Sadly, feminism has given busted, unattractive women the belief that their opinions on men & relationships actually matter.
"Why I Do Not Want to Split Rent or Mortgage With My Man"
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Sadly, feminism has given busted, unattractive women the belief that their opinions on men & relationships actually matter.
Hell I feel the same way...and IM A WOMAN. The average starting income for graduates from my program for the last 12 years has been $75,000 +grants and royalties from publications. And that is before tenure. My professors are all in the six figure category and the bulk of them are under 45 and increasing female.
As women slowly move into positions former held solely by men I think prenups will become more popular. It's not gonna take a lot of Mary J Bliges
Capitalism reduces women's roles to monetary.
If u we go there, then invisible woman's work needs to be properly quantified.
Add personal chef
Also add nanny
Life coach
Escort
Laundress
My dad lost his job and my mom went to work to help. By the 3rd month, He was SCRAMBLING to find something b/c he didn't realize what my mom truly did on a daily basis. And that was before I was born so they only had ONE child.
I always used to ask him why he never had a problem sharing responsibilities and decisions with my mother b/c a lot of other men think a woman being a housewife = domestic slave.
He said that's because franking and honestly ur mother does more. I remember my father legit having this conversation with me. He told me to NEVER put up with a man who makes excuses about providing for you b/c you will be providing for him even if he too dumb to appreciate it.
He told me If somebody trying to harm us, He is there. Need money for school clothes. He's there. But on a daily basis, my mother did 4x as much as he did.
He said he would NEVER have I admitted to that before but having daughters kept him b/c he didn't want men trying to take advantage of us. He said the man is not up prepping lunches or making sure breakfast is fixed or keeping up with permission slips or making sure children's medication is filled. And any man who says he gon do that shyt to get out of providing is lying b/c men ain't tryin to be bothered by shyt like that.
And I agree with him. I've dated a LOT of guys and seen the honest truth of what he is saying across cultures.
And it's also like this in most families even IF the woman is working. The only difference is she has to do all the unappreciated shyt PLUS hold a job while the man still wants to act like he runs stuff.
And then men will wonder why women ain't in the mood. Lmao!
But regardless I think men and women have very unrealistic expectations about this stuff. I don't knock different family styles but I know what works personally for me.
And as much as I do in a relationship I won't tolerate a dude not providing.
That's how u get chicks outchea doing everything, damn near about to commit suicide being single even tho they living with a whole dude.
Another dumb thing she said was that she could be single if she wants the stress of paying bills. Then she says she is single and doesn’t have the stress?
So if you don’t have the stress that comes with paying bills as a single women, then why would you have stress splitting mortgage with a man?
This women is just kind of bad at writing in general.
So if you don’t have the stress that comes with paying bills as a single women, then why would you have stress splitting mortgage with a man?
This women is just kind of bad at writing in general.
thanks homie
here's a video of her on youtube... NOW I SKIPPED THROUGH OUT THE VIDEO AND THE PART I PICKED UP IN THIS VIDEO, IS WHERE SHE SAID IF SHE HAD KIDS SHE WOULD LIKE FOR THE KIDS TO GIVE HER FATHERS DAY CARDS ... SHE SAID GROWING UP AND TILL THIS DAY SHE GIVES HER MOM FATHER'S DAY CARDS..
I say we include all of them.
Traditional women’s roles were simply unpaid labor attributed to women; find the value of all of it and monet
Both adults should be relatively adept at cooking and cleaning. I don’t know about “life coach” because that simply doesn’t happen in the vast majority of relationships and “escort” because both parties should be having a mutually enjoyable activity, if not, that’s a personal issue.
My parents share bills, and they share housework.
Same was true for my maternal grandparents; both had careers, both chose when the other cooked, chores, child-rearing, etc.
Sorry brehs gotta be dumb as hell to pay all the bills.
This is why you end up paying vaginamony when it ends because judge I never paid the bills it was always his responsibility.
Nikkaz paying all their salary for a cushy 1bdrm plus dent waterfront condo when they were fine before with that 1bdrm apt with the old heater overlooking a 24 hour cash advance place
I understand if I make 100k and you make 30k I don't expect it to be half/half but if I make 60 and you make 60 you gone pay
This is why you end up paying vaginamony when it ends because judge I never paid the bills it was always his responsibility.
Nikkaz paying all their salary for a cushy 1bdrm plus dent waterfront condo when they were fine before with that 1bdrm apt with the old heater overlooking a 24 hour cash advance place
I understand if I make 100k and you make 30k I don't expect it to be half/half but if I make 60 and you make 60 you gone pay
I think that model works too. But what too many men and women want is NOT to be reasonable but to live off someone.I say we include all of them.
Traditional women’s roles were simply unpaid labor attributed to women; find the value of all of it and monet
Both adults should be relatively adept at cooking and cleaning. I don’t know about “life coach” because that simply doesn’t happen in the vast majority of relationships and “escort” because both parties should be having a mutually enjoyable activity, if not, that’s a personal issue.
My parents share bills, and they share housework.
Same was true for my maternal grandparents; both had careers, both chose when the other cooked, chores, child-rearing, etc.
If u legitimately know somebody is contributing in other ways to the relationship then don't complain about the financial part.
If they honestly aren't then they are worthless as human beings and dead weight.
Part of the reason why I rejected three marriage proposals in my past was b/c I wasn't READY to be a housewife in the way I understand it. I'm an all or nothing person, to the detriment of my own well-being as a female in some cases. I KNEW I wasn't ready. We say men aren't ready for it but a lot of women I know aren't ready either.
Its called having your cake and eating it too. Feminists are the queens of this
Reno89
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When I was younger, I would have told her to get the f*** out of my face. But now that I'm much older, I think about this a little bit differently. I Actually don't mind paying all the bills and expenses in the house when I'm living with a chick that's working and making her own money. However, she would have to bring me her check every week.
That way, we can invest and stack paper together. I'm paying all the bills, but I'm also stacking paper at a rate that I wouldn't have been able to stack alone.
She's going to be giving me her check every week, but she will also be stacking paper at a rate that she would not be able to Stack alone. I will also be paying for all the dates, and all the trips that we go on.
I feel like such a format is incentive for both men and women to get into relationships.
That way, we can invest and stack paper together. I'm paying all the bills, but I'm also stacking paper at a rate that I wouldn't have been able to stack alone.
She's going to be giving me her check every week, but she will also be stacking paper at a rate that she would not be able to Stack alone. I will also be paying for all the dates, and all the trips that we go on.
I feel like such a format is incentive for both men and women to get into relationships.
nikka where is that pic of draya fromtraditional roles....only when it relates to bills
She posted it during her IG stories
sexy ass attention whore smh
gonna need you to get that body count down.
Marc Spector
the 4'11 Cuban
not going to read the whole thread but so much of this sentiment is based on the idea of "shacking up with a financially shaky man who doesnt have a real plan on attaining financial comfort... yet still expects his woman to be a traditional woman (keeping the house together, giving sex on the reg, being subservient) AND provide rent money"
All the couples who shack up I know are in the same income bracket/financial situation and COULD be paying rent by themselves, but prefer to do it with one another.
While I am sure there are men who meet this criteria, it doesnt feel like its a common situation (Black) women get into. Meaning it sounds like a pointless argument.
This is one of the few times Ill agree with theColi in that this feels like a Black Man hit piece in that the between the lines context is: "Black women who make more than Black men shouldn't be an under appreciated safety net for these broke nikkas".
The real question is: brehettes of theColi, is this common in yalls dating circles? Men who make less or equal to you and want you to move in, presumably as a rent partner moreso than a significant other?
All the couples who shack up I know are in the same income bracket/financial situation and COULD be paying rent by themselves, but prefer to do it with one another.
While I am sure there are men who meet this criteria, it doesnt feel like its a common situation (Black) women get into. Meaning it sounds like a pointless argument.
This is one of the few times Ill agree with theColi in that this feels like a Black Man hit piece in that the between the lines context is: "Black women who make more than Black men shouldn't be an under appreciated safety net for these broke nikkas".
The real question is: brehettes of theColi, is this common in yalls dating circles? Men who make less or equal to you and want you to move in, presumably as a rent partner moreso than a significant other?
Rick Fox at UNC
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The one on the right.
Y'all can take relationship advice from her if you want.