Why don't girls go for 'nice' guys?

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OCCAMS_RAZOR said:
why 'over-compensating' though? language like this really confuses me sometimes. if a guy is nice to a girl and she doesn't reciprocate, whether it be romantically or platonically, then why should the guy feel like he's in the wrong? shouldn't the onus be on the girl to be more appreciative of nice ppl. the world would be a much nicer place if people weren't such manipulative a$$holes. i've tried being an 'a$$hole', being 'aloof' and even though it might give me results, I just don't like it. it doesn't leave me feeling good. i don't feel fulfilled.

i mean, am i abnormal or what?

i like being nice to people. and it's usually not because i want something in return, because i seldom do, it's more because i just like the feeling. i like doing nice things to people regardless of whether or not they'll reciprocate because it makes me feel good. overall, i prefer to associate with people who have a similar attitude.
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There is nothing wrong with being nice as long as you aren't nice with the hopes that it will make women more attracted to you, or it will help you win over women that previously showed no interest.

The phrase "nice guys finish last" in the context of relationships is assuming the man is being nice in order to woo the woman. Most men that are successful with women know that being nice is irrelevant when a woman is truly sexually attracted to you.

It is best for men to be fair than to be nice. Do not put women on a pedestal, do not bend over backwards with the hopes of winning her affection. If someone isn't into you, cut your loses and move on.
 
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Yet, most black kids are born out of wedlock ............any connection you think??

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Elle Driver said:
bytch I'm black, I don't care to write the white man's language perfect. You can't address the fact you're a judgemental a$$hole so you resort to pointing out grammatical errors like it even matters. This topic was about nice guys which is ironic considering I doubt you even know what a nice guy is since you're a judgemental Christian who projects your insecurities on to others because you're weak in your faith (and self confidence). :manny:
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BillCosbyAteMyHomework said:
This bytch :skip:

Have you ever wondered why people say the same things over and over to you in all of your threads? You always end up getting negged, then pulling out your grammar and deflection bullshyt. You don't know how to take criticism. You think you're better than people, and it comes straight through these screens since you're so into 'it's just the internet'.
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capt_saveahoe said:
There is nothing wrong with being nice as long as you aren't nice with the hopes that it will make women more attracted to you, or it will help you win over women that previously showed no interest.

The phrase "nice guys finish last" in the context of relationships is assuming the man is being nice in order to woo the woman. Most men that are successful with women know that being nice is irrelevant when a woman is truly sexually attracted to you.

It is best for men to be fair than to be nice. Do not put women on a pedestal, do not bend over backwards with the hopes of winning her affection. If someone isn't into you, cut your loses and move on.
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While this is true I must take issue with you definition of "nice guys finish last". Everything most guys do is in order to woo women. Guys are aloof or a$$holes in order to woo woman, as that strategy has proven far more effective than being "nice". This idea that guys are being nice in order to woo women is off base. If a guy is being nice, it's because he's nice. It's amazing how people try to act like "nice guys" are these calculated, manipulative a$$holes trying to torture women with niceness :pachaha:. "Nice guys finish last" isn't a reference to actual nice guys, its a reference to weak guys who bend over backwards and don't know how to stand up to women.
 
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FTBS said:
While this is true I must take issue with you definition of "nice guys finish last". Everything most guys do is in order to woo women. Guys are aloof or a$$holes in order to woo woman, as that strategy has proven far more effective than being "nice". This idea that guys are being nice in order to woo women is off base. If a guy is being nice, it's because he's nice. It's amazing how people try to act like "nice guys" are these calculated, manipulative a$$holes trying to torture women with niceness :pachaha:. "Nice guys finish last" isn't a reference to actual nice guys, its a reference to weak guys who bend over backwards and don't know how to stand up to women.
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You must be a "nice guy" lol. Man we know suckers when we see them stop that. Some guys might be aloof/a$$holes but that don't get girls unless the chick was attracted to you anyway. Be aloof and that chick think you a ugly or a lame see how that works out. The stereotypical nice guy just does too much and they are like what you said they aren't. The nice guy are acting like Will Smith in Hitch before he got up on his pimpin.
 
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TheFemalePerspective said:
It's always you enters my threads and spews incoherent babble towards me. No, I don't think I'm better than anyone; however, I can't make you feel anything without your permission. Therefore it'd be wise to look in the mirror. Oh, and I do take criticisms on board, but they must be valid. Most of what you say comes from a place of hate. When you choose to talk from a place of love, I'll take heed.
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Could I have refrained from calling you a bytch? Sure. Did that come from a place of hate? Not at all. I would hardly call the words I use towards you incoherent babble. You came on a forum asking for opinions and replies. For some reason, you single me out as being hateful? It's clearly because you don't like what I have to say. I've heard much worse things come from other posters.

You take criticisms on board, but they must be valid? Deflection again. That means you pick and choose what you want to hear. You do that over and over when someone says something that annoys you. Not very productive when you're asking for opinions and thoughts.
 
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Women want to feel their man is superior to them and can lead and guide them almost like a child being led. If she thinks you're equals especially as decision makers it's over

I learned at an early age with my first girl when she ended it because I asked her what she wanted to eat too much for her liking.

I then found out whT it meant to be the man and that women want me to be the decision maker and lead her in life because they simply aren't capable of making simple decision that most men learn to make as teenagers

Women know they're inept and weak and if a man is who's gonna run the show?
 
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