Why is having sex early on in a relationship seen as a bad thing?

[Neuromancer]

Last night I was talking to my friend and mentor about his weekend. Women always come up in our convo and he had two women he was talking to and tryna smash. One was his ex who would give it up to him easy and the other was a girl who seemed to be making him wait. He related to me that he had lost his desire for the latter cause shyt was taking to long (mind you he's not HOH, but not a simp either, he don't slut shame ect.) So it got me to thinking about my own relationship. If my girl didn't give it up when she did I would have probably bushed her (mainly cause I was on instabang mode then ) mind you I don't think of her as a hoe cause we were both straight about what we wanted. My question is why are we punishing women who have sex with you when they want to and rewarding those who believe in some stupid 90 day rule?

 

[Pinyapplesuckas]

It depends on the person. I def want it up front, but I can respect a little wait period. My girl tried to do the 3 month thing with me and I went along with it because I knew we wouldnt make it no 3 months of waiting and we maybe made it like a month before we had to attack each other. It really built up a good want for each other, but in other instances it can backfire on either side.

If she really woulda made me go the 3 months maybe we still wouldnt be together almost 2 years later

 

[MsReal]

Your mama told you what good and bad girls do...

 

[KodeBlue]

How she is percieved is more important to her than making you happy. What if men didn't pay for dates, gifts or all that other bullshyt for the first 90 days, and you tell them that you don't want to be looked at as a simp.

 

[Neuromancer]

Your mama told you what good and bad girls do...

My mom admittedly lied to me about women. My dad schooled me on game.

 

[MsReal]

My mom admittedly lied to me about women. My dad schooled me on game.

Well make Daddy proud boy

 

[Neuromancer]

Well make Daddy proud boy

My dad is dead.

 

[KodeBlue]

My dad is dead.

RIP to your pops. You can still make him proud tho.

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

I'm SO IN

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Who has sex with someone before actually knowing them? A ho who doesn't respect themselves

 

[Ashley Banks]

How she is percieved is more important to her than making you happy. What if men didn't pay for dates, gifts or all that other bullshyt for the first 90 days, and you tell them that you don't want to be looked at as a simp.

Yeah because you could "make him happy" then he goes around calling you a hoe and then ruins your chance at getting with another dude because everyone thinks you're a hoe.

Men make shyt extremely hard. You guys want sex but belittle insult and shame womem for doing it then you tell us if we don't do it by a certain time no dude will take us seriously but if we do it too early they won't take us seriously. You guys give women impossible rules to follow. Then get mad when we don't follow them.

 

[Neuromancer]

RIP to your pops. You can still make him proud tho.

Becoming a published author was the first step. I'm sure being HOH is the second.

 

[At30wecashout]

Truth is, in conversations its seen as a bad thing, whereas people give it up at totally different intervals, some faster than others.

Its just shaming, usually for women alone, if someone questions the speed at which you get to it. Truth is, everybody likes sex but most people want to pretend

they don't just so they won't be judged.

However, it doesn't help when there is a line to walk. A girl throws it at me really quickly, I have to wonder:
"Does she do this with all guys she likes?"
or
"She must REALLY like me."

It is a fair question. There are a dozen reasons but this thread might flop so I won't bother typing like mad.

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

I've never seen it as a bad thing. I had sex with every girlfriend I've had pretty quickly. Including my current. Women that tried to make me wait all turned out to be bullshyting.

 

[Neuromancer]

Truth is, in conversations its seen as a bad thing, whereas people give it up at totally different intervals, some faster than others.

Its just shaming, usually for women alone, if someone questions the speed at which you get to it. Truth is, everybody likes sex but most people want to pretend

they don't just so they won't be judged.

However, it doesn't help when there is a line to walk. A girl throws it at me really quickly, I have to wonder:
"Does she do this with all guys she likes?"
or
"She must REALLY like me."

It is a fair question. There are a dozen reasons but this thread might flop so I won't bother typing like mad.

Don't curse my thread b, you and me in the same set.