"Why I Do Not Want to Split Rent or Mortgage With My Man"

[Rick Fox at UNC]

LMAO

 

[Marc Spector]

Tell me about it...

I feel like I’m a counselor everyday trying to pick my girls up crying about their money problems. And it’s difficult for me to respect their men, if they have to call me for gas money!

My friend can’t even go get her hair done, without her baby father making her feel bad. And she works two jobs! And of course... splits the mortgage.

But like I said. None of them have truly expressed to their baby daddy’s & husbands how disappointed they are in them. These men have no idea how unhappy their women are, and how much they cheat and desire someone else.
So it’s hard for me to feel bad. Women have to do better about Communicating their needs. But after reading this thread, I see why they don’t. Their going to be accused of being a lazy gold digger.

Nevertheless, this low emotional intelligence of you men have got to stop. Most of y’all are young, so let me help you learn something early...

Just like the idea that women are supposed to be virtuous & feminine isn’t going anywhere, and that will always be men’s preference. Ultimate desire.

Neither is the idea that a man is to be a provider! I don’t care how much the times/money has changed. fukk your excuses. Work harder.


And, If you have a woman who suddenly stops wanting to have sex with you, and is healthy.
SHE RESENTS YOUR ASS FOR SOMETHING!

If she has you there, her “man”, and she still has to work like a dog a multiple jobs, or one job she hates... there is no point in you being there. I’m sure her family & friends feel that way too! Especially when she has to call them for financial help because you’re broke, or stingy or make her feel like crap anytime she ask for anything!


You are there JUST so she can say she has a man. So she doesn’t look like there is something wrong with her, because Society puts pressure on women to have a man.

I swear to god i fukkin hate people

Its 2017.

What the fukk do you people expect?

You do know the economy is in shambles? the lower/middle class is dying, faster than ever? High paying blue collar jobs (which is the highest level of qualification most Americans can work) are GONE. Only available in small numbers.

Its laughable. The sheer ignorance of buying into the idea that somehow a generation of men just woke up one day and decided they weren't going to be shyt. No motherfukkers, we got screwed. By our politicians. By the Oligarchs.

This antiquated idea that men SOLELY are somehow going to be making a comfortable cost of living for a family (which is about 100k after taxes in 2017 dollars)...and wifey just is going to play domestic goddess is ludicrous. Nowadays it takes special, above average, individuals who tend to be born into AT LEAST upper middle class to gain that lifestyle. Thats how far gone we are.

shyt is beyond frustrating. Because the second it finally hits home that wealth inequality is so big that its eradicated traditional gender roles? People will finally start doing shyt to fight it.

But people, like your friends, are ignorant fukks so its not going to happen.

 

[Crispy]

if you can't pay all the bills on your own. i mean mortgage ,food ,lights car notes. i mean all the bills

you can't afford a wife

if you can't survive comfortably on half your income i.e. pay all your bills with only half your check

you can't afford a wife and kids

its really that simple

honestly it really is that simple

wives and children are not for broke men

i can tell a lot of yall is young

because when you get older you will see dudes fucc up there life by taking on the expense of wife and kids

but not have the money to pay for it

a successful marriage is a lot of hard work

struggling to pay your bills ain't going to make it any easier

here is the roadmap

education - solid career - home ownership - marriage - children

your just asking to get fucced off doing it out of order

 

[Grand Conde]

Please someone explain to her the difference between the words 'principal' and 'principle'.

 

[mag357]

Ima be real....im a man and i feel the exact way she does.
Think about it... women are taking Ls.
You fukking some nikka, but u gotta get ur ass up every morning and go to work like a man. And ur expected to do most of the cooking and cleaning, take care of urself, and taking care of kids too?
As a man, im gonna have my own shyt before i even think about having a real relationship or starting a fam. Her purpose is to help me by doing the shyt she already is naturally accustomed to doing.
You and ur girl out here working. Yarl both coming home tired and frustrated. Having to order take out and shyt. If u got a woman paying half of everything, then this is ur fukking roommate... not ur woman. And even if u don't see it like that...One day, when her ass is really tired and exhausted...That idea is gonna get into her head, cause its FACTS

 

[TheBlackSun]

Assimilation.

If you think black women want to be white women, and you (and other hateful black men) can’t see that black women are just trying to be what they are told is desirable and correct, because most of a woman’s worth is based on her appearance.... then you don’t understand black women at all. Nor do you empathize with their plight.

While colorism, and other issues from the fallout of white systematic supremacy affect black women, what are black women doing to challenge these things? What's desirable is subjective. What is currently desirable are big lips, fat asses and big breast; things which are largely attributed to black women. I empathize with black women in this respect, but I don't when they go to lengths to try and justify trying to alter themselves to look more white.

Natural haired black Women are hired less in offices, and are treated differently in the work place.

They are even treated differently, and approached less by black men(Fact)

Our natural hair is also seen as unprofessional.

I actually heard a black man say... “just because your hair grows that way, doesn’t mean you should wear it that way...” -a black man that hates weave

So y’all like pure natural hair, so long as it’s long and straight with silky edges? Even though our hair (and your hair. Which y’all also don’t wear. You cut it all off.) doesn’t grow that way?

Natural haired black Women are hired less in offices, and are treated differently in the work place.

They are even treated differently, and approached less by black men"- Where's the actual proof of this? Before transitioning to being self employed, I saw many a black women in the workplace with natural hair. There's more black women employed in corporate america than black men, so then how many of them have natural hair?

"
I actually heard a black man say... “just because your hair grows that way, doesn’t mean you should wear it that way...” -a black man that hates weave

So y’all like pure natural hair, so long as it’s long and straight with silky edges? Even though our hair (and your hair. Which y’all also don’t wear. You cut it all off.) "

But you can’t understand why black Women wear weave, and change their hair color?

It’s okay tho...Lets make a deal. We can all go natural.(black Women)


But can black American men hire us for a job at a company they own free of work place discrimination?

Can they provide us with a safe environment to avoid that kind of discrimination?

Of course not.

First off, that's purely anecdotal evidence at best. Second, if ya'll are so proud, and confident, then why do ya'll stop listening to what ignorant nikkas say about ya'll?

But if going by the facts, black women are more employed than black men, and are typically seated in higher positions of corporate spaces than black men. Black women also are apparently the most educated group in America. Second there is a solution to this, either become a business owner, or become self employed.

But can black American men hire us for a job at a company they own free of work place discrimination?

Can they provide us with a safe environment to avoid that kind of discrimination?

Of course not.


Black American men don’t own or run anything. (But their mouths about what black women need to do)

nikkas Can’t protect or provide black women in any kind of way. But you expect us to care about what you think about our hair?

But let ya'll tell it, ya'll are all independent, and can do bad by yourselves; even so much so, that ya'll even attempt to raise kids all on your own.

Black women don't run anything either( except their mouths about what black men need to do) - this goes both ways.



"But can black American men hire us for a job at a company they own free of work place discrimination?"

Can they provide us with a safe environment to avoid that kind of discrimination?"- I thought that's what ya'll had your precious white daddy, and the government for?
Like I said before, if black women want a safe environment, then they should start their own businesses, or become self employed. Hell black men are doing it, and our net worth is higher than black women's as well. That's the only way to escape the alienation, and the discrimination that ya'll face in the workplace. But hey, keep going to go get those "degree's."

 

[TheBlackSun]

Mention bills or responsibilities, and watch black men get defensive and uncomfortable as hell.

And this is something exclusive to black American men. I’ve never seen men of other races, on other forums do this COLLECTIVELY.
A few bitter nut balls here and there, but as a collective... no. And the few who do are quickly called out.

Why? they see themselves as providers.

Actually it's not exclusive to black men. You should go look up the men's rights, and the mgtow movements. Dudes in those movements are majority white, and complain and raise hell about female entitlement, and shyt like this all the time. The problem with this woman, yourself, and a large majority of other black women is that they want the look and feel of a relationship without giving anything in return. Unless I have kids with a woman, she's not going to sit up and live off my dime, and she'd better have something useful to bring to the table other than p*ssy. I have no problem paying most of the bills if I make more than my wife, or IF she's staying home and taking care of the kids. Not a problem. But if she's working, than her ass is going to help pay some of the bills, and her own car note. The 1950's are over, and men today have far more to lose to a broke bytch who just want's to sit up on her ass, and bring nothing to the table. So men in general have every right to get defensive, and uncomfortable as well; especially since it's our asses who stand to lose the most.

And as far as providers goes, isn't that what your white daddy, and the government are for? Majority of black women won't even submit to a man, and allow him to the head of the household.

 

[kevm3]

It's just hilarious to me how cooking, cleaning and the such are considered as some kind of slaving when women do it, but if a man was a stay at home dude who only had to cook three meals and keep the house clean while the woman was at work all day and paying all the bills, he'd be considered some kind of leech or loser who is lazy and "isn't a real man".

 

[Soundbwoy]

Ive been living on my own now for almost 10 years, I never had a late bill or problems getting shyt paid. I taught women how to cook, I have no problem keeping my spot clean it not a chore for me. If I decide to live with a women I dont see why Im a bad guy for asking her to pool her share of her money so we can get shyt done whether its investing or going on trips I have a chick im currently seeing in her feeling because I'm going to Morroco at the end of the month talking about I should take her with me but she don't have vacation money

 

[southern.girl]

here is the roadmap

education - solid career - home ownership - marriage - children

your just asking to get fucced off doing it out of order

This right here is the elephant that people refuse to acknowledge.

 

[MaxPain]

This thread is exposing the broke selfish entitled bytches.



Also, Tay Jordan is old and ugly as hell. So idk who shes making demands for

 

[Sleepy Walker]

I can respect what she's saying as long as she's realizes she'll have no right or claim to our marriage home. She has no problem splitting bills she just wants her mate to pay the rent/house note.

I have no problem paying the mortgage or rent and her paying the utilities because the utilities someone's can be equal to or more than the mortgage depending on square footage and location.

 

[SadimirPutin]

anytime you bring up a zodiac sign for why you dont want to do something I know you are a fukking idiot

 

[Kane1]

if you can't pay all the bills on your own. i mean mortgage ,food ,lights car notes. i mean all the bills

you can't afford a wife

if you can't survive comfortably on half your income i.e. pay all your bills with only half your check

you can't afford a wife and kids

its really that simple

honestly it really is that simple

wives and children are not for broke men

i can tell a lot of yall is young

because when you get older you will see dudes fucc up there life by taking on the expense of wife and kids

but not have the money to pay for it

a successful marriage is a lot of hard work

struggling to pay your bills ain't going to make it any easier

here is the roadmap

education - solid career - home ownership - marriage - children

your just asking to get fucced off doing it out of order

100% FACTS

 

[Kane1]

Ive been living on my own now for almost 10 years, I never had a late bill or problems getting shyt paid. I taught women how to cook, I have no problem keeping my spot clean it not a chore for me. If I decide to live with a women I dont see why Im a bad guy for asking her to pool her share of her money so we can get shyt done whether its investing or going on trips I have a chick im currently seeing in her feeling because I'm going to Morroco at the end of the month talking about I should take her with me but she don't have vacation money

If you ain't got no vacation money....then you ain't got no VACATION babe


Simple too me