Why is dressing modest or expected to when you're in a relationship seen as controllling?

[DatNkkaCutty]

If a chick dresses like a hoe when I meet her, I'm not telling her nothing. Imma just keep piping than drop her for someone who does dress modest.

I might say something once, after that my mind is already searching for what fits me better.

These Dudes, arguing with females. I tell a chick once either she shapes up or I'll drop her it may take 1 month or 2 yrs but she definitely has an expiration date.

One if my current joints, dresses like a hoe, she keep getting tats, long dyed weave I said something once, she ain't change so imma just keep fukkin her till I get tired.

At this point I can't introduce her to coworkers or family. So she she just p*ssy

This a ngga that kno

 

[Malt-O-Meal]

Another thing guys. We need to respect women who dress modestly and treat them well. I don't mean simp. But she is telling you something with her modesty she respects her own form and values it as essential to giving life. Treat it as such. Don't pump and dump these women don't disrespect them because they are showing respect to themselves and while they're with you they respect you as a man by keeping what they offer to you only for you. cherish these women men, honor them as they honor you.

Exactly, really simple. Just go after these types. Leave the others alone and with men who are like them.

 

[StarGirl]

It's funny because the women talking about dressing modestly in here have the worst manners

And guys really don't know what they want

 

[Neuromancer]

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What worked? The relationship I'm in I'm still me. I didn't have to change nor would I. My boyfriend and I share the same beliefs. What are you talking about? If you're trying to throw shade, you need to be clearer.

I'm not. Why are you so defensive? What I'm saying is that if you doing what you've always done is working for you then that's good.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

It's funny because the women talking about dressing modestly in here have the worst manners

And guys really don't know what they want

Shots fired

 

[Ronnie Lott]

Only insecure nikkaz have this problem

 

[Neuromancer]

Exactly, really simple. Just go after these types. Leave the others alone and with men who are like them.

That's all I'm saying. I'm not attracted to the hoe uniform so I'm not looking to date hoes.

 

[Neuromancer]

It's funny because the women talking about dressing modestly in here have the worst manners

And guys really don't know what they want

This isn’t actually true. But cook.

 

[Malt-O-Meal]

Ehhhhh, I agree with the points you're making but people definitely change. There's definitely women who change once they get into a relationship; they might start to feel they need freedom and that freedom means thot wear. Similar to how a guy can change up on you suddenly when you're in a relationship with them. There's no way of making sure without communication, ex. your outfit is doing too much.

True some do change. I'm just saying many were like this before, so steer clear of them. I dress fairly modest and I have yet to wake and decide to wear booty shorts and a midriff. I think most people are like that. Now personalities I feel can change, like fake people pretending to be one way and then overtime letting their true selves show. Anyways, if the scenario you stated happened, then they should end the relationship or bring it up first like "hey you've changed, why are you wearing/acting in such a way". Right?

 

[StarGirl]

This isn’t actually true. But cook.

You're from NYC. You should know better.

 

[wickedsm]

It's funny because the women talking about dressing modestly in here have the worst manners

And guys really don't know what they want

Go ahead and name names

 

[Neuromancer]

Go ahead and name names

Oh shyt.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

 

[At30wecashout]

Exactly, really simple. Just go after these types. Leave the others alone and with men who are like them.

Thats pretty much it. Having fell into situations over time, I think a big problem is not getting to know each other enough, cause otherwise we would have an idea of
certain things about others that can be dealbreakers. On the other hand, we have jobs and other issues to attend to, making that "feeling out" process take months, so
everyone has to unfortunately rush to make decisions or risk missing out.

This is why I would much prefer the "friends before more" approach, but again, being the friend to a lady/man and getting to know them can cost you when someone
who checks just enough boxes comes along and expresses romantic interest right away. World just moves too fukking fast for everyone to window shop for suitable partners.

I hate dating.

 

[Malt-O-Meal]

@BlackPearl I wish I could rep you.

I'm not going to date someone with the expectations of them changing what I found attractive about them. Chicks out here in sweatpants and a bun in their hair sharing every day, B.

Lets be real: A woman showing she exists attracts male attention, so why am I gonna get upset if she can catch their attention? She caught mine. Obviously its nice for her to understand

time and place rules, but outside of that, rock what you want, cause imma wear supras and polos just like how you met me. Loyalty isn't expressed simply through dress. Especially

brehs out here talmbout they want nothing but thick women. Newsflash: curvy women are suggestive in whatever they wear, according to men who can't control their thoughts

and dikks. If you worried about a chick trying to court other men, then stay single, cause men are going to holler, especially if she is fine. You have to trust she is into you enough

that even when she not with you, she thinking only about you.

Overtime you will establish boundaries out of mutual respect, not unilateral lines drawn in the sand.

Exactly!