.

No. I'm saying if you are still feeling a person out and deciding if they are right for you, then you are not really serious about the relationship yet. Op asked why are women able to do whatever they want until married, and my response was either party should be doing whatever they want until a real commitment has been made.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

how long did you know your wife before you married her? You cant go around telling young nikkaz to wife a broad up after one year....that is some despicable shyt.....Im in my 30's and Im happily married as well but I knew my wife since she was 16....and didnt marry her until two years ago....

I've known my wife for 12 years we've been married 6

You missed the point of my post. It wasn't that you should rush into marriage. It's that if you are not to the point of marriage, then you shouldn't confuse things, and play yourself by acting like you are. If you are not sure if you want to marry her yet then you are single and the same goes for her.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Let's just keep it 100 brehs, if you love your girl, you will lock it down. If you are not sure, why trap yourself in a theoretical box? That goes for both parties. There's no logical excuse for putting all of your money in a stock you aren't sure of, just an emotional one, and if the emotions are that strong, then you should be marrying her.

So if you like it, put a ring on it If not, I or the next man will be there to woo her away. :word:

 

[Grams]

People just want excuses to cheat that's all

 

[-G$-]

No. I'm saying if you are still feeling a person out and deciding if they are right for you, then you are not really serious about the relationship yet. Op asked why are women able to do whatever they want until married, and my response was either party should be doing whatever they want until a real commitment has been made.

so those first 6 years you knew your wife before you got married you didn't consider your relationship to be at the point of committed faithfulness?

 

[AllHolosEve]

Agreed, but in today's society you and your girl can't really be as one until you get married. Say god forbid something happens to her tomorrow. You would have no say in what happens to her. She can't be on your health/life insurance...... When my wife had our first kid. We were not married yet. I was at the hospital for 36 hours. I held the baby first, I signed the birth certificate, and I drove both of them home. A week later I needed a birth letter to add the baby to my insurance, and the hospital would not give it to me. Not only would they not give me the letter, they wouldn't even aknowledge my daughters existence to me because me and the mom were not married.... If you are serious about your relationship then marry her. You don't have to spend money on a ceremony/ring, but if you are serious about building a life with her you need to be married.

thats why i said legal stuff, thats the reason we might get married... i was wit my bm over 10 years, engaged & she had a ring for each finger, in the end she betrayed me, no ring made a difference.... i got proof of parentage for my kids & on they birth certificates, i got no problem dealin wit them people... my girl now already has 2 rings.... if we ever get married we hittin up the courthouse... props on your well fortune but rings dont change nothin, only loyalty does that.... i dont need to control her but if she gets on that i do whatever i want sh!t, theres plenty bushes around......