Why do so many men have low self esteem?

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Breh i used to be addicted to porn a long time ago.

And i can tell you from experience, absolutely nothing good came from that.

Nothing

I believe it. Had to kick that addiction myself.

Loved to know the backstory of yall addictions

 

[MikelArteta]

yup. i went to school for accounting/finance and minored in psych. i had to take a lot of econ courses as well (graduated in 2014)

my nikkas and homegirls would come to me for advice and I would often use finance/econ/psych theories and analogies to explain what was going on and it really resonated. so i decided to take it further and create a book.

let me know when your book is out b

 

[Ghost Utmost]

Your self esteem is based on other people? Good God man you need a Hobbie

I have one. Wrestling with big titty women.

I kid I kid

I have hobbies. They just can't keep me company and hold me

 

[Neuromancer]

I have one. Wrestling with big titty women.

I kid I kid

I have hobbies. They just can't keep me company and hold me

Yeah but that means people can control your emotional state. That's dangerous lumber friend.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Wages going down

Society changing but ppls innate standards on attractiveness not

Ppl being more disconnected from their community

 

[Neuromancer]

1. men used to oppress women because they understood the power of p*ssy
2. feminism started to reverse it
3. the empowerment/liberation of women swung the pendulum. it got to a healthy point (call it equilibrium) somewhere in the 90s/00s, but now its completely swung to the opposite side
4. women are now in a position where they can abuse the power they have over men
5. this is exacerbated by social media which essentially provides more mediums and a higher access to the demand pool of men for women who are essentially suppliers of sex
6. as a result of the increased market size to sell their goods, and the resultant excess demand, the price of whatever women provide (call it sex, companionship) has risen exponentially

porn is actually a good thing. take away porn and i am telling yall it would be far worse in terms of the shyt men do for p*ssy

i am writing a book about this shyt (literally finished it last weekend) so i wont go into much more detail but thats essentially whats happened in a nutshell. ppl talk that sexual market value stuff and its not just redpill/incel nonsense. It's the truth. I started realizing it before i even heard of this redpill shyt but yea

Link me when your book is out I will buy it.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Basically it’s 50% lotto genetics and 50% effort. Society is kinder to attractive people.

One of my friends met her ex whilst he was living on the street/couch surfing.

I asked her why she’s dealing with a bum and she said, “he looks like a young Ginuwine; once I fix him up watch how fine he’ll be.”

She kept him FRESH but he ended up in jail for hustling. Gotta have life skills

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[Neuromancer]

Loved to know the backstory of yall addictions

Failed relationships and unhealed trauma. A porn video can't break your heart.

 

[Neuromancer]

I think it comes from lack of purpose. A lot of men have no goals and nothing to take pride in. Like others have mentioned they aren't receiving the positive affirmations and feedback which IMO men need.

For example I sent out 'thank you' emails to some people who came to our site because we were short staffed last week. I sent it to 2 women initially because I had never met them. But there 2 men who also came out whom I met before. We don't have the greatest relationship but I decided to send them emails also.

One guy replied back that he really needed to hear that he was appreciated. I was kinda taken back. And made me realize I need to make sure I give more positive reinforcement especially to the guys.

So I sent a few guys on my team positive feedback and they were overly appreciative. It really made me realize that men aren't told how much their contributions are appreciated enough

I am going to do better

Men don't recieve any positive affirmation for just existing. I know people will pretend we do but we don't. We are worth what we can do for people. So I'm not surprised that the men were very appreciative. This also leads to issues in dating cause we can't recognize when a woman really likes us or cares about us for us or what we can do because no one just says hey i appreciate your presence. At worst it leads to us not being able to accept that love and care because we have never been told we're worthy of it.

 

[Coli Bot]

It's the age of the woman. They are having their time and enjoying their power. Things will swing back around. They always do... maybe in a couple of generations.


Good times makes weak mean

Weak men make bad times

Bad times make strong men

Strong men make good times



We are currently in "Good times make weak men" so things are due to get a lil worse with all these soft ass brehs coming up right now getting into governent.

 

[Coli Bot]

I think it comes from lack of purpose. A lot of men have no goals and nothing to take pride in. Like others have mentioned they aren't receiving the positive affirmations and feedback which IMO men need.

For example I sent out 'thank you' emails to some people who came to our site because we were short staffed last week. I sent it to 2 women initially because I had never met them. But there 2 men who also came out whom I met before. We don't have the greatest relationship but I decided to send them emails also.

One guy replied back that he really needed to hear that he was appreciated. I was kinda taken back. And made me realize I need to make sure I give more positive reinforcement especially to the guys.

So I sent a few guys on my team positive feedback and they were overly appreciative. It really made me realize that men aren't told how much their contributions are appreciated enough

I am going to do better

Bless you

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

Why isn’t a broke man making what a big dog is? Why care?

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

1. men used to oppress women because they understood the power of p*ssy
2. feminism started to reverse it
3. the empowerment/liberation of women swung the pendulum. it got to a healthy point (call it equilibrium) somewhere in the 90s/00s, but now its completely swung to the opposite side
4. women are now in a position where they can abuse the power they have over men
5. this is exacerbated by social media which essentially provides more mediums and a higher access to the demand pool of men for women who are essentially suppliers of sex
6. as a result of the increased market size to sell their goods, and the resultant excess demand, the price of whatever women provide (call it sex, companionship) has risen exponentially

porn is actually a good thing. take away porn and i am telling yall it would be far worse in terms of the shyt men do for p*ssy

i am writing a book about this shyt (literally finished it last weekend) so i wont go into much more detail but thats essentially whats happened in a nutshell. ppl talk that sexual market value stuff and its not just redpill/incel nonsense. It's the truth. I started realizing it before i even heard of this redpill shyt but yea

My grandad ia not a tall or handsome nikka
And he had a stutter

My grandma was a pretty redbone in Canada
He got her because he had a good job at the post office and basically scooped her up
Because he knew her because family was in her area
And she grew up in the boonies

Can't do that nowadays because the post office ain't a good job any more

And hoes got internet

$$$$ and opportunity done changed the game

But cash or looks was always king

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

Y’all give porn way too much credit.

Yupppp

Porn is porn but NOTHING beats engaging a woman who wants you and the moment comes when she takes her panties off for you. Can’t be duplicated

What it really is is a lot of dudes have always been bums

 

[Consigliere]

Men have been simping women forever.

I’m pretty sure the bath water thing in OP started before internet porn or feminism. ‘Girl, I’d drink your bath water’ is super old school simpery.

I don’t think it’s a self esteem thing as much as it’s capitalism thing where men think they can buy women’s affection.