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I can't speak for them, but y'all should know how I post by now.
And as far as "dealing with men like me", it could always be worse. (Ex. The Middle East)
Why has women's happiness plummeted since the 70s?
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And as far as "dealing with men like me", it could always be worse. (Ex. The Middle East)
This.
cyndaquil
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Not enough tot.
HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
Dapped bc i agree with the sentiment, just not the exact wording.
I think people generally can do whatever they need to do in times of need (except that which is physically impossible, and sometimes, we can even do that, ie, lifting a car off a baby). But it does wear you down over time.
My own mother, now 67, has worn all the hats. She was an 18 yo blushing bride, a working wife in the 70's, a single mom, a stock broker, and a kept woman. The periods she looks back on most fondly are the early days with my father, before he became jealous of her (mainly social but also professional) successes, and her time with her 'friend' (who encouraged her in all ventures, incl my educational path).
She did the working woman thing (and "led" the household) bc she had to in order to survive, but she didn't enjoy the constant racism and sexual harassment. There was also another element that she didn't have the language to describe at the time bc it was so foreign to her southern sensibilities, but there was a culture of wenching as well.
The strain and stress of leadership did change her, hardened her, to the point that she often compares me to her own mother, a woman i never met, instead of herself. Sorry so long, i think about this a lot.
Exactly
It stems from a lot of shyt... I can only speak on black cause that’s all I know
1.. The Drug trade in the black communities in the 80s started tearing homes apart , so many black women not only had to be home keepers, but they had to joined the workforce in high numbers
2. When it comes to relationships, it’s because of their own decisions period.. THEY KNOW DIRTY DIK EDDIE ISNT A RESPONSIBLE MAN, BUT THEY BELIEVE THEY CAN CHANGE A MAN....WRONG!!!! THATS WHY THE NUMBERS ARE SO HIGH IN TERMS OF WOMEN NOT MARRIED AND WILL NEVER GET MARRIED IN OUR COMMUNITIES...
and it’s a trait that continues since the 80s.. instead of getting a man who is responsible, honest, faithful and hardworking already, they prefer the long route of hoping they can change gangbanging tec into they want like a child
3. Many sisters realized that it don’t look good for them in the dating scene because right now there’s like 1 real decent black man who has his shyt together to about 5 eligible sisters...
hell in many places like DMV or Atlanta and other majority black places that number could be 1 black man to 10 different women and if u a black man with his shyt together and u have 10 different options when it comes to the women are many brothers really settling down with 1 sister? Especially if she has a bad attitude, controlling behavior and lack affection to u? No... brother is going to the next chick who is a better option
THIS IS WHY SO MANY ARE MAD
1.. The Drug trade in the black communities in the 80s started tearing homes apart , so many black women not only had to be home keepers, but they had to joined the workforce in high numbers
2. When it comes to relationships, it’s because of their own decisions period.. THEY KNOW DIRTY DIK EDDIE ISNT A RESPONSIBLE MAN, BUT THEY BELIEVE THEY CAN CHANGE A MAN....WRONG!!!! THATS WHY THE NUMBERS ARE SO HIGH IN TERMS OF WOMEN NOT MARRIED AND WILL NEVER GET MARRIED IN OUR COMMUNITIES...
and it’s a trait that continues since the 80s.. instead of getting a man who is responsible, honest, faithful and hardworking already, they prefer the long route of hoping they can change gangbanging tec into they want like a child
3. Many sisters realized that it don’t look good for them in the dating scene because right now there’s like 1 real decent black man who has his shyt together to about 5 eligible sisters...
hell in many places like DMV or Atlanta and other majority black places that number could be 1 black man to 10 different women and if u a black man with his shyt together and u have 10 different options when it comes to the women are many brothers really settling down with 1 sister? Especially if she has a bad attitude, controlling behavior and lack affection to u? No... brother is going to the next chick who is a better option
THIS IS WHY SO MANY ARE MAD
Breh. Damn near every poster period is unhappy. Have you ever really looked at the unjustified anger the coli shows under pretty much every topic that pops up?Every woman posting is this thread is unhappy
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Uppin' to read through it and hopefully get some fresh female perspectives on the question (there's at least like 5 of them on this forum, right?)