Why do so many men lack self-confidence?

[hood b. goode]

nvm

 

[Dave24]

@hood b. goode how did you accomplish all that? Put me on game please.

 

[hood b. goode]

@hood b. goode how did you accomplish all that? Put me on game please.

My guy, whoops! Meant to post that in elon musk thread as a joke. Not saying i did

 

[Dave24]

My guy, whoops! Meant to post that in elon musk thread as a joke. Not saying i did

 

[Geek Nasty]

Men are being told subtly every day "you aint shyt". Anybody older than probably 30-40 I bet can see the transformation in society.

I think I made a thread about that life insurance commercial where dude's wife scolds him like a child for not getting life insurance yet, he just wimpers like a kicked puppy "I was looking for a good deal..."

 

[LunaticVillage415]

Men are shamed for being men in the modern era. What the fukk is “toxic masculinity”? Because Cardi B drugging and robbing men in her stripper days sure seem like toxic femininity.

Men are shamed away from doing traditionally masculine jobs. When I graduated high school, I was indoctrinated into thinking trade school was for “losers”. Today, those trade school brehs from the early 2000’s are rich with their own businesses. Some even retired rich already. While college grad men saddled with tens of thousands in debt fight for the few office jobs reserved for women and rich whiteboys with daddy connects. Women statistically dominate the workforce now. And low skill manual labor jobs are low paid and dominated by men. And illegal immigrants willing to work for pennies under the table drives the wages in many of those jobs even lower. And we learned two years ago society would collapse without people doing those jobs.

Men who even look and act masculine are ostracized in today’s society. Now, you ain’t fresh unless you got a purse and you draped in brands that are historically associated with Liz Taylor. Gangstalicious clothing line is literally what’s popping right now. It is clear America as a whole has become a matriarchal society.

 

[Womb Raider]

I used to be real analytical and over thinking things of what I should be doing in life. But I read different concepts and philosophies. My favorite was Hierarchy of needs by Maslow. Basically it means before you can feel fulfilled and confident in your life there’s a pyramid of needs that need to be taken care of before you can address the deeper feelings of who am I and what am I doing?

It’s a tier that I feel most men should follow usually in this order to really address the blind spots in their lives. Since we live in a capitalist country u might as well address the things that this country forces you to do. By addressing the obvious issues you’ll be surprised how many men start feeling healthy holistically.

1. Basic necessities: aim to have a stable place of your own (not a drifter or hobo), have reliable transportation, decent phone etc amenities to keep your foundation solid
2. Secured: secure job (every man has to earn a living either by his hands or his brain), get your health right( eat healthy, work out or be active, sleep consistently, do your annual physical), have some savings aim for 3-6 months of pay for that rainy day), be more responsible and accountable to your word, work on having good credit or at least no debt
3. Connection: have good family relationships, aim to have at least 2-3 real solid ride or die friendships, have real relationships not random hook ups, check that you have no bad blood and work on making amends and forgiving others. It’s good for your health to move on.
4. Self esteem: journal each day, write your thoughts down it’s like a constant tracker that throws your progress back in your face and reminds of you of where you are and where you’re going, Don’t compare yourself. Only focus on being better than you were last month. Work on challenging yourself in different aspects of life to build strong mental game, work on your hobbies no matter how small or childish just have something real outside of work that interests you, this is so u don’t become so invested in your job that your feelings become related to how work was that day, work on being a good communicator, try to figure out what gains respect from peers, have an inner moral code of your principles that you would never change for anyone, it makes you distinct from the world of people who seem to have no sense of right or wrong. Stop trying to avoid problems, try to be the guy that solves them.
5. Actualized: Try to Create things or advance things, travel to different states and countries, it helps you step back and see things and cultures from outside the bubble you live in, talk to different people of different backgrounds you get better insight, start working on seeing both sides of issues almost an expert devil’s advocate. It opens your mind and makes you become a real free thinker with critical thinking skills, to truly achieve in life you must become formless and have no allegiance to anyone’s dogma or ideas but your own, be ready to reinvent yourself and adapt, life is constantly changing, the sooner you accept that, the better. it keeps your mind young and sharp, strive for legacy by making life better for others you know and even don’t know. It’ll make you feel good and grateful for what you have


As you work on these things from one tier to the next you’ll be surprised how your quality of life increases. I’ve seen great people with high accolades and income depressed and wondered why. I realized it’s because there’s an aspect of their lives that they’re not aware of but think bigger house and more toys will make them feel better. It doesn’t. True happiness comes from within.

Nah, fukk that. You can't solve every problem, especially when it involves others because some don't want to solve their problems....they want to continue leeching off of others and be seen as a victim. A smart man solves problems, a wise man avoids problems.

 

[Roger king]

I have always said if you want to get a hundred thousand of likes and interaction on social media, twitter etc, shyt on black men, or make a black men love obese white women joke, or how black men dont protect black women, or how black men are part of the misogyny. Its one thing after the next, thats why black men, men in general confidence may be low atleast what they project online.

 

[MJ Truth]

Is it women surpassing men in terms of education, income and social status? A lack a sense of purpose in modern society? Lack of parental figures?

shyts frustrating cuz I got boys starting to cry about the same shyt y'all cry about on here (some bird on Twitter, Instagram, etc.). I just don't understand the lack of self-respect young men have.

It’s the fact that it’s so easy to compare yourself to other people who are doing better than you, or at least give off the PERCEPTION of doing better than you. Mufukkas who spend any significant amount of time online or on social media are bound to be some form of depressed or self conscious.

 

[get my pool]

A lot of negative reinforcement

 

[Spectre]

Nah, fukk that. You can't solve every problem, especially when it involves others because some don't want to solve their problems....they want to continue leeching off of others and be seen as a victim. A smart man solves problems, a wise man avoids problems.

I completely agree but this is meant for your own problems.

The things that are bothering you in your life that are within your own control should be faced directly rather than ignored and hoping they go away on their own. Life sometimes has challenges. I’d rather be the guy that faces them head on instead of complaining about why there’s a problem in the first place

 

[Womb Raider]

I completely agree but this is meant for your own problems.

The things that are bothering you in your life that are within your own control should be faced directly rather than ignored and hoping they go away on their own. Life sometimes has challenges. I’d rather be the guy that faces them head on instead of complaining about why there’s a problem in the first place

Gotcha. I agree with you.