Why is having sex early on in a relationship seen as a bad thing?

[Ashley Banks]

Maybe you could ask the guy his views on sex during the relationship incubation phase. Every man different. Also, the maturity level of the dudes that you're referring to could be a little low. Sounds like high shyt to me. I've had long happy relationships with women that I've fukked the day I've met them.

100% of guys that want to have sex with you will say what they think you want to hear. They will say the EXACT same thing you just said "the woman I loved the most had sex with me 3 minutes after I met her" lol

Guys are so confusing. Call you worthless for having sex, tell you to respect your body and that no man will take you seriously if you give it up quickly/easily then turn around say that you shouldn't make a man wait, he won't take you seriously and he'll seek sex elsewhere, you should have sex when he's ready to have sex. Then call you hoe.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Oh, didnt realize that. You hard on He-hoes and She-Hoes.

And im glad you said the bolded, and wish more people would understand that about these conversations. When men on the boards say stuff about women, and women

go "Well what about men!" We aren't dating menSo how someone else treated you doesn't matter.

In any case, early sex isn't necessarily indicative of a hoe-in-waiting, but it is the trait of a hoe.

I don't care what the next women does with her vagina but I care what a man I may potentially become involved with is doing with his penis.

I prefer not to date someone that has no problem jumping into bed with anyone just because they have the urge.

This makes perfect sense.

I don't know why you're constantly trying to shade me for being single. It doesn't affect me one bit, lol.

 

[BlackBall]

It's not

 

[wickedsm]

i like to think this is more of a younger people thing.
lack of maturity in general.

 

[Neuromancer]

I don't care what the next women does with her vagina but I care what a man I may potentially become involved with is doing with his penis.

I prefer not to date someone that has no problem jumping into bed with anyone just because they have the urge.



I don't know why you're constantly trying to shade me for being single. It doesn't affect me one bit, lol.

I don't know what shade means. It is funny that something you're not affected by prompted a response.

 

[At30wecashout]

I don't care what the next women does with her vagina but I care what a man I may potentially become involved with is doing with his penis.

I prefer not to date someone that has no problem jumping into bed with anyone just because they have the urge.

Agreed. I've been turned off by some pretty attractive ladies in my time simply because I knew I would "just be another one."

Corny as it sounds, it would be nice to not only be a good sexual partner, but one that only few can marvel over. fukking everybody isn't on my list of to-dos.

This is why to an extent the sexual history matters to me. Im probably gonna be asked about my credit, my friends, etc. She shouldn't lose her marbles if some day

I want some insight to her sexual exploits.

 

[The Mad Titan]

100% of guys that want to have sex with you will say what they think you want to hear. They will say the EXACT same thing you just said "the woman I loved the most had sex with me 3 minutes after I met her" lol

Guys are so confusing. Call you worthless for having sex, tell you to respect your body and that no man will take you seriously if you give it up quickly/easily then turn around say that you shouldn't make a man wait, he won't take you seriously and he'll seek sex elsewhere, you should have sex when he's ready to have sex. Then call you hoe.

lmao you right, but a man that can control his urges is a valuable thing. Its really hard to keep in check sometimes ( no pun intended lol) It really boils down to association and what you surround yourself with as a man though. If yall only understood the feeling it would probably make more sense to yall.


Think of one time that stands out to you when you were the most horny that you have ever been, then multiple it by 2 and imagine waking up like every morning and randomly through out the day. Its like the best worst feeling it also leads to some of the stupidest mistakes a man can make in his life.

 

[Gus Money]

Think about it like this: how many people do you know who are in miserable relationships or dealing with worthless guys/chicks yet they stay because the sex is good? I know several.

Imagine how things would look if people stopped putting so much emphasis on sex, brehs. If people, dudes especially, focused on getting to know someone and valuing people for more than their bodies. Think of all the bummy chicks you've put up with for their looks even though they added nothing to your life.

Everyone loves sex, but it can cause more problems than it solves. Getting to know someone and weeding them out without complicating things with sex could save a lot of headache down the road.

 

[The Mad Titan]

I'm all for waiting, I think if two people can wait its makes it easier for a strong relationship to cultivate. Sex early can dampen that is my only problem with it, its like eating something from the grocery store before paying for it and then deciding that you actually dont want any of the meal after snacking. Where as if you paid for it 1st brought it home, open it up and made a meal out of it, your gonna eat all of it and make the most of it.


I'm pretty terrible at waiting I'm a pretty passionate guy and I only deal with women I legit can see myself with, im not on the casual sex trip like most.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

It's not. The shyt is a myth.

If two people like each other and want to fukk, it should happen. There is almost NOTHING worse than getting into a relationship with a person you aren't sexually compatible with.

Next year im saying Hi to 30, ain't no one got time to be teaching no chicks the fundamentals when we playing for the chip.

 

[KodeBlue]

100% of guys that want to have sex with you will say what they think you want to hear. They will say the EXACT same thing you just said "the woman I loved the most had sex with me 3 minutes after I met her" lol

Guys are so confusing. Call you worthless for having sex, tell you to respect your body and that no man will take you seriously if you give it up quickly/easily then turn around say that you shouldn't make a man wait, he won't take you seriously and he'll seek sex elsewhere, you should have sex when he's ready to have sex. Then call you hoe.

Yep, it's definitely the dudes you've encountered. You may attract a specific type of guy, and don't realize it.

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

Yeah because you could "make him happy" then he goes around calling you a hoe and then ruins your chance at getting with another dude because everyone thinks you're a hoe.

Men make shyt extremely hard. You guys want sex but belittle insult and shame womem for doing it then you tell us if we don't do it by a certain time no dude will take us seriously but if we do it too early they won't take us seriously. You guys give women impossible rules to follow. Then get mad when we don't follow them.

EXACTLY!!

Now, it only becomes a problem if the female is doing that with EVERY guy.

Before I got married, there was this one dude who shamed me BAD for giving it to him early. It was embarrassing, I mean he went on Facebook and all with it. I learned my lesson for the next couple dudes I've dated or had interest in. My husband got it the night of our first date does it make me a hoe? I don't think so. As long as I know I didn't do that with all dudes, it was an OK to me. Husband got it the first night and I still got the ring in the end

 

[KodeBlue]

People are making it more complicated than it has to be. Ladies, you should wait to give up the box. Fellas, you should wait to spend money on a woman. Go Dutch, then at the end of the night, go home. Easy fix.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

I don't know what shade means. It is funny that something you're not affected by prompted a response.

Ok lol

Agreed. I've been turned off by some pretty attractive ladies in my time simply because I knew I would "just be another one."

Corny as it sounds, it would be nice to not only be a good sexual partner, but one that only few can marvel over. fukking everybody isn't on my list of to-dos.

This is why to an extent the sexual history matters to me. Im probably gonna be asked about my credit, my friends, etc. She shouldn't lose her marbles if some day

I want some insight to her sexual exploits.

Exactly and I have no problem talking about my sexual history either.

 

[The Mad Titan]

If everyone actually waited to have sex, and didn't watch a butt load of porn you wouldn't even know what you like sexually or think you like.

Problem solved.


But with 80 percent of people having sex before marriage ( made up fact) and lots of it, of course they are confused, men and women.