Why do SYSBM types never seem to acknowledge that inner city Black American dating dynamics don't apply to Africa and most of the Caribbean?

[OperationNumbNutts]

I feel a lot of dudes on that wave would have better views of Black women as a whole if they understood how diverse Black women are. AADOS women are diverse too but many of the dynamics that get talked about here straight up don't apply in many Black nations. Hell, in NYC, I don't think I've met a single West African woman who had a child out of wedlock. All my Naija/Ghanaian female friends are either married or holding themselves out for marriage with no kids yet.

You really need to travel more dude. Also don't drink the kool-aid. More of the nonsense if promoted by people who are not even black. Don't play checkers when others are plan chess..

 

[skylove4]

You are not understanding me.
There is no room of intellectuals that you could step in and open your mouth.

that low class shyt you push
that anti immigrant

leave that for the trailer park with your meth head family

better yet?

where can you have your crackhead opinions?
and be thought of as a serious person?

Nothing you’ve posted has lend any credence to you being an intellectual, in fact you seem to be a goddamn dummy. Yet you continue to attack the intellect of African Americans. Thats why we laugh at y’all, you motherfukkers lack self awareness. We’re better than you,I’m better than you, you’re nothing . Now respond again so I can laugh at you

 

[Nkrumah Was Right]

I hear quite a few "Save Yourself Black Man" types talk about how Black women are this or Black women are that and that Black men ought to save themselves headaches by pursuing other types of women.

That's fine and dandy. My brother's wife is White/Irish and we're super cool with each other. And I myself almost married a foreign (Black) woman back in 2017/2018. Yet it's almost never brought up how Black African countries are arguably the most traditional part of the world only second to the Middle East. In many African countries, women remain virgins until marriage, men are expected to be providers while women are expected to do a lot of housework, religion(Christianity and Islam) are huge, and hookup culture isn't a major thing at all. And while Jamaica has many of the same social ills that plague inner city Black America, other West Indian countries are very traditional like African countries and many "Black women" stereotypes that get spouted don't apply there either.

Hell, lumping all Black American/AADOS women together isn't right either but it seems especially odd for SYSBM types to not acknowledge how the notion that Black women as a whole are thotting it up with Pookies/thugs and acting like Jezebels isn't even a major thing in actual Black countries and pretty much only applies to certain inner city Black American communities.

I feel a lot of dudes on that wave would have better views of Black women as a whole if they understood how diverse Black women are. AADOS women are diverse too but many of the dynamics that get talked about here straight up don't apply in many Black nations. Hell, in NYC, I don't think I've met a single West African woman who had a child out of wedlock. All my Naija/Ghanaian female friends are either married or holding themselves out for marriage with no kids yet.

AfAm women are beautiful, intelligent, and charming. Very sweet ladies.

 

[Uncouth Savage]

Nothing you’ve posted has lend any credence to you being an intellectual, in fact you seem to be a goddamn dummy. Yet you continue to attack the intellect of African Americans. Thats why we laugh at y’all, you motherfukkers lack self awareness. We’re better than you,I’m better than you, you’re nothing . Now respond again so I can laugh at you

It is as if you cannot help yourself.
You have to go back to the "we we us us us we we"

WHO ARE YOU?

I am not talking about african americans
that is the only way the world makes sense in your little mind

no you are trash
a dumb
not cultured
know nothing about the world and other people
and have a mindset completely matching with a texas meth head racist crackah

you trash

stop the "we we we us us us"
you are a dunce shytty person

 

[The Fade]

They lump us men together too. Just seen an Instagram comments section of a Podcast clip with hundreds of comments from women of all races on the Blame black men wave but white men and latinos worship them and how theyre all victims everything we do. Want us to be vulnerable, but when we are they complain they gotta be our therapist too. Like every woman who gets in a relationship with Black man is never wrong, never trips, never bugs out.

They act like every Black man does "outside" nikka tendencies, but wont date the white or latino or asian equivalent to that and slap them with the label. They're allowed to date as a normal human being. We have to be fetishized sex toys.

Saw that shyt and I swear Khalid Mohammed was speaking to me from the grave. Sick of this fukking demonization

 

[3rdWorld]

We are Black Americans why should we give a fukk about African and Caribbean dating practices?

You sir, are retarded..and embarrassing.

Broadcasting your ignorance and isolationism under the banner of 'Black Americans' is now considered bum behavior..keep it to yourself and away from the good name of Black Americans.

 

[Cornershooter]

SYSBM don't care about anything bigger than themselves, and definitely not black people.

The name is literally SAVE YOURSELF . They never claimed to care about black people . Actually the opposite

 

[Savvir]

I defended Stacy Adams in her quest to have more blk men vote
yes that is what I did wrong

i bet you have "black friends" too huh...

 

[Uncouth Savage]

i bet you have "black friends" too huh...

I went to school in the city
I had/have friends from every corner of the earth...
it gave me perspective and showed me that people are people...

for example you and you ilk
you would have no problem with my death
and encourage others to do so
simply cause I am an immigrant and you think immigrants "hate you"

the issue is that yall have wicked evil hearts

again because your aim for days is to have me say something rash to you
and say " see mods see mods he talking bad bout blk americavns he hate us ban him"
I am not speaking to all blk americans
I never would

you and those who think like you are evil wicked people
and all immigrants should stay wide of you
that clear enough for you?

 

[skylove4]

It is as if you cannot help yourself.
You have to go back to the "we we us us us we we"

WHO ARE YOU?

I am not talking about african americans
that is the only way the world makes sense in your little mind

no you are trash
a dumb
not cultured
know nothing about the world and other people
and have a mindset completely matching with a texas meth head racist crackah

you trash

stop the "we we we us us us"
you are a dunce shytty person

Well I’m better than you just from the circumstances of our births and that’s the shyt that makes your soul burn slow like the log you have to put on the fire so your people will stay warm

 

[010101]

you believe in fairy.tales*

 

[the elastic]

I'm just now finding out that SYSBM is a slick pro-pawg slogan

I thought it just meant to not rely on anyone and to look out for self first

 

[jj23]

I hear quite a few "Save Yourself Black Man" types talk about how Black women are this or Black women are that and that Black men ought to save themselves headaches by pursuing other types of women.

That's fine and dandy. My brother's wife is White/Irish and we're super cool with each other. And I myself almost married a foreign (Black) woman back in 2017/2018. Yet it's almost never brought up how Black African countries are arguably the most traditional part of the world only second to the Middle East. In many African countries, women remain virgins until marriage, men are expected to be providers while women are expected to do a lot of housework, religion(Christianity and Islam) are huge, and hookup culture isn't a major thing at all. And while Jamaica has many of the same social ills that plague inner city Black America, other West Indian countries are very traditional like African countries and many "Black women" stereotypes that get spouted don't apply there either.

Hell, lumping all Black American/AADOS women together isn't right either but it seems especially odd for SYSBM types to not acknowledge how the notion that Black women as a whole are thotting it up with Pookies/thugs and acting like Jezebels isn't even a major thing in actual Black countries and pretty much only applies to certain inner city Black American communities.

I feel a lot of dudes on that wave would have better views of Black women as a whole if they understood how diverse Black women are. AADOS women are diverse too but many of the dynamics that get talked about here straight up don't apply in many Black nations. Hell, in NYC, I don't think I've met a single West African woman who had a child out of wedlock. All my Naija/Ghanaian female friends are either married or holding themselves out for marriage with no kids yet.

Low key shytting on black American women....

Just a horrible post altogether.

Why do we get these posts that imply good Black American women are hard to find?

Is it really like that in America brehs? Or is this a slick way to engage in diaspora wars?

 

[Savvir]

the issue is that yall have wicked evil hearts

you and those who think like you are evil wicked people

and all immigrants should stay wide of you
that clear enough for you?

crystal clear adolf

Low key shytting on black American women....

Just a horrible post altogether.

Why do we get these posts that imply good Black American women are hard to find?

Is it really like that in America brehs? Or is this a slick way to engage in diaspora wars?

it's just on the internet breh...

in real life... the vast majority black men and women live, work, and date with each other ..

internet nikkas who are frustrated by their lack of dating success..

blame whatever demographic they feel slighted them...

in reality, broke black people, hood black people, educated black people, rich black people., pothead black people and Christian black people all date each other at like an 85-90% rate

 

[High Art]

I'm just now finding out that SYSBM is a slick pro-pawg slogan

I thought it just meant to not rely on anyone and to look out for self first

That is what it generally is meant to be. Part of it is based in the idea that black men can only rely on themselves, not any other group. Some have taken that to mean that they should pawg. Since the core of it is letting a black man do what he feels is right for himself, they are allowed to do as they see fit as long as they are not hurting anybody. But this is the problem, a lot of black men do not feel appreciated by their community. They don't. And it's not even appreciation, just basic human decency. A lot of black men have to deal with people who will either test them or try and rile them up when that individual black man has done nothing to deserve it. And when he comments on it, he is either met with deflection, whataboutism, and people trying to claim how real men should behave, all the while ignoring the fact that the very issues of white supremacy often used as an explanation or excuse for other groups still applies to black men too. Barring that, a person should not have to earn simple human decency.

This thread is a perfect example of that. The same way white people and white supremacists will twist shyt that black people advocate for to preserve themselves (black power, black lives matter (the sentiment, not the organization)) into something negative, is often how some black men feel is done to their own talking points and ideas. Personally, I've said it before, it feels like I'm talking to white supremacists all too often on this board. Some of the shyt seen in other places is no different than shyt found on /pol/ yet people still turn a blind eye to it.

In the end, some black men do not feel as if they are part of the community. The same community that will claim that they need black men (when they can twist their mouths to finally admit it), would rather do so through overzealous admonishment rather than simply asking as other communities would ask of their men. It's weird and to some black men, it feels like they're dealing with idiots. No one has time for that shyt, certainly not black men.