Why Introverts Are Prone to Sadness and Ruin

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ThaRealness said:
Real talk, Ive come to realize the only way Ill be happy, is if I pursue my passions and find a community where I can thrive.
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When i was younger all the way up through my 20's, I'm 34 now, I had friends that just liked to go to the bar or club but I look back now and realize this was their entire life. But they were extroverts who acted like they were having these amazing lives. A few ago i finally picked up photography, and just started it doing for myself. Never been happier. I've began to do actual shyt and not "clubbin". shyt is way more fulfilling. I would have never thought I'd be a ringside photographer for an indy wrestling fed and other things.

My biggest regret right now is that I wasted alot of time just doing what my friends wanted to do all the time. And what's weird is that knowing how to properly recharge and manage around extroverts, i do way more shyt now than before. I really wish somebody would have sat me down back in like the 5th grade and explained this.
 
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I'm an introvert. INTP on the meyers briggs test.

Worst part for me is that people don't understand what it means to be introverted.

Because I'm not in people's faces being loud they assume I'm sad, mean or standoffish. It's especially bad since I moved to the south because people are so extra with formalities down here. I'm not shy, I have no problem talking in front of people. I have no problem being the leader or managing people. I'm just not an extrovert.

It hurts me sometimes at my current job too because my bosses think that being loud and creating "energy" is effective management and I'm not about all of that. Being an introvert and managing a team full of extroverts, in an extrovert environment is...interesting.

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a lot of powerful and famous "extroverts" are really genius introverts who broke human behavior and interaction down to a science

the vast majority of people are predictable and easy to manipulate

they might as well be hosts in westworld
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I've always had an issue with this. Whenever I read/watch stuff on things like networking and communicating with people, a lot of it seems manipulative. So I believe it.
 
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CharlieManson said:
I am not saying introverts can't be happier...nor am I saying it is a shytty a way to live. I am saying the world as it is...is picture perfect for an extrovert and kinda shytty for an introvert.

I am saying introversion is not valued in society like extroversion is.

How common is self-directed learning, self-given performance evaluations and grades?

How common is worker-managed places of employment?

Our world is governed by external motivations. Someone gives you a homework assignment. Somebody gives you a work project. You are always working to please someone else or satisfy someone else's criteria of success under the threat of punishment from an external factor.

An introvert is internally motivated and first and foremost is independently driven. We don't need to be handheld and have a carrot on a stick to walk us through life. We want to be able to go do what we wanna do.

A lot of times we don't even have a chance to figure out what we would actually like to do since we spend so satisfying the criteria of other people.

Extroverts wants something to manipulate outside of themselves, they find excitement and fulfillment going out there and reaching goals and attaining status by satisfying external motivations and introverts don't care for that.

For an introvert...we might get achieve goals and attain status on the way to our evolution in our character.


The more talented of us, find places of employment and lifestyles that fits an introvert more. Take those in art and science and sports. People like Kobe, Kanye West (what happens when an introvert just loses his fukking mind to his ego), and Prince (the eccentric introvert). Or Stephen Hawkings. Or Warren Buffet. Or Barack Obama

Or the countless of other non-famous introverts in fields.

Like I said in the OP, a prime example of an introvert is Kobe Bryant. I am pretty sure Kobe Bryant is happy with his life. All he wanted to do is be very good at basketball. All he wanted to do is fukk around with a basketball. Basketball was a way to become who he is. It was self-discovery. Basketball wasn't about..."Yeah, I'ma become rich and famous off this shyt and buy million dollar cars..."

How many of us introverts have that opportunity as normal people? Like I am sure a lot of us...play a video game or some shyt that gives us that feeling. Like all those people that play League and shyt 24/7 because that's the only way they can feel fulfilled as human beings is living vicariously through a virtual character. And then we get roasted for it.
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Is their articles that explain this in-depth?
 
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CharlieManson said:
You don't understand with introversion is.

I am not talking about communicating with people...I am talking about internal motivation vs. external motivation...why you keep bringing up people and being a hermit...

That's not introversion...that's just being a hermit. Introverts are not anti-social. Introverts are not anti-people.

Introversion really has nothing to do with avoiding people or communicating with people. It's not shyness or social awkwardness.

It's about people you are independently motivated to act, and people who are dependently motivated to act.

Lol who the fukk besides a hermit truly wants to sit around all day, talking to people on the internet. Or be locked in a room playing a videogame. Or work from home. Or be inside reading a book while the rest of the world is spinning.

Introverts want to be around people...introverts have no problem with communicating with people in person, introverts have no problem with being around people. Introverts have no problem going outside.

Introverts and Extroverts have no differences in interacting with people.

Introverts adopt solitary behaviors as a coping mechanism to deal with external motivation. Through solitary activities, you control the outcome, you control the definition of success...you get to lead yourself. Since the world is very much extroverted. People leading other people. People dictating the success of other people. People setting goals for other people. That is draining for an introvert. Introverts are clinically proven to be more unhappy than extroverts...because of the drain that external motivation has on introverts. Then the drain requires an introvert to recharge by doing self-directed solitary activities.

Brains of introverts and extroverts are very much different. The rewards and punishment we get from interacting with the outside world is different. Introverts actually absorb the outside world faster and with more intensity than extroverts...despite extroverts being the "social butterfly".

Introverts are like cats, extroverts are like dogs...

Dogs have masters, cats don't.

What introverts would like...is a world where they can be in tune with their own motivations... and live their life without requiring the coping mechanisms of solitary behavior to recharge...

But we have an idea that has been permeated throughout our institutions, that people need to be led and manipulated and controlled and handheld through life...
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You need to stop reading all that bullshyt you regurgitating and find out what makes you fulfilled.

You keep talking about internal motivation while whining about how the world is doing this and that to you. You sound confused yourself.
CharlieManson said:
You don't understand with introversion is.

I am not talking about communicating with people...I am talking about internal motivation vs. external motivation...why you keep bringing up people and being a hermit...

That's not introversion...that's just being a hermit. Introverts are not anti-social. Introverts are not anti-people.

Introversion really has nothing to do with avoiding people or communicating with people. It's not shyness or social awkwardness.

It's about people you are independently motivated to act, and people who are dependently motivated to act.

Lol who the fukk besides a hermit truly wants to sit around all day, talking to people on the internet. Or be locked in a room playing a videogame. Or work from home. Or be inside reading a book while the rest of the world is spinning.

Introverts want to be around people...introverts have no problem with communicating with people in person, introverts have no problem with being around people. Introverts have no problem going outside.

Introverts and Extroverts have no differences in interacting with people.

Introverts adopt solitary behaviors as a coping mechanism to deal with external motivation. Through solitary activities, you control the outcome, you control the definition of success...you get to lead yourself. Since the world is very much extroverted. People leading other people. People dictating the success of other people. People setting goals for other people. That is draining for an introvert. Introverts are clinically proven to be more unhappy than extroverts...because of the drain that external motivation has on introverts. Then the drain requires an introvert to recharge by doing self-directed solitary activities.

Brains of introverts and extroverts are very much different. The rewards and punishment we get from interacting with the outside world is different. Introverts actually absorb the outside world faster and with more intensity than extroverts...despite extroverts being the "social butterfly".

Introverts are like cats, extroverts are like dogs...

Dogs have masters, cats don't.

What introverts would like...is a world where they can be in tune with their own motivations... and live their life without requiring the coping mechanisms of solitary behavior to recharge...

But we have an idea that has been permeated throughout our institutions, that people need to be led and manipulated and controlled and handheld through life...
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*plays the world's smallest violin"

Man stop reading whatever you just regurgitated.

Figure out what makes you fulfilled and let go of whatever you just wrote cuz it ain't gonna help you get the life you want.
 
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ice cold perm said:
You need to stop reading all that bullshyt you regurgitating and find out what makes you fulfilled.

You keep talking about internal motivation while whining about how the world is doing this and that to you. You sound confused yourself.


*plays the world's smallest violin"

Man stop reading whatever you just regurgitated.

Figure out what makes you fulfilled and let go of whatever you just wrote cuz it ain't gonna help you get the life you want.
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nikka I am a business owner WTF...

Just accept you don't know what you talking about and you don't know me and move on lmao...

Wasting my time explaining myself to dudes that make assumptions about things they are ignorant about.
 
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CharlieManson said:
nikka I am a business owner WTF...

Just accept you don't know what you talking about and you don't know me and move on lmao...

Wasting my time explaining myself to dudes that make assumptions about things they are ignorant about.
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Like all business owners are fulfilled nikka :mjlol:
 
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It's easy to tell which celebrities are introverts.
Kobe
Michael Jordan
Michael Jackson
Kanye seems to be in introvert with poor social skills
Jay Z

It's ironic that some of the most iconic, famous people were/are introverts. also notice that the most innovative people are introverts. Mental thrill seekers, for lack of a better term.
 
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