Why does a man do this?

[LezJepzin]

Happened to me Saturday


Came at me from nowhere

 

[Nymbus]

Some cats don't wanna get hit with the

Getting rejected multiple times is good for the ego

It ain't even that extreme most of the time though at least those are good for a laugh
Usually you get hit with the

Reaction that have nikkas like

 

[Giselle]

Happened to me Saturday


Came at me from nowhere

Is that you in your avi?

 

[LezJepzin]

Is that you in your avi?

No

 

[Genos]

Here's why:

Sometimes its hard to approach someone when you don't know them or have a reason to talk to them. Especially if you aren't a naturally good speaker.

 

[Cant Ban The Snow Man]

ay where u from op

I grew up in the Midwest but live in the South right now.

 

[Cant Ban The Snow Man]

It seems short sighted and ignorant of you to think that every nikka that looks in your direction wants you

No I don't think that.

 

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

Women have this problem 100fold.

 

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

I grew up in the Midwest but live in the South right now.

Oh.. you're in a manners zone.
nikkas would come at you on the East Coast.
South breh are more
"Look what I have and what I can do for you"...
Generally. Really locked in to outdated mindsets and trash entertainment.

 

[Cant Ban The Snow Man]

Oh.. you're in a manners zone.
nikkas would come at you on the East Coast.
South breh are more
"Look what I have and what I can do for you"...
Generally. Really locked in to outdated mindsets and trash entertainment.

I haven't been to the East Coast in years over years but I was born there but just not raised up around there.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

It's probably building up courage. I mean have you ever tried to talk to a stranger you find attractive, OP? It's not easy.

Women are allowed to be shy, have insecurities and shyt...we as men have to be perfect,carry the conversation and be completely confident because most of the time they are not.

 

[International Playa]

sounds like a typical coli cat

 

[Lo-Co]

Sometimes its hard to approach someone when you don't know them or have a reason to talk to them. Especially if you aren't a naturally good speaker.

This.

Yet public speaking is easy as fukk

 

[FTBS]

You mean the same shyt women do? They are just abiding by the rules of "everything is exactly the same between the two genders" that have been established. I certainly hope you aren't soft shaming him OP.

 

[mbewane]

It's called fear of rejection. Women don't have to do anything but sit on their ass and wait for men to come to them so it's clear why a lot of women don't understand it.

Exactly. With all the "equality" stuff going on, women still expect men to do all the work in the approach phase. This girl I wanted to go out with last year told me she wanted too but "was waiting for me to make my move". Keep in mind she was hardly answering texts at the time...because she had a boyfriend. Now that that relationship is over, she comes back my direction, and is mad because I'm over her

Also it may sound stupid but most of the times women move with other women, so really you're not crossing the room to speak to one woman but to a group of 3-4 who you KNOW are judging you even before you open your mouth.

Add to that shyness, fear of rejection and "harassment", "catcalling", "patriarchy", all that stuff