Why does society think single or childless people are selfish.

[Paradoxx]

Proving my point...
nikka move...

I’m not a nikka sir

 

[Rhyme n Tekniq]

This.

Having children is not a selfless act. In fact it's the people who stick their nose up and view having kids as some tremendous sacrifice and burden they must take on to prove theyre grown or whatever who end up being the most cruel, awful, selfish parents. The types that parent by the moniker "my house my rules. You can leave if you dont like it." The type that believe the kids they brought in this world and everyone around them owes them praise, adulation, on demand assistance with all her wants and needs, and constant attention just for having children.

Having a child is a blessed PRIVILEGE to have in your life not an annoying sacrifice anyone needs to hear a grown adult bytching about. When I see idiot parents who get some type of sadistic pleasure treating their children like they're annoying them all the time and should be seen and not heard, instead of connecting with them and allowing them to enjoy a healthy and happy world I just shake my head. Children are immature and annoying. You knew this. If someone with no means to take care of themselves whining, crying and having their own needs bothers you than you should be fukking single. Children are a privilege.


Very few people from my experience have kids because they've situated themselves in a place where they can make a calculated, knowledgeable, and most of all HAPPY decision that they are prepared to take on the challenge, wonder and blessing of raising a child and having family. Most people make the choice to have kids because they are worried about their partner leaving, or they are worried about their toxic family members who always judge, criticize and pressure them. Or the rest of their friends and family have kids and they don't want to look "bad," or they may be anxious about never having children in their lifetime, or they feel depessed and anxious about loneliness.

And they do it with this Disney movie fantasy in their head of what having a child and kids in the house is gonna be like. And then they bring this child into this world and treat them like shyt the moment they realize the child is an individual with his own thoughts, feelings, wants, attitudes, ideas, behaviors and needs and not a walking trophy you own and command just to prove youre "grown."

Most people have children to satisfy themselves and their own adult needs, even if they dont realize it. Not to selflessly satisfy and dedicate themselves to the emotions, needs, feelings and life of another person.

OP, those of us who have the maturity to say "children ain't for me...not now at least...perhaps not ever. Im not prepared to dedicate myself to a child." and are willing to take on the emotions, cost, physical energy, and difficulties of taking on life single than that is showing FAR more maturity than the leagues, scores, and masses of "parents" in America--certainly black America sadly--who had kids just to prove they "grown" to everyone else and have no idea how to be parents or relate to their children other than shouting, sucking their teeth, getting the belt, and constantly asserting their dominance to them.

If anyone is selfish its these single mothers out here who popped out kids just to satisfy some bum ass boyfriend at the time or some equally selfish church going parents, and don't even have the mildest curiosity to learn how to be a good parent or to be truly close with their children, but think they are above criticism and owed superhero praise because "im a single mother."

It aint grown ass single men (or women) taking care of themselves and thinking long and twice before they bring someone else into this world who are being selfish towards anyone. Believe that.

My G I thought this was one of my post because i usually make long posts like these when i'm fired up and was like damn "I was spitting" til I glanced over at your avi and realized it was you lol


everything you said is not only on point as fukk but had the cadence, delivery and scathing , abbraisive truth of some shyt I would post on a topic like this


Great minds....

I dont even need to say anything else, you got this covered

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nikkas said you was writing "essays" and "Dissertations"

lmfao, nikkas hav the attention span of a fruit fly trying to bring a child into this world talking about they focusing on the "continuation of humanity"

lol these nikkas in their self- pep talks.... nikka dont give a fukk about to continuation of humanity, but their own selfish reasons, it is what it is


but it wasnt the "dont want kids" crowd firing the shots first....just saying

 

[ba'al]

If you have no vested interest in society other than your own immediate gratification then shut the fukk up and enjoy your 70+ years and let the grown ups worry about the continuity of mankind...

This also just reminded me just cuz you nutted in some p*ssy doesn't mean you have a vested interest in society. A lot of ya'll kids grow up to be demons in society. And the reverse can be said too just cuz someone doesn't have kids doesn't mean they can't be a charitable person in society.

 

[Easy-E]

Ya'll keep saying "society" and you just mean your parents

 

[Easy-E]

So a few people deciding to not have kids is stopping society from perpetuating itself?

This is where the selfishness comes in;

You don't seem to understand the world outside of your preferences. Ppl don't "decide" at macro levels to have less kids.

You don't want kids? Cool.

You see less ppl having kids and believe it's better for you? Cool.

But, understand less kids, marriage is more of an indicator of a change in society--a lot of times a lack of things. Ex., nobody can afford to graduate high school, go to work and have enough to care for a family on one income.

I won't bore ya'll with a essay. But, why do ya'll even care what your parent's think about your lack of kids?

 

[ba'al]

This is where the selfishness comes in;

Not really Easy-E. This is where you PERCEIVE selfishness. I would say it's selfless not to have a child because they would never experience suffering on any level, they would never have to experience pain, sickness, or death. And it's already a bunch of kids who need to be adopted so why ignore the kids already here just to make your own batch? That sounds selfish to me.

You don't seem to understand the world outside of your preferences. Ppl don't "decide" at macro levels to have less kids.

On a Macro level birth rates aren't fixed or stagnant. So I don't get what you're trying to say here EASY-E throughout history population size has increased and decreased. You acting likes it's a shortage of humans. Like more than 7 billion mfers on this planet.

You don't want kids? Cool.

I didn't need YOU to tell me this but thanks.

You see less ppl having kids and believe it's better for you? Cool.

I promise you Easy-E it's not the end of he world because someone gets a vasectomy or their tubes tied.

 

[ba'al]

I won't bore ya'll with a essay. But, why do ya'll even care what your parent's think about your lack of kids?

I personally don't give a damn.

 

[5thbornpowerseed]

This also just reminded me just cuz you nutted in some p*ssy doesn't mean you have a vested interest in society. A lot of ya'll kids grow up to be demons in society. And the reverse can be said too just cuz someone doesn't have kids doesn't mean they can't be a charitable person in society.

I believe those without children can fall into the "vested interest in society" camp just well as a shytty parent can fall into the "immediate gratification" category...

But the point remains....