Why does society think single or childless people are selfish.

[Geek Nasty]

Having kids doesn't guarantee they'll take care of you though. There are a lot of parents who are alone.

Clarifying, I don't mean individually I mean as a society. Kids today will be running the country tomorrow.

 

[get these nets]

Both but Haitians are worse

*We are both Haitian by the way. So nobody flag/report his comment as diaspora war jabs, please.

I put my foot down years ago about foolishness. Person has no consideration for me, I have none for them. Them being an elder and me having to defer to them doesn't change, but I will stand on my square about that. Once you don't care about "people talking about you", you are free. That's what guilts people into doing things.

 

[Rhyme n Tekniq]

nikkas want to talk about selfish



Selfish is YOU deciding to let YOUR health go to shyt with the expectation that someone will be there to assist you, run errands for you and put their life on hold to make sure you take your 40-pill cocktail everyday just to keep you alive because you couldnt stop eating yourself into an early grave. This happens with us black families too much.

Nikkas bringing life into this world because they want someone to carry the burden of their lifelong poor decisions making and health neglect when it inevitably catches up to them is

textbook example of selfish

hypothetical kid doesnt even exist yet and you already signing them up for some bullshyt they didnt ask for.

Also, a kid is not entertainment or a fukking accesory like a purse yet people have them for vapid, selfish reasons like the shyt is cute. Also, giving them fukkked up names with no regard to how its going to impact that child throughout its life is very fukkin selfish.



(Redacted all that unnecessary shyt)

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

Because society doesn't know how to think for itself

 

[Rhyme n Tekniq]

a nikka just got his life situated, never been on a real vacation to places where the waters are laser blue, the clouds look like cotton candy and the trees look like shyt you only see in sci fi movies and you can actually see stars out at night.

a nikka just found his career path, I want be able to go onsite a few days out the year to a data center and configure servers if need be with no hinderance,

a nikka just gettin the debt halfway down to truly enjoy the money I make

me and my wife have a hard time flip flopping on whether we want a dog or not and fam asking about kids?

get the whole fuk outta here, I see how that shyt working out for them and I want no parts of that life

 

[Luke Cage]

Nothing wrong with being selfish.

 

[TEH]

I was just talking to a family member about an ongoing issue and I got called selfish because I refused to continue to help out on a situation they’ve caused and is affecting my health but “because I should take on more because I don’t have kids”

As a grown person; family can bring you down worse than a group of enemies.

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

Misery loves company. They want you to suffer.

The rational thing is to not have children if you cannot afford them and if you still have things you want to do. Most people are not rational and most people who have kids didn't actually think that shyt through.

When you have children your life as an individual is OVER. No more shopping sprees, no long ass vacations, no days where all you do is sit at home and read or game. No spontaneous hangouts, no partying and Wilding out. Hell even that sweet 65 inch OLED TV and 7.1 Dolby atmos system you bought will be playing docmcstuffins most of the day.

fukkalldat. People should have kids when they are ready and they have the financial, social and psychological resources to actually be a decent parent to that child. I know as I am now, I will resent my kids if I have them before I'm ready so I'm not finna have kids because of pressure lmao

 

[CopiousX]

I was just talking to a family member about an ongoing issue and I got called selfish because I refused to continue to help out on a situation they’ve caused and is affecting my health but “because I should take on more because I don’t have kids”

Tbh, as a single, childless dude i agree. We are selfish. I dont see a problem with self preservation.


Previous generations were brainwashed. Just doing sht cause other people are doing it. Id rather let somebody else take a soceoeconomic bullet, cause im good on all that

 

[CopiousX]

Having kids doesn't guarantee they'll take care of you though. There are a lot of parents who are alone.

True. Furthermore, you had an entire lifetime to plan and take care of yourself. Literally 40Yrs or more of working. Unless you did a 30yr prison bid at 18 or have been critically disabled at age 18 there is no excuse to not have stacked up for retirement.

Because when you're 80 you're going to be expecting other people's kids to take care of you

Personally, id be absolutely disgusted at making my offspring change my diaper and replace my catheter at 80. Those are tasks reserved for other people.



Ive never seen so many grown people lose faith in their parents (or have their own marriages implode) quicker than when grandma/grandpa is on a changing table.

 

[semicko82]

nikkas want to talk about selfish

I apologize for the long post but let me get this off...

Selfish is YOU deciding to let YOUR health go to shyt with the expectation that someone will be there to assist you, run errands for you and put their life on hold to make sure you take your 40-pill cocktail everyday just to keep you alive because you couldnt stop eating yourself into an early grave. This happens with us black families too much.

In my early twenties, I deferred my dreams and ambition because I was too scared to leave the nest, with this fear of 'something happening to mama or pops' while I was gone'. So I never got anywhere in life , stuck with the same dead end menial labor jobs and very close to the poverty line because of this irrational belief that proximity to my parents magically = they would be ahight.

They only got worst while I was still around so WTF was I doing really.
Moms became diabetic, with a host of health problems like gallstones and shyt + she's an impulsive and emotional eater that likes to manipulate loved ones to go and get junkfood she know she doesnt need.

Pops, got deeper into the alcohol, stopped bathing, cheating on moms, doing other drugs and sponsoring young hoes, getting them apartments in my moms name, total violations.

They was both rotten to each other and the shyt I was oblivious to as a kid, came bubbling to the surface by my mid 20's. I never knew my family had so much fukkery underneath the surface.

My moms and pops would argue every night and do petty shyt to each other like try to drown each other out; my pops would be blasting his Johnnie Taylor and Bobby Womack loud and my moms would counter with her TV. I was coming home after working double shifts to this shyt + I was paying half the bills. after having my attempts to plead with them for some peace were downplayed, I got fed up and moved out. I stumbled along the way for a few years and eventually figured this being grown shyt out. Now' im a good position.

It took all that to make me nut up and move out, and once I did, my life got better gradually while everyone else stayed stagnant or got worse. siblings calling me selfish because I relocated and carved out a nice living for myself while they got burdened with the bullshyt. I did my part years ago when I was going to physical therapy with mom to help her get healthy, lose weight and rehab her bad knees, same with pops. I was the good, model son, I rode for my parents and respected them and never asked them to pay me back when I dipped in my personal funds to help them.

I tried to encourage them to eat healthier and even cook for them too. but to no avail. This is what caring too much will do. even now, I still have a pinch of survivors guilt, so much to he point , I moved back to my home city to at least close to family. but nothings change, I'm still establishing boundaries and I'm still willing to help my elders or other fam but it will in the way I choose to help. IF they cant appreciate it then oh well. been there. done that.

Fam knows i'm good financially and always hitting me and my wife with the "when yall gon have some kids" question. shyt is mad annoying and is nothing but socially acceptable creep behavior when you think deeper on it. They 're basically asking you, "When are you and her gonna fukk" over and over. I always flip that question back to them and say if you love kids so much, why dont you have some of your own and they start getting quiet , deflecting and shyt.


I typed so much because my family used to gaslight me with the selfish shyt because they never wanted to improve in any way, and even though I love them, I cant fukk with them past a certain point because I see life differently and dont want to invite that depressing negative energy back into my life. I dont look down or judge them, but reality is reality, I'm on a different wavelength. Truthfully I always had been, emotional attachment just held me back from seeing the big picture. I'm good now.

Damn man I had some similar experiences except I grew up in single mother household.
I thought I had to be the man of house, so I stayed at home till maybe 23, 24.
Flying the coop was the best decision of my life

 

[Mordith]

Because when you're 80 you're going to be expecting other people's kids to take care of you

Exactly. I would love to know who these broke nikkas think are going to take care of them when they get old especially since the are GMB as well.

 

[315]

Having kids doesn't guarantee they'll take care of you though. There are a lot of parents who are alone.

My sister used to work in an old home. Damn near all the residents were put there by their kids.
If I ever did have kids and couldn't take care of myself anymore I'd sign myself into one. I wouldn't intrude on them like that

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

My sister used to work in an old home. Damn near all the residents were put there by their kids.
If I ever did have kids and couldn't take care of myself anymore I'd sign myself into one. I wouldn't intrude on them like that

Guarantee
1) The kids were spoiled, shytty kids, or sociopaths
or
2) The parents were garbage
So people see that shyt and say why do that if I don't have to if my kids are going to turn on me anyway?
fukk that shyt
People scream kids and family but have 0 love in their hearts

 

[Another Man]

Because when you're 80 you're going to be expecting other people's kids to take care of you

Nursing homes are full of neglected parents breh