Why do so many men have low self esteem?

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I thought you had a 10 year running fwb?

she had a thing where she would not.come around for like a month. Then a couple months. During Covid it was a six month stretch where I didn't see her. Then she came back for a couple months but last time I saw her was like July 21.

Not sure what happened and too stubborn to try to hash it out.
 

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One of the modern day reasons why a lot of men (or people in general) have low self esteems...



Social media is not a barometer of success/a gauge how you should live your lives.



Get off that shiit and do your existence the way YOU were meant to do it.



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she had a thing where she would not.come around for like a month. Then a couple months. During Covid it was a six month stretch where I didn't see her. Then she came back for a couple months but last time I saw her was like July 21.

Not sure what happened and too stubborn to try to hash it out.

she’ll be back.
 
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Feminism, social media, the slow decline of lifestyle of the average man in Western society is the real answer. Most porn is trash and the best looking women don’t even do porn most of the time. Porn is like a weak primitive virtual reality that is ultimately highly unsatisfying. The real question is why do men feel the need to escape in porn?

Women outnumber men in the workforce. That right there tells you men have been emasculated. America is the world’s first post-industrial nation. There are tens of millions of less good jobs that were mostly entirely performed by men (i.e. factory jobs) there were here some decades ago. But America is the land of taking personal accountability even when it doesn’t make sense... so we are told it’s our fault that when we can’t pull ourselves up by our bootstraps because we lack the resources to do so. The term “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” was actually meant to sound preposterous because it is. You can do everything society tells you to do to succeed as a man and still end up a failure. Why? I’ll tel, you why...

Men are taught to look at women as equals in every shape, form or fashion when men and women are NOT equal physically or emotionally. Because of this men have been pussified. Men and women competing for the same jobs that women will always be hired over because these jobs are non physical jobs reserved for women. Millions of women literally do not need men for anything but sex in the modern era because women have their own jobs, careers and money. This is why there is rampant hypergamy today. Social media magnifies this.

Not too long ago, the baddest bytch in school would get pregnant or wifed up by some local nikka. That still happens, but now social media has expanded people’s social networks to be far reaching. The baddest bytch in school can now be the baddest bytch on IG, OnlyFans or TikTok.

Average women have also been taught to monetize their sexuality in recent years. That’s what behind the normalization of average women getting BBL, lipo, breast aug. And men don’t complain. Most of the most popular women in Hollywood and social media are build a bytches. Poorly built obviously fake build a bytches at that.
 

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1. men used to oppress women because they understood the power of p*ssy
2. feminism started to reverse it
3. the empowerment/liberation of women swung the pendulum. it got to a healthy point (call it equilibrium) somewhere in the 90s/00s, but now its completely swung to the opposite side
4. women are now in a position where they can abuse the power they have over men
5. this is exacerbated by social media which essentially provides more mediums and a higher access to the demand pool of men for women who are essentially suppliers of sex
6. as a result of the increased market size to sell their goods, and the resultant excess demand, the price of whatever women provide (call it sex, companionship) has risen exponentially

porn is actually a good thing. take away porn and i am telling yall it would be far worse in terms of the shyt men do for p*ssy

i am writing a book about this shyt (literally finished it last weekend) so i wont go into much more detail but thats essentially whats happened in a nutshell. ppl talk that sexual market value stuff and its not just redpill/incel nonsense. It's the truth. I started realizing it before i even heard of this redpill shyt but yea

I been telling people this shyt since before there was even a such thing as Instagram, when FB was just starting to take off. People thought I was tripping now I’m seeing an overwhelming amount of dudes saying the same shyt I been saying since 2010, maybe earlier.

I was actually thinking bout writing a book on it too :ehh:

Let us know when that book is published, I’ll support.
 

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I been telling people this shyt since before there was even a such thing as Instagram, when FB was just starting to take off. People thought I was tripping now I’m seeing an overwhelming amount of dudes saying the same shyt I been saying since 2010, maybe earlier.

I was actually thinking bout writing a book on it too :ehh:

Let us know when that book is published, I’ll support.
yup. i went to school for accounting/finance and minored in psych. i had to take a lot of econ courses as well (graduated in 2014)

my nikkas and homegirls would come to me for advice and I would often use finance/econ/psych theories and analogies to explain what was going on and it really resonated. so i decided to take it further and create a book.
 

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I think it comes from lack of purpose. A lot of men have no goals and nothing to take pride in. Like others have mentioned they aren't receiving the positive affirmations and feedback which IMO men need.

For example I sent out 'thank you' emails to some people who came to our site because we were short staffed last week. I sent it to 2 women initially because I had never met them. But there 2 men who also came out whom I met before. We don't have the greatest relationship but I decided to send them emails also.

One guy replied back that he really needed to hear that he was appreciated. I was kinda taken back. And made me realize I need to make sure I give more positive reinforcement especially to the guys.

So I sent a few guys on my team positive feedback and they were overly appreciative. It really made me realize that men aren't told how much their contributions are appreciated enough

I am going to do better
Thank you.
 

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My self esteem is very low.

Cause I have zero hoes now.

(Last touched on some new new around Thxgvg so its not super dire yet)

Whenever I have a good woman in my corner my self esteem is high

A shame that it depends on that, but what else can you judge by?

I would never buy anything from a woman that was supposed to be a kink. Never bought puzzy before so damn sure not gonna buy a pair of worn drawls
Your self esteem is based on other people? Good God man you need a Hobbie
 

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Ted Bundy used to blame porn for why he raped and murdered all those women. nikkas need to stop acting like porn is the worst thing ever. shyt, it's the reason I've learned new things and figured out things I like and don't like.
Don't use that as an example nikkas gonna be like see see see. Porn is problematic but it's not the root issue just a symptom.
 
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