Why don’t couples last after having a baby??

[Solomon Caine]

Having a baby early in a relationship is dangarous, relationships usually be crazy early on, until both parties get used to each other’s bullshyt, throw a baby in the mix and there is no telling what will happen.

 

[Regine Hunter]

Takes women varying times for their body to readjust. If this becomes that big of a problem for you, you’re shallow as fukk.

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

Give an example?

Planning. Tempermant. Judgement. Just to name a few.

Think your SO, or you yourself can manage a crying baby at 4 am with little to no sleep? Or maybe you thought they'd give you a break and help out?

Think they can plan for daycare, or won't flip out when your bank account magically reaches 0 and you still got 2 weeks left out the month? Will they accept that stress until the child is 5, realistically?

What about parenting styles? Some spank, some don't...it may sound trite now but it will come to a head and somebody needs to compromise.

And that's just the easy stuff breh

 

[Take It In Blood]

A better question is, why do couples have babies?

and why are couples still a thing when we know it only breeds jealously and eventually murder suicides?



#GMB

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Children can quickly expose and magnify the flaws in a relationship. I don't know if it's just me, but Mexicans seem to pull it off somehow. Their culture seems to expect their young adults to have kids at a young age, so the support system is there naturally. I understand there is a lot of them and that contributes to the perception of them staying together, but I'm sure the actual data would show a lot of them split too.

Negative. The Hispanic single mother rate is also high. It has more to do with what's culturally accepted in the United States.

 

[Aimé]

because suddenly it aint about YOU no more. you losing sleep. she losing sleep. both of yall waking up in the morning dead tired to go to work.
bring the likkle chilld to daycare or whateva. put up with the bullshyt at work. hurry up to pick up the likkle child at the end of the day.
get home. do groceries. aint no food on the table. cook. feed the likkle one. eat. sleep. rinse.

if you dont pick out your future spouse and get to REALLY COMMUNICATE TO KNOW EACH OTHER.
you really wont be in for the long run.

 

[King Jae]

Post partum depression is real...birth control drove my ex crazy...constant nagging and one partner feeling like they are doing more for than the child than the other..which is bullshyt...especially if the father lives there and is involved...sometimes ppl show they ass when they think they got u....they assume u will put up with the bullshyt...then u left with a choice...walking away or being a punching bag....if u respect urself u choose the former...

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Most of the times they weren't couples to begin with. They were just smashing. Chick got pregnant, homie was never truly into her. Got her pregnant and bounced.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

People think babies can fix a relationship. Hell no. A baby is a stress test. A baby will let you know where you really stand with somebody. That's why the whole "lets have a baby to try and save the relationship" plan is pure fukkery That is like taking your 1984 Volkswagen on a cross country trip to try to fix it. You finna be assed out nikka :biggapls:

Also with all the talk of men being the leaders in the relationship, never got the whole "she got fat so im leaving" thing either. If the snap back was a priority why didn't you have a protocol in place? A good leader is never surprised, especially by something as predictable as post partum weight gain. Me personally? I don't mind But @ watching a woman eat like a horse for 9 months and then being surprised she's fat after the baby comes. Take responsibility nikka

 

[Goat poster]

The first thing OP does is blame a woman for her body changes after giving birth to a human

 

[CinnaSlim]

Because a relationship built by and for 2 people now needs to be reevaluated and readjust to a relationship involving 3 or more. Resources have to be split between them and the newest partner does not have the capability to contribute.

Many times romantic relationships start to look more like roommates, or one or both of the parents focus primarily o n the child and neglect their romantic relationship with their partner.

 

[Blankthawtz]

A better question is, why do couples have babies?

i agree...the human race sucks and we should cease to exist.....

 

[Diondon]

They wasn't gon last kid or no kid. Being irresponsible and having a child outside of marriage just expedited the process

 

[Collateral]

My lil cousin is in this spot rn. She’s a year younger than me and is pregnant with a dude’s kid that she hasn’t even been with for 2 years I think. She has a medical condition that prevents her from holding down a steady full time job, and the BD don’t have a job neither, he sells weed for his money. I’m like 90% sure she got baby fever and jumped the gun with this kid. She’s NOT ready to be a mother, and I haven’t met her BD yet, but from what I see on social media, he’s probably even less equipped to be a father

This is gonna end SOO bad all I can do is

I don’t understand why people have children with sooooo many question marks in their life. “Is my partner parent material” “Will they be here and stick it out with me” “How am I gonna finance my family” There’s so many variables in having a baby, it’s not something that should be taken lightly.

 

[Swirv]

We didn't make it because I was all about me. I didn't take her feelings into account. Honestly I wasn't ready for a relationship. I didn't know what it took. She did though, she treated me like a king. She moved on and so did I but we still take amazing care raising our child together.