Why do so many men have low self esteem?

[Double Burger With Cheese]

Y’all not tall, don’t get money, and y’all lack confidence

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Not being raised by real men

 

[Bossino]

more negative experiences than positive experiences....

At this point I realize as a black man in my gen, in this country with my mindset I'll probably take more Ls than Ws in terms of the individual instances. I'm just trying to make the net impact of my erratic Ws outweighs the small and mediums size Ls, and I try to avoid mondo Ls at all cost.

 

[Bossino]

Men don't receive any positive affirmation for just existing. I know people will pretend we do but we don't. We are worth what we can do for people. So I'm not surprised that the men were very appreciative. This also leads to issues in dating cause we can't recognize when a woman really likes us or cares about us for us or what we can do because no one just says hey i appreciate your presence. At worst it leads to us not being able to accept that love and care because we have never been told we're worthy of it.

For me past a certain age I'm not taking/looking/open to any thing serious, because if I was good enough for a woman that checks my boxes I'd have one now, but I realize it's not about me, it's about what I can do, more specifically what I can do for her. Even when I reach the point of financial security, or possibly prosperity, I won't believe any woman interested is actually interested in me the person. That's my interests, humor, idiosyncrasies, paradigms, perspective, world view, etc.

Moreover when you go through you weakest/toughest/saddest/darkest times alone, when things a better you no longer need company, and as vindictive as I am I don't want it. Unless they're at where I'm at financially, mentally, and emotionally why acknowledge their existence.

 

[Bossino]

I have no patience to go into a woman dm of any kind. It’s stupid and one sided. Women leave you on read or have nothing to say just want to attention seek.Women are lazy as fukk and should be sliding in our dms too but it rarely happens. Also talking to women in person is not fun ether and I’m not gonna wait for “choosing signals” ether. All I gotta say is most men do not like interacting with women for these reasons.

It's not worth it anymore, and frankly sometimes I go out so divorced from interaction/being present that when a woman shows interest, or is nice/sweet on me in particular I don't process it in real time, because I'm focused on getting shyt done. Then later in the day/week it hits me that I could've probably, fukked or had an enjoyable date, but that shyt is so few and far between and you come across so much shyt with broads you just throw the whole process in the trash.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Porn

Then social media.

Social media got brehs thinking every broad out here is a boss bytch worthy to be on a pedal stool.

Brehs also raised by a parent or parents who don't know how to guide their children and school them on the game on female nature.

Also parenting just sucks ...the family unit is broken and not enough is done to build up the breh as a youth.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

i agree that its wild and even sad but post-nut clarity honestly helps

Breh I almost spent a whole paycheck a few times on some p*ssy..that post nut clarity would have me .

Been done with that shyt for years...but earlier me would spend my whole check for a hotel room liquor and shyt in the hopes of bagging p*ssy.

 

[Wild self]

Feminism, social media, the slow decline of lifestyle of the average man in Western society is the real answer. Most porn is trash and the best looking women don’t even do porn most of the time. Porn is like a weak primitive virtual reality that is ultimately highly unsatisfying. The real question is why do men feel the need to escape in porn?

Women outnumber men in the workforce. That right there tells you men have been emasculated. America is the world’s first post-industrial nation. There are tens of millions of less good jobs that were mostly entirely performed by men (i.e. factory jobs) there were here some decades ago. But America is the land of taking personal accountability even when it doesn’t make sense... so we are told it’s our fault that when we can’t pull ourselves up by our bootstraps because we lack the resources to do so. The term “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” was actually meant to sound preposterous because it is. You can do everything society tells you to do to succeed as a man and still end up a failure. Why? I’ll tel, you why...

Men are taught to look at women as equals in every shape, form or fashion when men and women are NOT equal physically or emotionally. Because of this men have been pussified. Men and women competing for the same jobs that women will always be hired over because these jobs are non physical jobs reserved for women. Millions of women literally do not need men for anything but sex in the modern era because women have their own jobs, careers and money. This is why there is rampant hypergamy today. Social media magnifies this.

Not too long ago, the baddest bytch in school would get pregnant or wifed up by some local nikka. That still happens, but now social media has expanded people’s social networks to be far reaching. The baddest bytch in school can now be the baddest bytch on IG, OnlyFans or TikTok.

Average women have also been taught to monetize their sexuality in recent years. That’s what behind the normalization of average women getting BBL, lipo, breast aug. And men don’t complain. Most of the most popular women in Hollywood and social media are build a bytches. Poorly built obviously fake build a bytches at that.

That's the whole truth.

 

[Wild self]

Porn

Then social media.

Social media got brehs thinking every broad out here is a boss bytch worthy to be on a pedal stool.

Brehs also raised by a parent or parents who don't know how to guide their children and school them on the game on female nature.

Also parenting just sucks ...the family unit is broken and not enough is done to build up the breh as a youth.

That is done by design. They dont want young brehs with game out there like that.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

For me past a certain age I'm not taking/looking/open to any thing serious, because if I was good enough for a woman that checks my boxes I'd have one now, but I realize it's not about me, it's about what I can do, more specifically what I can do for her. Even when I reach the point of financial security, or possibly prosperity, I won't believe any woman interested is actually interested in me the person. That's my interests, humor, idiosyncrasies, paradigms, perspective, world view, etc.

Moreover when you go through you weakest/toughest/saddest/darkest times alone, when things a better you no longer need company, and as vindictive as I am I don't want it. Unless they're at where I'm at financially, mentally, and emotionally why acknowledge their existence.

There's a part of me that feels like even if I were to be in a relationship I'd be too concerned with wondering if she liked me for me, or what she thinks I can provide for her.

If I'd gotten attention from women when I was younger I wouldn't have those feelings of self-doubt.

 

[Bossino]

There's a part of me that feels like even if I were to be in a relationship I'd be too concerned with wondering if she liked me for me, or what she things I can provide for her.

If I'd gotten attention from women when I was younger I wouldn't have those feelings of self-doubt.

I mean people will try to gaslight you to death on it men and women, but the bolded makes sense and is a logical emotional response. I've put on more muscle, and I drive a nice car, but prior to either of those things I was largely the same person as it pertains to character, beliefs. I'm always striving for self improvement so my aesthetics have made leaps, but now this increased success/favorability with women seems superficial since I didn't change fundamentally.

If I'd had broads early it'd be natural to feel like women like you, because when you a teen you ain't got shyt at all. It can be argued most in their 20s don't have much but it's a whole different convo.

I said all that to say it's not self doubt, it's common sense/logic. You have suspicions based on past experience it'd be weirder imo if you just welcomed broads with open arms, and didn't view them cynically. At the end of the day you'll never truly know but you can get a good read by testing the woman in question.

I just don't care to do all that work later in life

 

[MikelArteta]

For me past a certain age I'm not taking/looking/open to any thing serious, because if I was good enough for a woman that checks my boxes I'd have one now, but I realize it's not about me, it's about what I can do, more specifically what I can do for her. Even when I reach the point of financial security, or possibly prosperity, I won't believe any woman interested is actually interested in me the person. That's my interests, humor, idiosyncrasies, paradigms, perspective, world view, etc.

Moreover when you go through you weakest/toughest/saddest/darkest times alone, when things a better you no longer need company, and as vindictive as I am I don't want it. Unless they're at where I'm at financially, mentally, and emotionally why acknowledge their existence.

talk to most women nowadays what do you do where do you live so they can size you up already

 

[spencerforhire]

1. Not approaching and talking to enough women.

2. Dressing like shyt. Not taking pride on how you present yourself to the world.

3. Lack of discipline.
4. Loser mentality, always putting everything off that involves any form of self help.
5. Huge ego and blame failures on everything but themselves (not rich enough, racism, family, etc.)
6. Lack of mentors and guidance.

 

[Bossino]

talk to most women nowadays what do you do where do you live so they can size you up already

Exactly, and you know they didn't ask all their same day meet and fukks/ONS/etc. any of that shyt. I'll be damned to play clean up man, I'll be double damned to jump through hoops to play clean up.

To parapharase Mos "Hoes better buy my rookie card now, cuz after this year the price ain't coming down"

 

[prime]

Porn

Then social media.

Social media got brehs thinking every broad out here is a boss bytch worthy to be on a pedal stool.

Brehs also raised by a parent or parents who don't know how to guide their children and school them on the game on female nature.

Also parenting just sucks ...the family unit is broken and not enough is done to build up the breh as a youth.

I can only speak for myself but my dad didn't teach me shyt about women it was my uncle's and older niqqas in my hood that showed me the game how to talk to girls and carry myself that's why I say it's important for young boys between the ages 12 to 14 to hang out at the barber shop,older cousins and uncle's or just non corny black men in general to soak up game and ask questions as Michael Irvin would say we are losing recipes that's why I took my younger cousins under my wing when it comes to everything from fashion to cologne and how to talk to women that's why I was fukking with Kevin Samuels when he first came out he was giving incels the real about what women want and how to carry yourself