Why is dressing modest or expected to when you're in a relationship seen as controllling?

[Neuromancer]

stick a y at the end

Ohhh ohhhh

 

[StarGirl]

I guess I'll bite.

I dress the way my boyfriend wants me to dress, which coincidentally is the way I like to dress. Which includes some things that look like that thread made earlier with see-through dresses and bodysuits. I actually have the NF number that Kim was wearing under that dress in the thread.

I think maybe it comes down to who you both are in your individual relationships. I think we're a little unconventional and I like that.

 

[Arithmetic]

im far from being a "traditional" women, but I don't understand why so many women get upset about this. Why would you want to bring attention to yourself from men who are not your boyfriend when you're in a relationship?

To me, a women who dresses provocatively like she's in the club regularly gives off the vibe she's seeking a partner. A women who dresses modest, does not.

This entire generation of women and feminists have no concept of respect or compromise.

No wonder divorce rates are growing and relationships are looked at so cynically. Bunch of child like minded individuals in relationships who think it's cool to act the same as a single people

Dressing modestly out of respect for your man (and yourself) is fine. If you don't want to compromise or tweak something about what you do for your partner (as long as it's healthy) then stay single.

These dumb ass feminists gonna end up 45 single and lonely asking themselves what happened or blaming patriarchy cause of their pride and ego

Recently, I've noticed younger women primarily, are on this whole "if he tells you what to wear you need a new man" tip. It's spreading like wildfire. Their beliefs on the issue is void of any deep understanding. It's inconsiderate and condescending towards the millions of women who cover up because of their cultural/religious beliefs or those who simply prefer to not advertise their body/skin every other day. These feminists and promiscuous women just impose their beliefs on impressionable women who don't know how to think for themselves.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Yes, obviously but this isn't reality in terms of the dating pool. There's an entire generation of women empowering themselves in pro thot feminist trash and spreading it to other women. They pass off their disregard for others feelings and relationship boundaries as "self respect" and not letting men control them.

It's not obvious. Your whole post hinges on changing once you get into a relationship. How is it not reality to date some who dresses how you feel is appropriate?

 

[Black Barbie]

For some reason a lot of people these days just can't understand that in a relationship you have responsibilities to one another and yes, now you have to take the other persons feelings and opinions into account.

There's no reason whatsoever, if you value your relationship that a reasonable request be denied or a reasonable adjustment be made for your partner.

People should understand that their partner will have expectations of them to not continue to carry themselves as single now that you no longer are. (this applies not only to dressing of course but where you go, who you go with and how you conduct yourself overall)

Not having your whole ass hanging out every time you leave the house =very reasonable request/expectation.

In addition to the wacky "you can't slut shame me! stop being oppressive" crazy ass feminists this is also pushed by the lonely bitter bytch brigade "can't no man tell me nothing! he's not my father" and bytches ain't got nam man to speak of and want everyone else to be miserable with them.

I have a friend who's like this, believes that women should dress however they like regardless of the concerns of their s/o. These same women would be so upset if their boyfriend was oogling/flirting with a girl dressed exactly as they were.

 

[Malt-O-Meal]

im far from being a "traditional" women, but I don't understand why so many women get upset about this. Why would you want to bring attention to yourself from men who are not your boyfriend when you're in a relationship?

To me, a women who dresses provocatively like she's in the club regularly gives off the vibe she's seeking a partner. A women who dresses modest, does not.

This entire generation of women and feminists have no concept of respect or compromise.

No wonder divorce rates are growing and relationships are looked at so cynically. Bunch of child like minded individuals in relationships who think it's cool to act the same as a single people

Dressing modestly out of respect for your man (and yourself) is fine. If you don't want to compromise or tweak something about what you do for your partner (as long as it's healthy) then stay single.

These dumb ass feminists gonna end up 45 single and lonely asking themselves what happened or blaming patriarchy cause of their pride and ego

I feel this is male pandering. I don't get this mindframe at all, a thot doesn't become a thot overnight and no one changes overnight. There is a real simple solution, stop trying to "pretty woman" these ladies, you cannot turn a hoe into a housewife, and you're not going to change someone's personality. A woman who dresses provocatively shouldn't even be on your radar if a modest woman is what you want.

You met this chick in thotwear but expect her to all of a sudden change her style for you. How ridiculous. It's plain as day what type of woman she is, one who likes to "flaunt" her goods, so why date her? You like modest woman or a more covered type of lady then date those. They are really easy to find, they are the ones not dressed like thots. But no, you go after the girl with her butt hanging out because you're not thinking with the head with your brain in it.

All men have to do is not date women who aren't conservative. But that's too simple I guess and guys must love drama and headache, so they pair up with a woman who THEY KNOW doesn't share the same values as them and have a fit later. And if these liberal women do happen to complain later in life, who cares? Why do you care? How does this affect your life? If they have to learn the hard way so be it. It has no barring on you.

And the bolded is very dumb. These promiscuous women aren't tricking or forcing men into relationships. So if the man has a problem with what she wears, how about he not deal with her. Women don't usually do the approaching in dating, men do. Men stop approaching these women and stop getting into relationships with them. Easy fix.

 

[NotaPAWG]

Recently, I've noticed younger women primarily, are on this whole "if he tells you what to wear you need a new man" tip. It's spreading like wildfire. Their beliefs on the issue is void of any deep understanding. It's inconsiderate and condescending towards the millions of women who cover up because of their cultural/religious beliefs or those who simply prefer to not advertise their body/skin every other day. Feminists impose their beliefs on impressionable women who don't know how to think for themselves.

As a former feminist with a thot history, I know "daddy issues" is a stereotype attributed to such, but I firmly believe a lot of these women have unresolved issues stemming from their upbringing or fathers and use feminism as a mask instead of seeking therapy

 

[Malt-O-Meal]

The pandering

Wouldn't it make more sense to date someone who already dressed "appropriately" and that didn't need to be told what to wear? I don't date men that wear spandex and booty shorts because that's not what I'm into. Why would I date someone like that and then expect them to change and pretend like I have moral high ground?

You see it too huh? Smh. That's like me getting with a thug and being surprised when he does thug things. Fools out here acting like all women are the same and there aren't modest women everywhere. Apparently Ayesha Curry and all the women who agreed with her tweet on clothing don't exist.

Anyways, all this propaganda is annoying on both ends. On one end you have the free bird, promiscuous, overly sexual advocates shouting down anyone that isn't like them and on the other end is the "I'm better than you because I listen to men", non modest women are whores brigade. They both need to shut up. Both are vying for the same male attention just in different ways, different sides to the same coin.

 

[NotaPAWG]

It's not obvious. Your whole post hinges on changing once you get into a relationship. How is it not reality to date some who dresses how you feel is appropriate?

Because you should change wtf?! I'm not acting or interacting the same way with people or men as I do single.

It's not JUST about dressing appropriately. This is what you're NOT getting. It's about this generations trash feminist filth and inability to respect the basic common unspoken rules of relationships

Edit: no one is saying non modest women are whores stop reaching. But when you get into a relationship your interactions and how you present yourself should be modest out of respect for your partner.

 

[Sauce Dab]

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You see it too huh? Smh. That's like me getting with a thug and being surprised when he does thug things. Fools out here acting like all women are the same and there aren't modest women everywhere. Apparently Ayesha Curry and all the women who agreed with her tweet on clothing don't exist.

Anyways, all this propaganda is annoying on both ends. On one end you have the free bird, promiscuous, overly sexual advocates shouting down anyone that isn't like them and on the other end is the "I'm better than you because I listen to men", non modest women are whores brigade. They both need to shut up. Both are vying for the same male attention just in different ways, different sides to the same coin.

Right I don't know one women in a serious relationship that changed how she dresses once she got into the relationship. She stayed the same b/c the man liked how she dressed when the met her. Seems simple to me.

 

[Malt-O-Meal]

Y'all ladies better be careful believing all this acting like a wife before getting the title nonsense. I've seen plenty of women playing wife for men who are not their husbands only to be used and discarded, leaving them bitter and broken. Just as you have these girls playing games, so do these men. You already know many men out here aren't trying to settle down young or at all. Y'all better vett these men properly and don't let them pull the wool over your eyes, have you out here trying to be wife material, bending to their every whim, and nothing good come from it. Be careful and pay attention.

 

[99 Hunter]

Some men like having their girls show off their assets to the other dudes while they sit back in the cut and admire at the fact that that's their girl and you can't have that.

That's a dangerous way to think, you could end up playing yourself to some other guy gettin yo girl's Cochise.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Because you should change wtf?! I'm not acting or interacting the same way with people or men as I do single.

It's not JUST about dressing appropriately. This is what you're NOT getting. It's about this generations trash feminist filth and inability to respect the basic common unspoken rules of relationships

Edit: no one is saying non modest women are whores stop reaching. But when you get into a relationship your interactions and how you present yourself should be modest out of respect for your partner.

You seem like you're at 7 and you need to be at like a 2.

You're adding words and arguments that I didn't say or make (ie whore) and never answered the question. Please try again.

 

[Neuromancer]

Y'all ladies better be careful believing all this acting like a wife before getting the title nonsense. I've seen plenty of women playing wife for men who are not their husbands only to be used and discarded, leaving them bitter and broken. Just as you have these girls playing games, so do these men. You already know many men out here aren't trying to settle down young or at all. Y'all better vett these men properly and don't let them pull the wool over your eyes, have you out here trying to be wife material, bending to their every whim, and nothing good come from it. Be careful and pay attention.

If this worked for you in your current relationship then I comend you.