Why do we blame single mothers for their situation?

[Drew Wonder]

People always seem to say “she should’ve chosen better” as if in all cases the woman knew the dude would be a deadbeat. Sometimes yes, a woman knows she’s dealing with an ain’t shyt type of dude and let’s him hit it anyway. But in some cases the woman is manipulated by a dude who romances her, tells her everything she wants to hear, promises to always be there and convinces her to let him hit it raw “just one time” only to switch up completely and bounce once she gets pregnant.

And for people who think that scenario doesn’t happen often, consider the fact that we have entire industries built on teaching dudes how to manipulate women into getting them to sleep with them

You can say “just use birth control.” But birth control has different effects on women’s bodies that are difficult to deal with

You can say “just tell him to wrap it up.” True. And when I was younger I used to judge people harshly who didn’t wrap it up. That is until I slipped up and hit it raw for the first time That shyt will have you never wanting to use a condom ever again lol. Yes, ideally everyone should use a condom but there isn’t one man in here who hasn’t slipped up at least once. One slip up can lead to pregnancy

And yes, you also have the situations where the woman is reckless with multiple baby daddies. And you have situations where the dad is actually trying to be in the kid’s life but the woman is bitter and preventing him from doing so

The bigger point I’m making is that when it comes to single moms, every situation is different. So it’s dumb to make blanket statements about them

 

[KingFreeman]

Goofballs in here blaming women or even saying there's equal share of blame to go around. Playing this blame game is one of the things that keeps on c

The dudes are at fault for being bad leaders. Only weak males blame women but thats the thing to do in 2021.

ontinuing the falsehood that men and women are equal.

Trying to play this narrative that it's all about the Queen Bee woman's choices and the man is just a confused drone bee that ain't got a choice in this process. Foh nikka. Do and be better.

We men carry the seed and have the duty to be leaders and deal with the issues within the community. Trying to pass off blame for our lack of control and inability of knowing which woman is worth your seed makes the black man look simple and weak as hell.


Which proves you cats really don't want a change in the community. Just want to run your mouths and be heard like females.

Simps and betas who have no concept of manhood or masculinity don't understand that women follow what men do. All that social media softcover porn? Male attention. Monica Lewinsky social climber types? Male attention. Cleat/clout chasers on college campuses? Male attention. Fake asses? Etc etc.

Same for women in hoods/low income situations across all races. If you're a man who takes care of his body and mental, gets out in social situations, and is actually getting paper, women will send you choosing signals and do shyt to get your attention.

Women learn from as young as five years old how to sniff out and position themselves to benefit from status in men. That extends to acting feminine and supportive in a family aspect. But men in certain demographics been conditioned to worship and chase puss while the men that know better or are already in clouted positions are eating.

Hell, I was like that because while I grew up comfortable, I had zero male guidance coming up (divorce). Life beat me up and I learned eventually.

I intend on teaching my future seeds and every young man who will listen this shyt so we won't have hundreds of thousands of weirdos walking the earth.

 

[Sccit]

@kp404 NEGGED ME CUZ HE WASNT RAISED RIGHT

 

[Kane1]

Aren’t the men at fault for not staying to build a family? Why so much anger and vitryall towards women doing their best to raise kids alone.

Get mad at your mom for not being on birth control homie


It's a ladies fault for picking stupidity

 

[Rekkapryde]

None of these situations are monolithic.

for the most part women bear the brunt of the work for raising kids but a lot of times they chose the wrong MF to let nut in them

/threaduntilthenextthreadonthesametopicnextweek

 

[Rekkapryde]

@kp404 NEGGED ME CUZ HE WASNT RAISED RIGHT

 

[Another Man]

Aren’t the men at fault for not staying to build a family? Why so much anger and vitryall towards women doing their best to raise kids alone.

 

[Strapped]

With all the free contraception available to females they shouldn't have kids in bad situations

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Tell these whores to keep their legs closed and they wouldnt have these problems

 

[Gator48]

Relationships in the states aren't arranged.. so yes

 

[Black Nate Grey]

Women choose the man.

Women choose who gets sex.

Women can choose whether or not to let him have sex unprotected. Though the this is the one area where the man shares a lot of responsibility, wanting to go in raw is his choice.

Women have viable birth control.

Most importantly: Once pregnant, women are able to choose who gets aborted or not. The father has absolutely zero agency here. If we want to keep it and she doesn’t, tough luck. If we want it gone and she doesn’t, tough luck.

Every step of the way they have the most authority (barring stuff like rape and sexual assault), in what happens before and after sex.

With high degrees of authority come high degrees of responsibility.

So yes, if a woman in the west is a single mother it is 90% her fault. Absolutely.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Goofballs in here blaming women or even saying there's equal share of blame to go around. Playing this blame game is one of the things that keeps on continuing the falsehood that men and women are equal.

Trying to play this narrative that it's all about the Queen Bee woman's choices and the man is just a confused drone bee that ain't got a choice in this process. Foh nikka. Do and be better.

We men carry the seed and have the duty to be leaders and deal with the issues within the community. Trying to pass off blame for our lack of control and inability of knowing which woman is worth your seed makes the black man look simple and weak as hell.


Which proves you cats really don't want a change in the community. Just want to run your mouths and be heard like females.

Facts! These are black men, not even raising other black men, then wonder why shyt ain't going right for black men. I don't give a fukk who the broad is, that's your DNA. That's your little black daughter meeting men without her daddy ever showing her who not to open her legs for.. But then walk around not quiet... not minding their own business. But going out there way to blame and ridicule the women who are raising these kids alone.

And will fight you to the death about it. Crazy world

 

[HabitualChiller]

I have a cousin that's about to go through this. She met a dude in the club, fukked around with him for a bit (about 2 weeks), and now she's going on 5 months pregnant with the BD stating that he's not going to be in the picture.

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The funny part is that you could see it coming from the time that we were even young teenagers. She would fawn over dudes with dimples and swag, and would straight lust over dudes. The first guy that gave her his full attention almost made her move 500 miles away, but he bushed her before that.

Edit: She's already bytching about him on Facebook.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

I’m going to see myself out. You know the answer to this question it doesn’t need to be 14 pages.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

I have a cousin that's about to go through this. She met a dude in the club, fukked around with him for a bit (about 2 weeks), and now she's going on 5 months pregnant with the BD stating that he's not going to be in the picture.

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The funny part is that you could see it coming from the time that we were even young teenagers. She would fawn over dudes with dimples and swag, and would straight lust over dudes. The first guy that gave her his full attention almost made her move 500 miles away, but he bushed her before that.

Edit: She's already bytching about him on Facebook.

you see. They chose those men from a early age