Why do so many men have low self esteem?

[Cloutius Maximus]

Neoliberalism teaches people to base their self-worth on success, wealth & material acquisition. For men there is the added pressure to be sexually successful.

In our post-feminism world, we still expect men to be providers & winners. Women are going to college more and killing men in white collar work outside of STEM / Finance (catching up there too).

Most young men 18-25 aren't getting money like that and they aren't pulling baddies. They go on IG and see their counterparts getting degrees, going on fancy trips every month, eating at nice restaurants, hanging with her attractive friends. Dudes feel like they don't have shyt to offer her.

So they fall into an endless cycle of low self esteem because they don't get women -----> women reject them because they got low self esteem ------->low self-esteem because they don't get women -------> women reject them because they got low self esteem. Start letting your hygiene go and become bitter and it just gets worse and worse. Then you isolate yourself so now your social skills start to atrophy. You use porn and maybe drugs to self-medicate and it's game over. Weeks, months then years go by.

What helped for me was getting into zen buddhism / stoicism and Nofap. Doing something difficult gives you a bit of confidence. Meditation makes you more calm in social situations. The concept of "no self" in buddhism helps with negative self-perception. Giving yourself structure can help you feel better and get rid of shame, which is poision for self-esteem. When a man is proud of how he lives his life (every waking moment) he will feel a lot better about himself and it will reflect in how he carries himself. He will keep his head up and look people in the eye.

 

[MikeyK]

probably Sears catalogue because atleast I wouldn’t be beating off nearly as much as I would be on pornhub. Since pornhub has naked big titties, full exposed hairy pussies, and glazed exposed ass cheeks to create dopamine spikes.

thats a damn lie and you know it!

Look at how you described whats on pornhub

 

[B86]

Porn ruined a generation of men.

Brehs content with having zero social experience with women and pleasuring themself.


Its not the way dudes were supposed to move

After having tens of women throughout life, being married, etc, I be wanting to be like the nikkas that just sit back and pleasure themselves without all the extra shyt to deal with…

 

[SNG]

thats a damn lie and you know it!

Look at how you described whats on pornhub

Can you not find that my nikka I ain't never seen what I just listed in a Sears catalogue. Stop.

 

[Gold]

After having tens of women throughout life, being married, etc, I be wanting to be like the nikkas that just sit back and pleasure themselves without all the extra shyt to deal with…

I understand that, and any man who wants to should be welcome to do so.

But you dont sound like you suffer from crippling self esteem issues and are unable to talk to women.

My post was moreso towards those men.

There are men who can honestly say that porn has not negatively impacted their social/sex life and confidence with women at all.

And then there are men who say the same thing but are 100% full of shyt.

You sound like the former, not the latter

 

[Robo Squirrel]

because they base their self worth on women

if a woman doesn't like me i'm ugly, if she does like me i'm happy

Interesting theory.

 

[TM101]

Neoliberalism teaches people to base their self-worth on success, wealth & material acquisition. For men there is the added pressure to be sexually successful.

In our post-feminism world, we still expect men to be providers & winners. Women are going to college more and killing men in white collar work outside of STEM / Finance (catching up there too).

Most young men 18-25 aren't getting money like that and they aren't pulling baddies. They go on IG and see their counterparts getting degrees, going on fancy trips every month, eating at nice restaurants, hanging with her attractive friends. Dudes feel like they don't have shyt to offer her.

So they fall into an endless cycle of low self esteem because they don't get women -----> women reject them because they got low self esteem ------->low self-esteem because they don't get women -------> women reject them because they got low self esteem. Start letting your hygiene go and become bitter and it just gets worse and worse. Then you isolate yourself so now your social skills start to atrophy. You use porn and maybe drugs to self-medicate and it's game over. Weeks, months then years go by.

What helped for me was getting into zen buddhism / stoicism and Nofap. Doing something difficult gives you a bit of confidence. Meditation makes you more calm in social situations. The concept of "no self" in buddhism helps with negative self-perception. Giving yourself structure can help you feel better and get rid of shame, which is poision for self-esteem. When a man is proud of how he lives his life (every waking moment) he will feel a lot better about himself and it will reflect in how he carries himself. He will keep his head up and look people in the eye.

Don't forget that jobs don't keep up with the cost of living so people who had good salaries 10-20 years ago are just over poverty.

 

[Wink Beaufield]

The shyt that trips me out is how social media has straight up made more dudes scared to approach women on the street. Instead they slide into the DM's with hundreds of other dudes hoping for a chance.

 

[Robo Squirrel]

In.

 

[Robo Squirrel]

1. men used to oppress women because they understood the power of p*ssy
2. feminism started to reverse it
3. the empowerment/liberation of women swung the pendulum. it got to a healthy point (call it equilibrium) somewhere in the 90s/00s, but now its completely swung to the opposite side
4. women are now in a position where they can abuse the power they have over men
5. this is exacerbated by social media which essentially provides more mediums and a higher access to the demand pool of men for women who are essentially suppliers of sex
6. as a result of the increased market size to sell their goods, and the resultant excess demand, the price of whatever women provide (call it sex, companionship) has risen exponentially

porn is actually a good thing. take away porn and i am telling yall it would be far worse in terms of the shyt men do for p*ssy

i am writing a book about this shyt (literally finished it last weekend) so i wont go into much more detail but thats essentially whats happened in a nutshell. ppl talk that sexual market value stuff and its not just redpill/incel nonsense. It's the truth. I started realizing it before i even heard of this redpill shyt but yea

Can I get a signed copy? Seriously

 

[Ohene]

Can I get a signed copy? Seriously

you definitely can bro. havent figured out how i'ma release it yet cause im not on social media or anything but we shall see. might try to get a literary agent but i feel like that could mean leaving money on the table

its 276 pages long i think. 102,000 words, ten chapters

 

[ExodusNirvana]

1. men used to oppress women because they understood the power of p*ssy
2. feminism started to reverse it
3. the empowerment/liberation of women swung the pendulum. it got to a healthy point (call it equilibrium) somewhere in the 90s/00s, but now its completely swung to the opposite side
4. women are now in a position where they can abuse the power they have over men
5. this is exacerbated by social media which essentially provides more mediums and a higher access to the demand pool of men for women who are essentially suppliers of sex
6. as a result of the increased market size to sell their goods, and the resultant excess demand, the price of whatever women provide (call it sex, companionship) has risen exponentially

porn is actually a good thing. take away porn and i am telling yall it would be far worse in terms of the shyt men do for p*ssy

i am writing a book about this shyt (literally finished it last weekend) so i wont go into much more detail but thats essentially whats happened in a nutshell. ppl talk that sexual market value stuff and its not just redpill/incel nonsense. It's the truth. I started realizing it before i even heard of this redpill shyt but yea

These half foo foo ass nikkas low key want to move to Afghanistan and join the Taliban but they too p*ssy to do it so they claim that porn is the reason behind all the issues men face in 2022 not knowing that the oppressive society they think they crave is right there if they want to go to it

 

[King Poetic]

Another thing and very important especially over the last decade or so

men put everything into WHAT a woman want

men of the 90s, 80s, 70s, 60s, etc focus was on them and they Hussle and if a woman can’t get on board and follow fukk them, I don’t need them, I got my own paper and making my own moves

these nikkas now, are so dependent on a chick even if a bytch is on section 8 and welfare these nikkas are so weak to say anything to them without fearing getting kicked out the chick place

 

[TEH]

u act like is new. this shyt been going on since these days.

Sir Walter Raleigh and Elizabeth I


But that could only be a legend.


Even before then … all the men and Cleopatra, Helen of Troy, Samson and Delilah…

 

[Roid Jones]

We got nikkas buying bathwater and bottle farts. Acting like straight clowns out here to be notice by women. Like who raised the preformative nikkas?

Women wanted the world and men to be softer now they're getting what they wished for.