Why don’t couples last after having a baby??

[The Mad Titan]

Once a baby is in the picture it's suppose to be about the kid, but somehow this day and age its still about the parents.

You can't live the same way you did before you had a kid, its literally not possible. Things are going to change, and you have to change with it. I don't have any children, but I see it all the time... Its not about what either one of you want to do anymore but about what needs to be done.


But most people just blame the next person, "you're not ambitious, or spontaneous enough" "you've gain to much weight and don't treat me the same"



years after having a kid all of a sudden "They can't take it anymore" they are fed up with there situation and want something new and or an out. Its really sad.

Most of the time the people that end up having kids together aren't the ones that should have kids together.


80's babies and beyond are really selfish and spoiled. It just gets worse with each decade, 90's parents blow my mind. Its a reason people can't really handle more than one or two kids nowadays....where as families use to be 2 to 3 minimum. Does anyone know a family of 5 or 6 now? I can't remember the last time I saw that. Even with the reckless chick out there sleeping around.



Everybody to "woke" and "informed" for their own good.

 

[Gold]

This would be a valid point if it didn't happen in committed relationships and marriages as well.

It is a valid point because it happens astronomically more outside of marriage than it does within the confines of marriage.

I hope your not going to seriously argue that having a child outside of wedlock is the same as having a child within a marriage.

 

[JordanWearinThe45]

How many kids you got?

1

A better question is, why do couples have babies?

Cause they want to, accidental..lots of reasons.

They shouldn't of had a baby in the first damn place if they separate after creating one.

Jackasses gon learn the hard way.

How you gonna predict the future? Just cause you with someone today don’t mean you’ll be with them tomorrow.

You're a shallow individual.


Also, a lot of people don't understand and/or lack the mental fortitude it takes to raise a child.. but it's one of those mistakes you can't undo so they(most times the mother) just has live with it. I mean take a look at some of the childless people around you.. friends/coworkers/relatives.. look at the decisions they make in life and ask yourself if that person is mentally equipped to handle parenthood.

I’m not shallow I just don’t wanna be with an ugly/fat person I’m in the gym and my body on point, my spouse should be at least decent too

 

[JordanWearinThe45]

Have kids out of wedlock and be surprised when people split brehs

Happens in marriage too

 

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

1

Cause they want to, accidental..lots of reasons.

How you gonna predict the future? Just cause you with someone today don’t mean you’ll be with them tomorrow.

I’m not shallow I just don’t wanna be with an ugly/fat person I’m in the gym and my body on point, my spouse should be at least decent too

Please re-read what I posted. I said they should NOT have a baby, which is a decision if they separate after creating one (the baby is born). I am a firm believer that

a baby is a tremendous committment, one that should not be made unless you are committed to the person who will co-parent and raise the baby with you. PERIOD

 

[Gold]

Happens in marriage too

You honestly think divorces are as a common as someone seeding up a woman and leaving?

What planet you live on breh?

 

[Rawtid]

It is a valid point because it happens astronomically more outside of marriage than it does within the confines of marriage.

I hope your not going to seriously argue that having a child outside of wedlock is the same as having a child within a marriage.

I'm not saying it's the same, I'm saying that there are men in the confines of a relationship/marriage that DO NOT support their children or wives for that matter. Neither of us can prove that, so there is nothing really to argue and we can agree to disagree. I can only go by personal experience and stories I read regularly. Marriage or LTR doesn't automatically equal a great father.

 

[JordanWearinThe45]

You honestly think divorces are as a common as someone seeding up a woman and leaving?

What planet you live on breh?

It’s a process, but I know 3 ppl that were married and had kids and split a few months/ years after

 

[Rawtid]

You honestly think divorces are as a common as someone seeding up a woman and leaving?

What planet you live on breh?

What are you even talking about? A marriage can fall apart WAY before the couple decides on divorce. That doesn't mean in that time the man is being a supportive father. He could be cheating, gambling or just generally neglecting his family.

 

[BmoreGorilla]

A better question is, why do couples have babies?

tf

 

[75 Others]

Im living proof that OP is wrong on so many levels

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Adding a baby into the equation is some real life shyt. Most relationship problems up to that point tend to be pretty superficial. A lot of people cant handle the stress that comes with having a child and maintaining a relationship at the same time

 

[Kairi Irving]

I seriously hope you’re joking

That child also has his blood running through

And you may have been saying it in jest, but there are a lot of women who feel this way regardless of relationship status, and that’s a huge problem. It can create resentment being like that.

“Our bills”
“Our money”
“Our house”
“Our car”
“My child”

He’s not a donor. He’s the father.

THat woman you quoted is retarded, the MAN put the seed in her, its more him than it is her lol

 

[Silkk]

When you raw dogging and she biting on your ear whispering "cum inside me" WHAT ELSE YOU GONNA DO?!?!?

 

[Weaver31]

One of the reasons for me is that the female let’s her body go, doesn’t loose all the baby weight and is no longer attractive I’ve seen females blame their weight on their baby 4+ years after the fact. Like you coulda BEEN lost that weight sis

If health and body maintenance is so important for u (no problem with that....very understandable), then u should get with a woman who eat clean and go to the gym....make sure she places priority on physical fitness, nutrition and weight maintenance