Why don't girls go for 'nice' guys?

[newworldafro]

The same reason why dudes don't go for the nice girls?

Don't generalize ....

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

Could I have refrained from calling you a bytch? Sure. Did that come from a place of hate? Not at all. I would hardly call the words I use towards you incoherent babble. You came on a forum asking for opinions and replies. For some reason, you single me out as being hateful? It's clearly because you don't like what I have to say. I've heard much worse things come from other posters.

You take criticisms on board, but they must be valid? Deflection again. That means you pick and choose what you want to hear. You do that over and over when someone says something that annoys you. Not very productive when you're asking for opinions and thoughts.

I guess I notice you more because you're a female. If you actually go through my posts you'd realize that I do accept correction. Even my grammar was corrected here and I agreed with the poster. I have no qualms with being corrected. I actually enjoy it because how else do you grow as a person? Do I deflect people who I think are being snide? Of course, because how can you offer genuine advice whilst simultaneously throwing shade at the person you're claiming to give constructive criticism to. Could it be perceived as a form of deflection? I guess so. But in reality it's just me reflecting the same courtesy offered to me. Yes it's passive aggressive and you could even call it condescending, but i don't believe it's unwarranted considering the circumstances. Anyway, it's just the internet. My apologies to you and your friend @Elle Driver if I've caused offense.

 

[FTBS]

You must be a "nice guy" lol. Man we know suckers when we see them stop that. Some guys might be aloof/a$$holes but that don't get girls unless the chick was attracted to you anyway. Be aloof and that chick think you a ugly or a lame see how that works out. The stereotypical nice guy just does too much and they are like what you said they aren't. The nice guy are acting like Will Smith in Hitch before he got up on his pimpin.

"Nice guys" are suckers who don't know how to stand up for themselves...that's it. All dudes are attracted to what you have on the outside first and foremost. All dudes are doing what they do to try to woo women. Regardless of the success rate, the intent is still the same so trying to add that into the "nice guy" shyt is intellectually dishonest. It's like a dude trying to act like they didn't get with a fat and/or ugly chick because she was "too emotional" or "talked too much". No need to add extra shyt, it is what it is.

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

She married ray, ijs.

Not that you should knock hoes out but I never been nice. ... and never been w o options.

Being nice isn't the issue. You've missed the point!

 

[philmonroe]

"Nice guys" are suckers who don't know how to stand up for themselves...that's it. All dudes are attracted to what you have on the outside first and foremost. All dudes are doing what they do to try to woo women. Regardless of the success rate, the intent is still the same so trying to add that into the "nice guy" shyt is intellectually dishonest. It's like a dude trying to act like they didn't get with a fat and/or ugly chick because she was "too emotional". No need to add extra shyt it is what it is.

It isn't extra shyt. That's what a nice guy is a sucker that tries to do extra and then gets heated when the chick swerve his ass. Unless she was using him from jump some if these guys get a chance than they start getting the oneitis fukking theirselves up by being a chump. That's what a nice guy is you not going to be able to switch the definition in a dating sense up by yourself. That's a bad comparison Witt he far chicks cause most dudes will tell you that not no she was "too emotional" I don't know who you hanging with if dudes are doing such.

 

[FTBS]

It isn't extra shyt. That's what a nice guy is a sucker that tries to do extra and then gets heated when the chick swerve his ass. Unless she was using him from jump some if these guys get a chance than they start getting the oneitis fukking theirselves up by being a chump. That's what a nice guy is you not going to be able to switch the definition in a dating sense up by yourself. That's a bad comparison Witt he far chicks cause most dudes will tell you that not no she was "too emotional" I don't know who you hanging with if dudes are doing such.

A chump is a chump, I am not denying that. All I took issue with is adding the "he just wants me because of how I look" and "he's just being nice to get with me" shyt. If you are feeling a guy, you are happy he wants you for how you look. If you a feeling a guy, you are happy he's doing whatever to try to get with you. These are things that apply to all guys. Who doesn't get heated when they get swerved by someone they like? None of that stuff is exclusive to nice guys. That was my point with the "ugly/fat" comment. I wasn't saying that dudes would say that about ugly/fat chicks, my point was that women throwing that extra shyt, that is pretty much applicable to every guy, out there is analogous to a guy saying that. You didn't like him because he was weak, nothing more, nothing less.

 

[philmonroe]

A chump is a chump, I am not denying that. All I took issue with is adding the "he just wants me because of how I look" and "he's just being nice to get with me" shyt. If you are feeling a guy, you are happy he wants you for how you look. If you a feeling a guy, you are happy he's doing whatever to try to get with you. These are things that apply to all guys. Who doesn't get heated when they get swerved by someone they like? None of that stuff is exclusive to nice guys. That was my point with the "ugly/fat" comment. I wasn't saying that dudes would say that about ugly/fat chicks, my point was that women throwing that extra shyt, that is pretty much applicable to every guy, out there is analogous to a guy saying that. You didn't like him because he was weak, nothing more, nothing less.

Some girls feel that way can't pay that no mind esp the first part. No shyt Id want a chick cause of how she look. You thought I was getting with you cause of your personality (at first anyway) negro please. I agree dudes don't want to get swerved but at least online most of the "nice guys" they whine to much on some I took her out and spent 200 dollars she didn't fukk me Wah, wah, type flow. Me and cats i know not tripping of that cause we setting it up for us to have the best chance to win but if we lose we lose not wah, wah, wah. Itll be another one for sure. That's also why you have to look at this stuff as mainly some online stuff.

 

[FTBS]

Some girls feel that way can't pay that no mind esp the first part. No shyt Id want a chick cause of how she look. You thought I was getting with you cause of your personality (at first anyway) negro please. I agree dudes don't want to get swerved but at least online most of the "nice guys" they whine to much on some I took her out and spent 200 dollars she didn't fukk me Wah, wah, type flow. Me and cats i know not tripping of that cause we setting it up for us to have the best chance to win but if we lose we lose not wah, wah, wah. Itll be another one for sure. That's also why you have to look at this stuff as mainly some online stuff.

Bitter men, and women for that matter, hinder the discourse. Dishonest and oblivious men/women don't add much to it either. Nobody wants to look at themselves and keep it real.

 

[philmonroe]

Bitter men, and women for that matter, hinder the discourse. Dishonest and oblivious men/women don't add much to it either. Nobody wants to look at themselves and keep it real.

This is the problem with people in general they shyt don't stink and people in their circle don't keep it real with them.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

I hear this phrase all the time; however, before self-reflecting on the realm of possibilities which may explain this conundrum, I conducted my own little experiment. I went out with a so-called 'nice' guy. My family and friends kept telling me that I was extremely picky and here was a 'nice' guy that was interested in me but I was turning him down for no reason apparently. So against my better judgement, I decided to give this 'nice' guy a chance.

We went out for dinner and I listened to him talk exuberantly about his own interests. I could tell he was very much attracted to me. Taking every opportunity to put his body in close proximity with mine. And he would stare at me like a hungry mad man on death row, about to eat his last supper. I felt uncomfortable but decided to give him a chance. Although I usually enjoy talking, that evening I sat silently and remained in observation mode. He kept talking and talking, and talking. I looked at the time and it appeared to have been moving every millennia; boredom quickly began to seep in as I struggled to keep any interest of mine afloat.

You're probably reading this and thinking that I was being a stuck up [beep]. Perhaps you're right but hear me out before you make your judgement. You see, I get turned off by men who appear to like me even when I sit there like a mute -- with nothing to offer but my beauty. There's no intellectual discussion, he hasn't gotten to know me beyond my exterior layer. A date is where you peel back layers instead of admiring the outer layer. It's the sweet soft part that's all within us; the part anyone rarely gets to see, which should be the main course of discussion!

That's the problem, you see. Liking the exterior before you've even touched upon what's on the inside. A so-called 'nice' guy gets excited over the packaging and his enthusiasm is revolting. He'll tell you he loves you without even tasting you. He'll call you every day and declare his love before even knowing your ingredients. He'll like you albeit you've said very few words to him.

His love for you is an illusion. And the sad part is, he doesn't even know it.

For that reason, I don't go for the 'nice' guy per se. I go for the guy I find mentally stimulating, not the one who tells me I mean the world to him, when he doesn't even know what my inner world contains.

/End rant.

So nice guys are the only ones who judge by appearance before getting to know someone?

So guys that aren't nice are all legitimately interested in what you have to say?

This isn't all just mental gymnastics that you're using in order to justify not liking those guys and going for this type of guy?

Now I don't blame you for not being attracted to him, but let's keep it 100, you don't like him because he's insecure, displays nervousness, and probably ins't too physically attractive. It isn't some deeper level issue about him valuing more than your looks, but you don't want to look shallow so you make it about this.

 

[Scotch Hall]

I wouldn't be surprised if this never even happened and op was 300+ ibs and on a remote dessert island

 

[Blackking]

Being nice isn't the issue. You've missed the point!

no i didn't... he shouldn't have done that...

but still, apparently he's the type of nikka that's not gonna take too much BS.

most women want a man who will stand up regardless , not simp, and not take whatever she dishes out.

 

[FreddyCalhoun]

I hear this phrase all the time; however, before self-reflecting on the realm of possibilities which may explain this conundrum, I conducted my own little experiment. I went out with a so-called 'nice' guy. My family and friends kept telling me that I was extremely picky and here was a 'nice' guy that was interested in me but I was turning him down for no reason apparently. So against my better judgement, I decided to give this 'nice' guy a chance.

We went out for dinner and I listened to him talk exuberantly about his own interests. I could tell he was very much attracted to me. Taking every opportunity to put his body in close proximity with mine. And he would stare at me like a hungry mad man on death row, about to eat his last supper. I felt uncomfortable but decided to give him a chance. Although I usually enjoy talking, that evening I sat silently and remained in observation mode. He kept talking and talking, and talking. I looked at the time and it appeared to have been moving every millennia; boredom quickly began to seep in as I struggled to keep any interest of mine afloat.

You're probably reading this and thinking that I was being a stuck up [beep]. Perhaps you're right but hear me out before you make your judgement. You see, I get turned off by men who appear to like me even when I sit there like a mute -- with nothing to offer but my beauty. There's no intellectual discussion, he hasn't gotten to know me beyond my exterior layer. A date is where you peel back layers instead of admiring the outer layer. It's the sweet soft part that's all within us; the part anyone rarely gets to see, which should be the main course of discussion!

That's the problem, you see. Liking the exterior before you've even touched upon what's on the inside. A so-called 'nice' guy gets excited over the packaging and his enthusiasm is revolting. He'll tell you he loves you without even tasting you. He'll call you every day and declare his love before even knowing your ingredients. He'll like you albeit you've said very few words to him.

His love for you is an illusion. And the sad part is, he doesn't even know it.

For that reason, I don't go for the 'nice' guy per se. I go for the guy I find mentally stimulating, not the one who tells me I mean the world to him, when he doesn't even know what my inner world contains.

/End rant.

See, that the main issue with these nice guy post ...and I say it every time...


THESE DUDES AREN'T NICE... They would partake in the same amount of dirt baggery as the average nikka, if they could. They just use a different methods to try and to trick broads into smashing. Any dude that talks about himself that long without a responds is just as self absorbed as the dude you let skeet in your face....and smiled afterwards.





...You know you smiled too

 

[AAKing23]

That's a perfect example.

I'm David Alan Grier though

Me too breh

 

[KOOL-AID]

Private message a girl begging for interaction, rep a girl and leave sentimental messages in her comment section, but in threads try to diss her. That's Kool-Aid's mentality. How old are you? 15 years old or something? GTFOH. And stop fcuking messaging me with 'hi'. If I didn't reply back the first time, what makes you think the third or eleventh time will make a difference? Take that seat yourself you bloody lunatic.

:pacgiggle: aww dnt be like dat I was trynna be a "nice" guy but ur cold hearted and mean. Also what u call a diss I call constructive criticism