Why don’t couples last after having a baby??

[JordanWearinThe45]

Nah, some women get super thick after having a baby or two. Some girls I knew from high school who were hella cute by skinny became super thick after having a couple babies .

Couples often don't last after a baby because having a kid has become so institutionalized in America. Women know they can milk a man for a check for 18 years, so why stay with him? We've all seen the stripper hustle of hoes waiting to squeeze out some rich simp's kid only to divorce him right afterwards.

Everything is so monetized and commodified in modern America including sex and relationships. It's hard to find a real ride or die nowadays. That's where the game gets fukked up. Men place all of women's value in her looks and get finessed when these women that men thirst over monetize their looks as a hustle. You can easily find a ride or die to be by your side broke or not, but chances are, she might not physically be what you consider a dime.

I love those That baby thickness is fukkin sexy, i saw one mother today...pum pum was so fat, ass and hip was nice . But the ones that let themselves go tho...


All this is facts too

 

[Ms. Quick]

How did everything boil down to weight?

Because a lot women eat too much before, during and after pregnancy.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Every woman is not going to look like Clair Huxtable after having 1+ kid

More like Rasputia after 1+

 

[ItzRailT]

Simple they didn't want the kid to begin with ain't like they planned it or prepared for it, why you think so many of these chicks be single and the dude ghost before they even begin showing signs of pregnancy. Just go look at the trash can that's pof bet you find plenty of pregnant hoes up there looking for simp.

 

[Aimé]

thread is full of gems.
#notsolicitingfordaps

Who here has kids????

myself im a father of 2 kids. and i cant stress enough to wait untill youre AT LEAST 30.
(im talking to the bredren in here. she wants kids. she'll yap your ears off. be strong and tell her no but more importantly tell her WHY)

also when you both are ready to take that step and yall wont get pregnate in the next month, STAY STRONG and UPLIFT her. many wait to "plan kids"
you dont get to plan shyt. and wanting kids but not being able to have them can be stressfull AS fukk and could possibly end your relationship if you dont have that foundation

so communicate. open up as a man. let that ego shyt fly. tell her its not always going to be her way ALL THE TIME.
(she will get mad but respect you in the long run for being honest).
if you 2 are sharing a household fukk it sharing the sheets least you could do is be a fukking man and be 100 with her ALWAYS.
and demand that she does the same. shyt we even discuss a possible breakup/ new partners/ sudden death all that shyt. aint no time for games. life is short.

 

[the bossman]

Yea cause when baby comes, most couples decide to pour all their attention into the child and forget all about their relationship. Marriage still needs to be priority 1 before the child

 

[UserNameless]

Can’t beleive some of y’all in here are parents.

Again, Imma leave this right here.

Should expecting, 1st time parents be REQUIRED to take parenting classes & undergo Psych. Testing?

 

[151_Pr00f]

Fun fact: the amount of body changes women experience during pregnancy is fukking crazy. Change in hormonal levels is necessary to grow organs and body parts for the baby, but did you know that it also increases the risk of cancer and speeds up cancer metastasis in the mother , and you can’t receive chemo or any treatment when pregnant. Also your risk for a serious blood clot is up and stays for up to a year after having a baby. Women can develop all kinds of issues, including seizure disorders (my neighbor died 9 months after childbirth from seizures). You store fat because fat storage assists win breast milk production. Some people never get back to what they were and stay within a 5-15 of extra pounds. She has a new body. She has to learn it and it may never look the same as it did. She’s been stretched and softened for growth and breastfeeding. That’s nature though. You won’t stay the same either as you age and undergo physiological strain.

Still most fathers aren’t worried about a little love handles when they look in awe at what they and their wives have created. Your opinion will change as you grow up. Give your partner some grace. If you want her to lose weight, watch the kids so she can go to gym and shower and do her hair afterwards. Watch the kid so she can go get her hair done, shop for nice clothes and put on make up. Don’t nag her to make unhealthy foods. Throw out the junk and make healthy low cal foods together. Take walks as a family. Get healthy as a family. If you refuse to see her as a person giving life to your family, you need to reevaluate your love for her. Rational men in love don’t fall out of attraction so easily.

I've had a woman I was deeply in love with drop me because I hit a rough patch after lost a job. Ppl are "rational" only when it suits them it seems.

 

[King Poetic]

responsibility

motherfukkers love fukking raw and enjoying the 10 minute sex session , but soon when a baby pop it's the blame game

 

[Van Cleef]

tf

Human beings, you see, have no inherent value other than the money they earn. Cats have value, for example, because they provide pleasure to the humans. But a baby? Well, they have negative value.

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Human beings, you see, have no inherent value other than the money they earn. Cats have value, for example, because they provide pleasure to the humans. But a baby? Well, they have negative value.

 

[Kane1]

You're a shallow individual.


Also, a lot of people don't understand and/or lack the mental fortitude it takes to raise a child.. but it's one of those mistakes you can't undo so they(most times the mother) just has live with it. I mean take a look at some of the childless people around you.. friends/coworkers/relatives.. look at the decisions they make in life and ask yourself if that person is mentally equipped to handle parenthood.

100% FACTS

People don't understand til they're neck deep in it.